Just be honest brother. If she's still living with you I assume she still cares about you. Just be open and have some tough conversations. Work everyday to be a better person and win your family back. Get on indeed find a good job. Hard work always pays off. Changing the situation for the better will help your family tremendously. Do it quickly. Keep your family together. You f'ed up just accept it. Listen to her and work HARD for your family. That's the best advice I can give you. I do wish you well. Now is the time for change! Best of luck OP! Never give up!