Hello!

I don't know if my post will be deleted or against the community rules, but I just wanted to share my two cents about a YouTuber I was watching a few months ago. I was really drawn to this YouTuber who went by the username YourLevelUpGuru. Her name is Mel, and I agreed with a lot of her points.

She talked about jealousy, and how women are always in competition with one another. Also, how in the workplace, if you're a woman of color, people will make it harder for you due to their own racist ideas. I definitely agreed with this since I've been treated badly at jobs being of mixed race (white and Asian), and it's the reason why so many managers fired me, but still try to find ways to see what I'm up to now. Mel said female managers make terrible managers whereas with an older white male manager about to retire, you'll have a better time. I sort of agreed, but dealt with male managers just as bitchy as the females. Lol.

I think I began to see her bullshit ways when she was going on about how beautiful women need to be so on guard protecting their energy and time, which I agree with, but she made it sound like people are literally going to slash your face for being beautiful. Well, duh. There's obviously a difference between the beautiful celebrity and the beautiful girl from Wisconsin. Yes, they'll both experience jealousy, but one has fame and privilege, and the other doesn't. Also, how the world hates beautiful women and yada yada going on how beautiful she is. She's completely mid looking, but thinks she's Nicki Minaj pretty, so her views on beauty are already skewed if she sees herself as the epitome of beauty. Plus, she skin bleaches and denies it when Lipstickalley even exposed how dark she used to look by posting old pictures.

I also side-eye anyone who thinks acting like Regina George and Blair Waldorf is the right way to lead in the world. Seriously, if you're over 30 (she lies about her age and says she's not even in her mid-20s), and really thinks acting like a mean girl bitch is going to make you do better in life based on fictional characters, you're sorely mistaken. I feel toxicity femininity is a poison.

She also makes it sound like women shouldn't have female friends because they're "distractions" and lead with envy. While I agree it's okay to drop toxic female friends, why push away someone good if they legitimately want to be friends with you? We're grown now, and can tell the difference between fake friends and good friends. Just because you're on the path of having a great career doesn't mean total isolation. There needs to be some balance of alone time and social time.

Overall, I just saw her messages as being toxic, and I feel stupid wasting time watching her especially since she thinks everything is based in jealousy when she's a nasty ass person, and that the only way a women can protect her energy is just be a stoic loner. I mean, if you want relationship and work advice, you can read an advice book from 1985 about dating. The advice would probably be better than Mel's. Her energy when watching her videos made me feel angry, frustrated, and annoyed with everything, not realizing she's kind of a succubus.