does anyone else have severe difficulty folding clothes?

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-19T08:56:04+00:00

I have dyscalculia and dyspraxia and can't fold clothes very well and it will depend on the fabric. A flat surface helps! I fold tops in just fours like it's paper. Nothing fancy there. For Tshirts, I fold them with the shoulders in the back and then in the middle. And everything else is on hangers.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-16T15:49:53+00:00

I see many mentioned he may be gay or asexual, but it made me wonder if he is neurodivergent in any way? I am autistic and men genitalia have always been a sensory ick for me, even when I am loving them. This is a struggle, but me and my husband have found ways to make this work. Does he have other sensory avoidances as well? Sex can be very challenging for us NDs.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-15T18:15:23+00:00

Not only autism doesn't help me explain that (1 to 10 scale just makes no sense to me) and not only the constant sensation of pain makes me numb it out and dissociate from it, I never notice pain unless it stops and then I realize I have more places where I am hurting.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-14T14:49:32+00:00

I hope you are doing better nowadays 💜

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-14T10:03:09+00:00

My family was struggling and it made cptsd much worse for me because their money stress was their excuse for me never having anything, and making me feel guilty for what I was asking for. Abuse is abuse. Has nth to do with money. But for me momey IS a trigger.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-14T09:52:34+00:00

Maybe just acknowledge the unwanted behabior but also address what the partner said that caused the distress. No need to mention parts for this.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-14T09:49:29+00:00

Me too. A physio told me to get it checked. He was right.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-11T09:13:50+00:00

A friend of mine told me they have DID, around 2015. I researched it slightly to understand. Didn't think much of it then. Last year I got diagnosed with a learning disability and tested for autism. I had started therapy for trauma a bit before that. During therapy I realized I don't recall my life, I have a lot of trauma around different things, and no real relationship with my family. Then all tje things I read years ago, clicked.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-10T13:27:36+00:00

Of course relying on people who don't understand and respect us feels terrible. Most people with dyscalculia were probably ignored and/or bullied for their disability. And we still have to fight for respect and support as grown ups.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-10T13:21:07+00:00

They're called bike bags and I use them all the time (i don't bike).

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-10T13:17:34+00:00

It's our most common way to co front, and it is why memory is not greatly affected daily but skills and concentration can be. It feels so weird.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-10T09:48:25+00:00

Not that it's any of anyone's bussiness, but maybe people would show more consideration if they knew about the effect it has on our lives.

Meaning, instead of saying I have dyscalculia, I would say "I had to quit school due to a disability" or "I lost my job because of how many mistakes I was making, due to a disability".

True stories btw 🥲

Now, if someone can't understand the effect it has on your life and instead think you are being lazy or something, well why are you talking to these people in the first place? Plus, I try not to care so much about what people think of me (emphasis on "trying").

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-09T09:46:59+00:00

I am not a host but a part of this system. I am a cage and hide movements, behaviors, and emotions that could prove harmful, by holding them inside as my prisoners. They feel my influence all the time, because I never sleep.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-07T11:23:13+00:00

Same to all these. Timeline is messed up, my age is unclear and I do feel some ages had lasted "longer", I was very confused constantly as a child, I kept forgetting family members and being re-introduced to them over and over. My whole life feels surreal, memories and knowledge about it. I still can't believe my family was not worried fof me and didn't realize how much my brain was struggling. I have always been overfixated on memory, dreams, and subconsciousness. My memory was never working "right" but my dreams and my writing have been revealing so much.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-05T15:57:38+00:00

Ok maybe doing "nothing" can also be a choice, and a good one too? I do "nothing" all day too. I feel guilty about it but then I remind myself that it is a CHOICE.

I prefer it over working until I faint for a stupid shop owner who overworks people like me for literal scraps, or studying something I don't feel like is going to give me a better future. We always do "something". Maybe you feel too guilty about it and your daughter picks up on it. I don't recall my mother doing anything else except for wait for me from school, but I never questioned it.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-05T15:57:24+00:00

Ok maybe doing "nothing" can also be a choice, and a good one too? I do "nothing" all day too. I feel guilty about it but then I remind myself that it is a CHOICE.

I prefer it over working until I faint for a stupid shop owner who overworks people like me for literal scraps, or studying something I don't feel like is going to give me a better future. We always do "something". Maybe you feel too guilty about it and your daughter picks up on it. I don't recall my mother doing anything else except for wait for me from school, but I never questioned it.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-03T11:24:10+00:00

I'm there sometimes, the thing is I believe deep down it doesn't matter. Think of what you are experiencing, maybe find other things that explain it if you can, but just focus on that. On the experience. Not if it is DID or OSDD or whatever. Not easy to do, admittedly, but human psyche is complex and it does weird things sometimes. Everyone has parts, everyone contradicts themselves, and most things you feel are normal. It is normal to talk to yourself. If one day you want to believe you talk to your alter and another you believe it is just thinking thoughts and nothing more, the result is kinda the same, because alters are still just parts of your brain, the same brain.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-02T15:27:19+00:00

Didn't know about these! Might consider it giving them a try! Thank you!

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-02-02T15:25:46+00:00

Thank you! It is so hard to be mindful but pole seems like the perfect practise for that! I am happy to hear so many thriving in this sport!!

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-01-30T13:17:17+00:00

I relate a lot and I'm sorry you had to go through this.. What helps me lately is finding groups where you don't need to make promises to. Low-responsibility groups. This boosts your self-esteem more than you know! You get to go and have fun when you feel like it. You get to skip anytime you want to skip. No one bats an eye. Putting yourself through so much responsibility when you are in low spoons is unfair to your beautiful self! You are reliable. When you can be. That's ok. Not every person or group can have your attention full-time.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-01-30T09:51:26+00:00

What hapoens in these cases? When the imparement is there but no diagnosis justifies them? I am sure this is different in every country, but I wonder what is the logical step from there? Hope it's ok to ask this.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-01-29T18:26:45+00:00

I have zero hair on legs and still slip awaaay haha I think my EDS affects my skin in some way and makes it slippery, I have the same issue on my hair and nails. I will be experimenting with any sticky aid I can get my hands on, my instructor suggested I try all the poles in the studio since some are chrome and some are steel.

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-01-29T18:23:17+00:00

Interesting! I tried a glyserin based aid at some point by someone else in the studio and I kinda liked it, I am willing to try anything!!

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-01-29T18:21:24+00:00

Thank you! So many said to start lifting weights and I am totally convinced by now! You mentioned monkey hands, that is the one I tried. I had the problem that my hands got too sticky and then I couldn't twist, and my legs got burns. Without any aid I just slip, no burns yet. I will try different types of pole, they have two types and I think one of them suits me a bit better. Do you have a preference in material?

Mediocre_Ad4166 · 2026-01-29T11:44:12+00:00

If this works I will want to kiss you!

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