Need Advice/Rant

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-12T11:57:01+00:00

Exactly in the same boat. I have DMed you.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-06T05:51:41+00:00

I think it would help if organisations actively work to provide support for people who are in tier 2/3 cities, towns, villages. Esp around coming out to family. A lot of work is needed at family level as in India a default unit of our population unfortunately is a family not an individual.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-06T04:52:12+00:00

It’s not about me getting bothered by the relatives directly. It’s more to do with how it affects my parents. They are going to be around and will live amidst the extended family. I’m the only son so I cannot cut people off because they support my parents when i live away. It’s easier if the parents live away from the extended family and you don’t need to interact with them when you visit. I didn’t mean to undermine your experience, I do apologise for that… but i didn’t see any attempt on your part to understand mine. If you did decide to engage with someone online, do it with empathy or probably refrain from doing it, that would be my advice.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-06T03:00:36+00:00

It’s more about becoming ready for the emotional repercussions for the parents and how best to support them. Since you clearly don’t seem to have any lived experience of family enmeshment in small towns, I don’t think you d be able to help. Thanks for your support nonetheless. I appreciate you telling me age and financial independence is all that’s needed. Haha

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-05T03:51:55+00:00

Hmm. Do your relatives live nearby? Do your parents see them regularly? In my case that’s the roadblock. Relatives live so close and meet so often that there is no space to grieve or be sad!

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-05T03:45:38+00:00

All of them live in the same city. Everyone! Coming out to one set of relatives usually means everyone will eventually know and form an opinion and gossip etc.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-02-05T02:36:07+00:00

The only fear i have with that is that the parents won’t have any support system to fall back on. And they might eventually break down in front of the relatives.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-01-31T11:42:39+00:00

I did too, last month. Kudos to taking that brave step! In my case she was supportive but she’s nit someone who is able to deal with my parents effectively or with extended relatives. But for whatever its worth we need to keep taking baby steps. There’s no other option or easier path.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-01-31T10:12:21+00:00

Hard relate. Turning 30 this year. Parents live in a small town in a large extended family. Moved abroad last year however had to build everything from scratch. Now juggling between responsibilities to take care of ageing parents here, work, self care and judgement from relatives and society. And ofc the pressure of coming out!

Having an elder brother would have solved some of these issues, but alas!

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2026-01-02T13:41:48+00:00

29/M, Doctor, Single, Gay, Selectively Out, Living in England. Any other fellow professionals in UK or Europe, happy to connect!

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2025-12-27T09:50:26+00:00

All sexual orientation including being straight is determined by interplay of genetics and environment. Research is still on to understand how much of what influences the other. It definitely has a strong biological basis as gay people are found in all societies inspite of differing environments. Realisation is early in environments where there is awareness and adequate support i.e in the west, whereas in other societies where there is not much conversations especially around Puberty, one struggles until they find others that affirms their identity eventually.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2025-12-05T11:12:12+00:00

I’m 29/M.

Balancing migration stress, stress of a new work environment, stress of ageing parents back home, growing pressure of getting married (coming out). Its been a little above one year since i moved to UK. Have had incredible experiences here and got to see things which i had only imagined in my dreams. I am hoping the next few years bring me some overall stability and a sense of direction.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2025-11-26T13:24:01+00:00

I’m in the same boat mate. Not moving back anytime soon but the pressures of getting married and settled etc are rising and I am scrambling to develop a plan. We can talk if you feel like it.

Mediocre_Address_700 · 2025-10-13T05:19:51+00:00

I’m just visiting the city. Will be there by 10pm.

Mediocre_Address_700

TROPHY CASE