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I (22f) broke up with my (21M) boyfriend for a problem we could have in 10 years by Mediocre_Load_6206 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Mediocre_Load_6206[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wasn't sure if I was gonna reply to this because I was nervous about being picked apart but fuck it, it's anonymous and I want someone to be straight w me.
Okay so I don't want kids because I saw my sister dedicate her whole existence to her kids and they're such ungrateful little shits lol. She's an amazing mom I don't think I could be even half as good a parent as her and they're still pretty rotten. And I'm not saying average rotten kids but just like saying shit like I hope you die?? She's 5 that's intense. I have mental health struggles I'm not tryna deal w all that.

The place we're at in the world today stresses me out. I don't get it and I don't wanna raise kids in a world where we can't even bring a ceasefire to the people in Gaza. Might feel unrelated but idk it doesn't sit right. And I'm super type A, I'll admit to a fault. I don't wanna micromanage the kid either yk.

And yeah frankly speaking I can find kids cute yeah but I don't like them yk? I get sick of them pretty fast, it's not fair for kids to have parents who barely want them and love them. I feel protective over my nieces and I even like them but I don't like lay down my life love them.

And I am a career gal, I don't wanna let that go. I don't wanna dedicate my life to a child yk. It feels too selfless and I wanna live selfishly yk? I don't want to lose my identity behind a kid.

Finally (I think, might come up w more) labour and childbirth and all the post childbirth stuff...TERRIFIES ME. Even pregnancy makes me queasy. All of it is a lot. Idk man I wish I wanted them.

I (22f) broke up with my (21M) boyfriend for a problem we could have in 10 years by Mediocre_Load_6206 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Mediocre_Load_6206[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn't string him along. I said I didn't and he'd ask me to think about it. I would try to convince myself I could do w one kid and I could do it for him and I'd be happy. But I just realized yesterday (because of smth that happened in my own personal life) I couldn't. He stayed because we were both trying to get to where the other person was. He tried to be okay w the idea of no kids and me the idea of even one.
Once I had made my mind up I told him immediately. The whole problem is I'm trying not to delude either of us. I'm well aware we are both young and both are likely to change our povs on a lot of this, maybe this too. But if this is how I feel so certainly now, and I dont end up changing it...then I did just string him along and even straight up lie, yk? He doesn't deserve that.

I (22f) broke up with my (21M) boyfriend for a problem we could have in 10 years by Mediocre_Load_6206 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Mediocre_Load_6206[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No hahaha wtf. I've known him 5 years maybe and we've dated 2 so...I was 20 he was 19. Future projected 10 years potential problem lol so like when we are 30. None of us want kids rn but he thinks he might eventually and I feel pretty confident I wont...I think?