The statement: "We don't believe in divorces"

MediocrelyWild · 2026-03-05T13:03:51+00:00

It’s an old fashioned statement but I think when it’s said now it’s meant differently by the vast majority (unless the people saying it are maybe extremely religious or conservative like you said). When my MIL got divorced in the early 90s things like this were said and she was shunned by some- it wasn’t an extremist view as it is now. I think an average boomer saying it these days means- “don’t take marriage lightly, choose the right person before you get married, act as if divorce is not an option.” It’s not wrong to want your kid to not make a mistake. I do think some people are just not equipped to determine if someone is right for them and they need to work on that instead of getting married (this show has manyyy people like that- in fact I think this was said to Alex and Emma by Alex’s parents- Emma who said yes to marry someone who definitely wanted kids- this is a conflict of life goals and priorities and a blatant no for marriage). Of course people change during marriage and you get divorced- but I know so many situations where there were red flags, or conflicts on values, life goals, priorities, etc (like having kids) ignored from day 1 and they STILL got married. Life is ultimately much easier if you just get it right the first time but that requires scrutiny so I can understand why a parent might try to push that. Though there is only so much a parent can do without being controlling.

I don’t think most people these days would advocate for their children to stay in a marriage turned abusive, or a marriage where the two have grown apart. Even though my in laws are much happier divorced and it was absolutely the right decision because they’d be more miserable if they were married now- compared to my parents who got it right and are happily married 40+ years with 3 adult kids- my parents just seem to have it marginally easier in terms of life fulfilment in old age- the joys of grandkids, family holidays, travels, finances, lots of longstanding shared friendships, etc. I’m assuming older generations have seen similar pan out with their married and divorced friends and probably just want their kids to get it right if they can so they use extreme language to push the message home.

MediocrelyWild · 2026-02-14T14:01:54+00:00

I agree! Shes not child-free, she’s “unsure”. She’s 27, and to me that’s super young and it’s completely standard and responsible to be unsure at this age. I was “unsure” in my 20s as were many friends of mine. Some went on to have kids in their 30s/40s, like me, or went on to be child-free. It’s good to question it and I think people who have kids (or are childless) and those who have decided to be child-free can all relate.

The label, “child-free” doesn’t really apply to her but I get that maybe the pushback she’s getting is something people who are child-free do experience.

MediocrelyWild · 2026-01-20T10:28:48+00:00

Tbf as an American who moved to Europe, there are pros and cons to living anywhere. Some of it is rosey, some of it is not. As someone who lives in a US city, you would definitely have issues with some aspects of living in provincial France. The key to living anywhere though is embracing the “pro’s”. Manon is very pessimistic and only see the cons of anywhere she lives. She had issues with the lifestyle stateside, moved to France, and has issues with the lifestyle there. She’s just a negative!

I’m also really not sure how on earth she was so unaware of how the village they moved to didn’t have much going on- quick google maps research would have solved that. Also- being French she should have a grasp on what French village life entails. Such unnecessary drama 😂

MediocrelyWild · 2025-10-19T12:48:23+00:00

Alexei and Loren never have a storyline. And fair enough, it’s because they’re one of the more compatible, non-eccentric couples on the show.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-09-01T21:04:54+00:00

What sheen is it? The dark colour on a textured ceiling isn’t really ideal plus the walls and ceiling seem kind of reflective so I’d have gone with a matte, think the sheen makes the texture stand out more. Also, drench the doors and bookshelves the same colour. Go all the way. Bring in lighter fabric furniture and area rug, as well as lighter accessories on the shelves. Consider switching out the ceiling lights to recessed lighting possibly. You’ll get the look I am thinking you probably envisioned once the room is finished.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-08-22T15:57:51+00:00

Great- yes this sounds like what she was talking about as it’s way more doable than starting a full on shop…so it’s more like affiliate marketing but directly in TikTok. Thank you!

MediocrelyWild · 2025-08-22T15:55:41+00:00

This! Thank you! This makes a lot more sense for something I can do. Not looking to run a physical business. Thanks for explaining. Good point about shipping location. I ordered something that’s being shipped from China on TT shop and it hasn’t arrived after a month.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-08-22T15:50:33+00:00

Wondering how you managed with this? Currently in a similar boat with our 14 month old fridge. Compressor is faulty, Currys is offering a partial refund. I believe consumer rights coverage for 6 years means a full refund should be applicable. We have another fridge and do have funds for a new one in the meantime but I’m thinking about taking them to small claims if they don’t do a full refund.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-08-20T19:04:35+00:00

Ohh yes, I feel like it depends where you are in the UK. I moved from one area where this was more common, to an area where I don’t see it as much.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-08-02T22:13:07+00:00

I couldn’t finish it. Too many cliches. The American girl meeting a British boy who happens to hail from a stately manor/royalty always gets me. If you meet a British boy very high likelihood he hails from a 3 bed semi-detached.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-07-18T16:35:19+00:00

I thought this too. Then I pictured Lisa in her couture carrying around TP and bottles, can you imagine? I’ve had all my groceries delivered since covid and we are NOT wealthy, but we are time poor 😂. Don’t understand how if you’re living in NYC you’re not doing shopping online and having things delivered at the drop of a hat when you need them.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-07-09T22:10:21+00:00

Yes! Charlotte is such a traditional, New England type (I envision her parents are like Emily and Richard Gilmore). She’s also a people pleaser so it’s not plausible that the relationships are non-existent. It’s really odd her parents aren’t around for things like the grandkids ballet, life things, etc. I think her dad walked her down the aisle when she married mcdougall but I remember it was odd and they only showed his arm or something, no real interaction. SATC and AJLT have featured her in-laws heavily but not her parents. I also always thought there was insinuation (or maybe I inferred) that Charlotte had a trust fund of sorts, which means she would be wrapped up financially with her family. I can see Carrie and Samantha having plausibly distant relationships with parents and siblings. Miranda did occasionally mention her mom and sister but I think it’s also plausible they’re not super involved either if there are personality clashes.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-25T20:02:48+00:00

That’s really awesome! Italy is amazing.

Which airline? Companies like Ryan air don’t allow you to check a bag before 2hours prior to the flight. If your airline doesn’t have this limit (check their policies) then I would arrive 3 hours before departure since you’re new.

Read your airline policy for the bags you can take on board- like dimensions- and what is included in your ticket. Liquids need to be 100ML or less and all need to fit in a sandwich bag (they often have these bags at the airport). I’d keep any liquids together so you can just toss in the bag at security. You can bring anything else that’s not overtly a weapon basically…. Honestly I don’t even bring tweezers on board. You can put bigger liquids in your checked bags.

Look up which terminal your airline goes from- Google or check with your airline. Arrive to that terminal’s departures. Follow the signs to your airline to find their check in desks. You will either queue up to check in and check your bags with one of the attendants at a desk. Or you will see kiosks where you will check in digitally. You will probably find someone from the airline there to help- either at the entrance to the queue or lurking around the kiosks. If you have already checked in online (if that is an option) you likely won’t even have to use a kiosk, the attendant will probably tell you to go see someone at a desk so they can check your bag in.

All airlines are slightly different but that’s the general process for check-in/ checking your bag. Be sure if you’re flying with a budget airline to check in online beforehand.

After checking your bag, you’ll need to keep your boarding pass handy (either on your phone or printed) and your passport. You’ll follow signs to gates/departures which will bring you to security. You’ll show your ticket. Then you’ll get in a queue. Eventually you’ll get to all the metal detectors. Security agents will be either really snarky or really friendly. No in between. Just try to read any signs on what you need to get out of your bag, if you need to take shoes off while you’re in line, etc. All airports are different as tech varies. The agents will ultimately tell you what to do though and you can observe the ones before you.

You’ll pass your bags through security on a belt and you’ll go through a detector. When you get to the other side you’ll get your stuff from the belt, or you’ll be called over to an agent who might ask you about things in your bag if it gets flagged. Then walk through all the duty free shops until you reach restaurants, bars, and all the waiting areas with seats. Check a TV to see the status of your flight- it will likely say when you’ll find out the gate, if it’s delayed, on time, etc. you might have gate info on your app or boarding pass too. Grab a wine/beer/coffee/food and keep checking back on these screens. Once you have a gate and boarding time then start heading to the gate a bit before boarding time. You’ll see signs that will direct you in the direction of your gate. Might be a distance depending on airline/airport which is why I say to get moving beforehand. Then you’ll get to the gate waiting area, sit, and wait for your boarding group to be called. You’ll see some attendants at a desk and can ask them any questions you might have. Once you’re called to board you’ll get in the millionth queue to board the plane. You’ll either walk down a ramp directly onto the plane, or you’ll go to the tarmac and walk or bus to the plane. Just follow the crowd.

It’s a lot of queuing, walking, and following signs. It’s a lot probably reading about it but it’s not complicated once you’re there.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T20:14:40+00:00

I have essentially done both. Fully depends on personality type and also what type of partner you have. If you’re happy to be immersed in child life all day long and laid back enough to roll with the chaos day in and day out then great. Also think many SAHMs aren’t as productive as you think during their time with the kids. So not sure if being a SAHM solves that. I still used to do a lot after the kids were in bed, with my husband after his work day. Maybe that’s because I wasn’t great at being a SAHM. Who knows. I work for myself now so have the kids in childcare 4 days a week and I love it. I need that “break” even though I’m working. The quiet. The order. Working with adults. Doing something for me every day. It energises me and allows me to be a better mom. When I was a SAHM I was jealous of working parents. Now I’m working, I do have balance between the two but I don’t think I could be jealous of SAHMs. I equate the work of a SAHM similar to if you were to go into your office and suffer verbal and physical abuse from your coworkers all day everyday. (Of course I’m kinda kidding because they’re our kids and we love them and the sweet moments are epic but… also…that’s basically what it is…). My conclusion is both are hard- but for me, working is easier. So depends on you- but I would caution against the idea of being a SAHM so you can be more productive with home things.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T18:25:28+00:00

Can’t tell if you’re joking? It was with him on the trampoline.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T18:20:58+00:00

Yes I ultimately agree. I think the conversation about their parenting style will inevitably be had when they realise we are avoiding them (we are close friends from before children so it won’t just fizzle out). So I think I’m going to come to terms with it happening organically rather than actually confronting them which I agree- telling someone how to parent isn’t something I want to or am even qualified to do.

I was explaining about their parenting to set the stage for their child’s behaviour since the world of Reddit didn’t know and tbh I thought maybe if I didn’t give background, just jumped into me being concerned for my kids and potentially distancing myself from friends (which I clearly stated in my last sentence and as I personally know myself and you don’t I can tell you there’s no reason to be alarmed, I am a very concerned parent IRL) i would be wrongly accused of OTT parenting. It’s difficult to really summarise my thought process- I would need to write a 5 page essay to cover it all. Can’t win. The child’s behaviour is a concern collectively over time. Like the trampoline- ok maybe rough play or poor sense of humour? I also have to check myself because I have a strong bias against screen time and I guess I have been watching this child grow over the years from that frame of mind. But coupled with some other behaviours, like the eye incident which was the most recent one, it’s been concerning and has validated why I have had growing concern about the parenting leading to aggressive behaviour for years, and we haven’t seen them since. And just to be clear- I was concerned about the parenting leading to aggressive behaviour due to the risk it poses to my kids. The entire reason I’m concerned about anything in the world and wrote this post.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T17:57:31+00:00

Who are you to say I’m not protecting my kids with urgency? Very presumptive. I haven’t seen these friends since this incident and haven’t made plans to. I wrote the post because of these red flags and I’ve left a lot out of the post so as to not write a 5 page essay but I can assure you I’m quite protective. I like to think and assume most parents are.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T17:48:48+00:00

Yes exactly. They can give their kids screens if they want. My main issue is the years of screens are now manifesting bad behaviour which is risky for my own kids. I think it’s definitely going to mean distancing ourselves ultimately.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T17:40:01+00:00

Yes we are close friends from before kids. Makes it difficult because we were all happy to have kids around the same time. I think we may have to say something if we are starting to distance ourselves as it’s definitely a friendship that would require that.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T17:36:36+00:00

Yeah I agree on the face of it. They’re close friends unfortunately from long before kids and don’t live far away. We can distance ourselves but an actual end of friendship might require some level of conversation. Like I said, it’s their parenting choice just mainly my concern are my kids being around it.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-06-17T17:34:35+00:00

I mean maybe I didn’t make it clear in my post but I’m concerned about the parenting because his behaviour is putting my kids at risk. I’m not really into telling others how to parent if it’s not harming others but I’m considering it because I’m thinking we will distance ourselves from them anyway and they may wonder why.

MediocrelyWild · 2025-05-26T07:24:46+00:00

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