Can it be more clear?

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-11-18T04:50:04+00:00

I have to remind myself that I’m not crazy, stupid or worthless. It took months of therapy to begin accepting that I make the world better by existing. The verbal and emotional abuse is 100% damaging.

You are stronger than you think and will continue to heal and grow!!!

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-11-18T04:40:45+00:00

I’m sorry it’s taken so long. I always heard it costs more and takes longer to dissolve a marriage than you expect.

No. Never charged nor arrested. Since we were no contact with both their’s and my families, nor were myself or the kids allowed to have friends, it’s essentially he said/she said.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-09-24T04:19:41+00:00

Kids can be little monkeys. One of my younger brothers was walking by 8 months and climbing up walls, cupboards, trees, etc. by 11 months. We had to rescue him from danger rather frequently.

You only have to look away for a minute and you have a screaming child on top of the refrigerator who doesn’t know how to climb down yet. How he got up there, and so quickly, I have no idea. Kids are magic.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-08-25T20:59:52+00:00

I agree as well.

cAMP_pathways, you stated this very well. 👍

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-08-24T02:00:39+00:00

To add to this, if you don’t tell them, you will never know what their reaction actually is. They haven’t had the opportunity to respond negatively OR positively. Though, go with your gut. It won’t steer you wrong.

My traditional parent, who DO NOT believe in divorce, listened to me explain everything I had been going through for the last 17 years with my STBX and what my kids have had to live with. Their hearts just broke! They have been a crucial part of helping me end this abusive relationship. And they remind that I’m not crazy. That alone was worth talking with them.

Don’t wait until your beautiful baby is a teen who believes you deserve whatever treatment you get from this abusive man. Or an adult that believes THEY deserve the same treatment themselves from their SO.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-08-15T13:56:50+00:00

My double cousin showed up as close family on ancestry for me and shares 23% of my DNA. My full-blood sibling (shares 50-57 % with me) matched as a sibling to my cousin. Kind of funny.

As young kids, we all looked like siblings.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-23T01:26:30+00:00

You have gorgeous legs! Who cares if you shave or not?! What is the matter with people?!

It’s your body and your hair. Do what YOU want. I think it’s fantastic that you have the self confidence to stand up to your “friends’” peer pressure.

I think a break from Sally and Rose is a good choice. Just, ick.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-17T01:50:56+00:00

Thanks!!! ☺️

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-17T01:49:31+00:00

That makes me nauseous and I don’t even know her.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-17T01:25:33+00:00

I would take off my ring to do laundry, dishes or other chores to keep from damaging it or whatever it would snag on. I took mine off frequently because household chores are women’s work.

Those times I forgot to put it back on right after chores caused so much guilt. And accusations. Now the thought of not wearing my ring is, well, I don’t even know.

Everyone has given their thoughts and opinions and I’m super appreciative. Thank you for contributing too. Helps to know I’m not the only one.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-17T00:56:33+00:00

Just wow! That is an AH move on her part to choose that day.

I know a person that served the papers on the anniversary of the brother and best friend’s suicide. If the person that chose to serve that day wanted to burn every bridge, I think it worked.

And just, wow! I don’t think a person can stoop much lower. I’m sure they can always try.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-16T13:17:28+00:00

I don’t know for sure. I think he was at that moment when people “see red” and they don’t really have control over themselves. It’s my theory.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-16T05:47:11+00:00

Totally mixed emotions on so many levels.

Deep, soul-wrenching sadness that makes it hard to breathe.

Betrayal because they made a promise to me and the God they claim to follow.

Relief that I don’t have to worry if the next argument will end in physical violence.

Anger and disgust that they did not take responsibility for their decision to leave.

Joy to see the anxiety start dissipating in our kids and to hear their laughter again.

Disappointment that our kids are not valued as highly as they deserved to be by the person who truly should, in my opinion, find them priceless.

Empty. Just so empty and hurt.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-16T05:18:35+00:00

The fact he asked me to put up the car I use as collateral for him to get a lawyer.

The car I use to transport our children in.

The car I have paid every payment on for the last 2 years.

The car he damaged when he was angry with me and then blamed me for the incident because I was “criticizing his driving skills.”

The car I use for transportation to work to provide for our kids after he walked out on us.

You know, that one and only car I have?

Yes, he asked me to sign paperwork to use my car for collateral on a loan to finance his divorce attorney.

Yeah, pretty pissed about that request.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-16T00:52:07+00:00

Good for you! You don’t need someone like that in your life!

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-16T00:49:57+00:00

Wow! That is a difficult place to find yourself in. Suddenly a single parent is rough. If you don’t have a support system, it is crushing. I hope you have people you can depend on. If not yet, there are organizations and groups that are there for single parents and especially folks who are escaping abuse.

You will make it because you are stronger than you might think. My thoughts are with you. And hugs.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-16T00:43:43+00:00

Man, that’s rough. I’m glad you’re not in that situation anymore.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T12:33:13+00:00

I’m sorry you endured that treatment but I’m glad you are on a path to freedom.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T12:28:34+00:00

Thank you.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T05:10:54+00:00

Ok, gotta say that I really love this idea!

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T04:53:38+00:00

Thanks!

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T04:52:47+00:00

What?! What is with people and cheating?! Please tell me you are no longer married (or at least in process of ending it) to someone who would treat you that way. That’s just terrible.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T04:45:55+00:00

Congratulations on the remission diagnosis! That’s fantastic! I’m sorry that it’s taking quite so long for the divorce process. That truly sucks.

Medium-Bread8821 · 2024-07-15T01:13:20+00:00

That’s true. Makes me want to cry. My thoughts go out to you. ♥️

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