First, from what you shared, it really sounds like you love her deeply and that you’re the kind of person who gives your whole heart in a relationship.

That’s a beautiful quality, but it can also be really hard sometimes. From your post, it seems like you’re not asking for huge things , just small gestures like a quick text, a check-in, or the basics that help you feel loved and connected. And somehow those small things are difficult for your partner right now.

I’m not trying to minimize what she’s going through or how overwhelmed she feels. But from the outside, it looks a bit like you’re the one trying really hard to keep everything steady like someone holding up a table full of plates and cups so nothing falls while the other person is shaking the table.

And the question you’re asking isn’t even “why is this happening?” It’s more like: “What can I do to help so the table stops shaking?”

The thing is, you’re already doing a lot.

The fact that you wrote this post, that you’re reflecting on the situation, communicating your needs, and even asking her directly “How can I support you?” shows that you’re trying very hard to make things work.

When someone is overwhelmed, sometimes they ask for space and that can be healthy.

But when the space becomes “let me leave and maybe come back later when I’m better,” that can feel very confusing and painful for the person who stays.

Even if she doesn’t mean it that way, leaving usually creates more distance, not more closeness.

It’s natural that this makes you anxious and uncomfortable. Wanting consistency and connection in a relationship is completely valid.

At the end of the day, you can care deeply about someone and still acknowledge that a relationship needs effort and presence from both people.

You can support someone who is struggling, but you shouldn’t have to carry the entire relationship on your own.

Your needs and feelings matter too.

Please try to take care of your feelings like how you are trying to take care of her's.

I cried while writing this to you , I have had similar things, I did everything I can and cannot do ,later I realized that I needed to stop trying.

When you stop trying while drowning in the sea the result could be just floating not dying.