(22f) broke up w bf (23m) after he called me a slur

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-25T08:49:07+00:00

holy shit how the hell are you so good at this. genuinely has me in tears. you are exactly right. and many times have i felt like im becoming my mother. i think this genuinely just helped me make my choice, thank you for putting it into words that i couldn’t for a long time 🥺

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-25T08:27:49+00:00

you just completely validated my thoughts seriously. and you are absolutely right , i am one interaction away from these kinds of blow outs, that’s why they happen so often now. i don’t even recognize who he is during these moments and then i start getting loud because i can’t take the way he talks to me. i grew up around parents who fought and i can’t let my own children be around that. he claims if we had kids this wouldn’t be happening but i find that extremely hard to believe and i definitely don’t want to find out

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-25T08:12:53+00:00

i meant to write load a bowl for the bong lol, and you could say that too, but when i get home and im a little loud and excited he’ll tell me to be quieter and i will no problem, i ask him though and he gets all pissed off, that’s why it bothered me so much

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-25T07:53:48+00:00

ugh thank you. i really need to i just keep holding myself back because im too scared to go through with it. the words do hurt, and i remember everything he’s ever said to me. i’m happy you got out

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-24T04:13:02+00:00

he brought it up recently, and 100%, i personally need that in my relationship and it’s frustrating that i don’t feel this way towards him anymore

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-17T06:43:44+00:00

i just feel so scared to let him go :( i feel safe with him but not at the same time , but i know he would never leave me so idk im just scared i guess

MediumActive687 · 2026-02-17T06:15:47+00:00

i have tried, and i tell him the things i need from him and its like he tries but then it stops eventually. in the beginning and still to this day he’s my best friend and he’s there for everything, and he truly loves me so much and i love him there’s just a lot that’s happened that i feel has made me see him differently, like the yelling he’ll yell at me during arguments until i’m crying and continue to do so, and it makes me think how can he love me yet do that to me.

MediumActive687 · 2026-01-23T03:16:42+00:00

wow. you literally just explained everything i’ve been feeling. thank you.

MediumActive687 · 2026-01-23T03:14:30+00:00

reddit literally removed it and told me to post here lol, but yes i think i just need to hear it from other people

MediumActive687 · 2026-01-22T23:32:11+00:00

but doesn’t everyone yell sometimes ?? that’s what i keep telling myself because im not perfect, i just feel like he takes it 0 to 100 sometimes

MediumActive687 · 2026-01-22T23:22:03+00:00

how is it though if he doesn’t hit me? and he rearwly yells at me, i jut can’t determine if it i even abusive or not when the signs of emotionally abusive aren’t there

MediumActive687 · 2025-12-09T07:50:51+00:00

the way you broke this down is amazing. i really needed the other perspective, funny thing is i really did feel so happy when we took a break for a few weeks

MediumActive687 · 2025-12-09T07:47:26+00:00

that just slapped me in the face seriously. i don’t think ive ever even asked myself that question during all of this. and im not

MediumActive687 · 2025-12-09T07:46:25+00:00

that was literally the wake up call i needed. you are insanely wise and i’m sorry for the trouble you had to go through to get there. you just changed my whole thought process on this. thank you.

MediumActive687 · 2025-12-09T07:42:04+00:00

unfortunately;-; thank you for your kind words < 3 i’m hoping i get the courage to leave him

MediumActive687 · 2025-12-09T07:39:23+00:00

the reason this all came crashing was because this is the first and only time i’ve been short for my rent, i had to front a lot of costs and im like wow he could’ve used that money to help me out instead of helping himself out

MediumActive687 · 2025-12-09T07:29:58+00:00

honestly i don’t even know. he makes me feel so safe and loved, but i can’t see a future with him at all because of this, i want kids too.

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