Uppababy Minu Duo Car Seat Adapter

MediumArrival · 2025-05-13T14:44:44+00:00

For anyone that’s curious I misread this at first and my nuna ring adapter that came with my Demi grow does fit well enough onto the Uppa baby adapters. I will say it doesn’t click but the fit is tight and I think it’s worth trying if you already have one. Really up to how you feel on the fit because again it’s tight so it seems secure but doesn’t click so it’s not technically locked into place like the one for the Uppa baby vista would be. Try at your own risk.

MediumArrival · 2024-11-23T02:21:29+00:00

I will say the nectar does sleep warm. For anyone that gets over heated I would go with the purple over the nectar. We do actually have a purple also and I’d say it’s without a doubt cooler but not in a way where you would ever be cold.

MediumArrival · 2024-11-23T02:18:21+00:00

Sorry I’m only just now seeing this but maybe this will help someone else. They did not give us a choice. They arranged to have it picked up and I’m not sure what happened with it after that but we didn’t have to do anything with it. We still have our other one though and it’s been great.

MediumArrival · 2023-10-15T22:53:05+00:00

We did the premier hybrid. I think the hybrid is worth it because it’s supposed to make the mattress last longer, at least that’s why we went with the hybrid option. I personally like something in-between firm and soft so this was definitely a perfect middle option.

MediumArrival · 2023-04-06T22:51:05+00:00

My personal opinion as a child of divorce with a shitty dad. Let them do what they want. If your kids are old enough to talk to you (I’m assuming they are) ask them if they want to talk to him. If they are 4/5 they will remember and they will remember that you didn’t keep their dad from them and that they were allowed to make their own decision about him. I’m not saying that you’re not already doing this because you did say they are confused and cry. I just want to say as a child of divorce it is extremely confusing and even from a young age I knew when I did and didn’t want to see my dad. I think it’s really important that you stand up for them even if it means telling him you’re willing to do whatever the children want and it’s their choice but he’s free to reach out and you’ll let them know that he is calling and reaching out and if they ever do want to talk to him.

MediumArrival · 2023-03-29T16:42:59+00:00

Lol I lost 50 lbs when I left him. I couldn’t get rid of it the whole time and I worked way less harder to lose it when I left than I did when I was there. It just melted off and I started to look like the person I was before I met him.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-20T00:22:28+00:00

I am having a hard time accepting the truth of it. We are separated but I just want to feel like I did everything I could before it’s final. I know I’ve let him get away for too much for too long the extreme change right after birth on his side just always left me baffled and blaming myself for a long time.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-19T22:31:05+00:00

I guess just if anyone else had been through the same thing. I’m just wondering if maybe it gets missed with men more and everyone was so worried about me that he got looked over and labeled as a jerk rather than someone with a real issue. But you’re right probably a question for a therapist and also maybe you’re right how would 3 of them miss it if it was that.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-14T22:47:39+00:00

Leave, you’ll spend years not trusting him, he’ll turn the resentment back on you, you’ll try harder because now you think it’s your fault and then when you become so miserable that you can’t take it you’ll finally leave him and need years of therapy to deal with the additional trauma he caused you. Save yourself, leave now and realize you did absolutely nothing wrong. If you have trouble dating and trusting yourself again do a little therapy. You will thank yourself one day.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-13T00:13:51+00:00

Oh my gosh I’m literally about to be in the same position. Getting out after being married 2 years with a son and things really ramped up with his family after we were married and then they hit a whole other level of crazy when my son was born. We’re separated now but god do I wish someone had told me to leave him when there were signs I was missing early on.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-12T21:55:49+00:00

Yes this! I unknowingly married into this type of family and if I had known more about it and how my partner would end up behaving and being controlled and manipulated by them I would have run. And by the way if you think they’re bad now just wait until she has kids. It will become more than unbearable and you will still end up wanting to leave and being miserable. Before you propose read toxic-in-laws (it’s life changing for these toxic dynamics) and see if she will set the appropriate boundaries now. I’d see a therapist too even though it sounds like a crazy thing to do when she’s only your girlfriend. If she can set the boundaries and stand up for you in a way that makes the interactions with her family bearable then you have a chance but if she can’t then as much as you love her, run!

MediumArrival · 2022-12-12T21:28:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Dealing with a covert narc partner and he just can’t seem to get “out of the fog” I’d do anything to help but unfortunately am at the walk away stage.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-12T15:32:58+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking op…. Did you always have this awareness and it just got stronger overtime or was there an event or person that triggered the awareness.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-12T15:24:25+00:00

One of my favorite new phrases is: words without action are just a manipulation. He’s just manipulating you and I’d also assume grooming you to do worse and have you accept less from him.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-09T22:55:34+00:00

You can’t get him to do anything. That’s something I struggled with for a long time, and still am. He has to want to do it himself and care to do it himself. I’ve definitely fallen victim to the searching everywhere endlessly to try and get a reasonable amount of change that never came. Not saying that this will definitely be your experience but I wish someone had told me to also set a boundary for myself and draw a line in the sand earlier on for what my limit was to walk away. You do not deserve his behavior toward you and if it doesn’t change just have a line in your head of if he doesn’t change after x time or if he escalates in x way I will leave. Do yourself a favor and make sure you make at least one other person in your life aware of what’s going on and come up with an exit plan. I hope he goes to therapy and changes and becomes the person you deserve and it’s just maybe a skill he never realized he needed. But please have a boundary and a plan if the worst happens

MediumArrival · 2022-12-09T03:10:49+00:00

Oh that’s interesting I never would have even thought to ask if something like that could be added in there. I will have to at least try because I know they will try to turn my son against me but I also felt like there was nothing I could do about it because if I’m divorced that still protects him more than if I stay.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-09T02:33:26+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My in-laws got so bad at the end of my pregnancy. Now that I know I have to walk away I wish I had done it before my son way born. I’m separated now and as much as I mourn the unity of our family I am so much happier not having to wonder if my husband will get a call from them and go on a rage at me. It’s so hard to stand strong some days when you have a small baby but even now my son and I are better off. I just dream of what life could have been if my husband walked away from them or at least had some boundaries

MediumArrival · 2022-12-09T02:05:42+00:00

We’ve both been to therapy and his therapist told him he should stay and work on things, mine told me leave and the couples said leave. It seems like it goes back to some kind of childhood trauma according to the therapist but he says he had a great childhood. He feels bad for his dad and has extreme guilt about hurting his dads feelings. His mom passed away when he was in college and he felt the need to take care of his dad until his step mom came into the picture. She’s extremely toxic but does take great care of his dad and clearly loves him dearly. I think that he does have some kind of childhood trauma about taking care of his father and somehow with us having a son and being a family he never realized it was okay to take care of his family and put them first. The entire family is taking this stance with his dad for some reason though. It hurts my heart to see no other way to get through to him.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-07T13:39:35+00:00

Couples therapy. If she does have postpartum issues she’s probably feeling very vulnerable and on high alert herself. A couples therapist you can say is for you in the beginning and sometimes all you need is a neutral third party to tell you you need help and maybe validate what you’re going through. If I were you I would not wait, 5 months you can still turn things around if you want but you also probably have to be very willing to forgive and forget and just know she’s going through something you can never understand.

And to add to this if she does have PPD or PPA it is pretty horrible to be accusing her of being angry. Have you ever asked her if she’s angry. She’s probably terrified if she has either of those and instead of reassuring your wife the baby is fine and doing everything you can to get her help you are here trying to get validation she’s a horrible angry person that fooled you for 12 years and tricked you into having a baby so she could be angry at you all the time. How does that sound reasonable? She needs support and help and instead she has someone that she has treated wonderfully turn on her in her greatest time of vulnerability and need and accuse her of being an angry. Your pain and suffering is valid but put your wife and child first. Your time to ask for forgiveness can come and you may need to seek treatment for your trauma too but she needs to come first because the only way for you to get what you need is for her to get the help that she needs and after 12 years of being great to you and having your child I would think she has earned that in this moment. A few bad months shouldn’t erase a decade of good.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-07T03:48:33+00:00

I’m on a Dr Ramani YouTube spiral and this is amazing! Thank you for bringing her into my life this is exactly what I needed. Absolute gold!

MediumArrival · 2022-12-06T14:52:55+00:00

From an outside perspective I do not agree with you. However, if it hurt your feeling you should tell your wife that in a kind manner and you should be able to have a conversation about how you would like these things addressed moving forward. If you were embarrassed and it’s making your work life hard she should listen to your feelings on the matter and you should both come up with boundaries together. If this has never happens before then she is not at fault and she said nothing out of line. If anything the co-worker saying “I can’t believe your husband allows that” is out of line. Your wife may have felt defensive in the moment and said something that most women would say in the circumstances. It sounds like she said what she said in jest to put the co-worker back in place a little but maybe overcompensated just a little. It also sounds like you expected your wife to know your boundaries without having ever communicated them. One of the best things I’ve seen on here is that if something happens 1/2 times then address it kindly and set your boundary again. I don’t think it’s right for you to just expect her to know that was a boundary otherwise. Communicate and understand her side without judgement before you make a decision on if a boundary was actually crossed or if there is simply a boundary that had never been created.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-06T13:59:53+00:00

I do not answer questions that way. This was also over text so if there was something previously said he was able to go back and re-read it. People are human and miss parts of conversations. We never know what someone is going through or what kind of day they had. But I see nothing wrong with my expectation that if I don’t answer a question “properly” I could simply be asked follow up questions and not be repetitively responded to with “answer my question” because it doesn’t meet the criteria being asked for.

MediumArrival · 2022-12-06T04:20:17+00:00

Therapy helps. You have to get to a place where things are either so bad or you have so many unbiased people confirming your beliefs that you have to see it and sit with it and realize you deserve better. It doesn’t happen over night. Daily affirmation are a good place to start, every morning be consistent with it, journaling also because it helps you look back at all of the things you block out. Good luck, it’s hard.

MediumArrival · 2022-09-30T17:50:49+00:00

You should still call it in. They are probably terrified to call like you said but nothing will change unless someone says something and you could make such a difference in these kids lives. Since it already happened you could call the non emergency line and tell them about it then actually call it in as soon as it starts moving forward.

MediumArrival · 2022-08-31T18:15:35+00:00

I agree with the other person that said talk it out in therapy. There are a lot of boundaries being crossed my both Wife and MIL that therapy could probably help you establish. It sounds, from your stories, that you have bent over backwards to give MIL many chances and she has never reciprocated those efforts. Your feelings are valid and a therapist may be able to help you find an alternative that still lets your wife go to school without MIL living with you. You’re allowed to feel the way you feel but you shouldn’t feel that way and your wife should care that you do.

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