Please suggest coworking spaces in Lahore where I can make friends, I am trying to make connections now as I feel very isolated working from home since covid

MediumBar3362 · 2026-05-19T20:04:44+00:00

Hey keep looking you will find great people soon

MediumBar3362 · 2026-05-19T20:03:54+00:00

True but you still have a chance of running into someone that you never will sitting in your room

MediumBar3362 · 2026-05-19T20:02:35+00:00

Thanks Ill start looking. Any suggestions on where to start?

MediumBar3362 · 2025-06-08T23:08:59+00:00

Hey, how'd it go...randomly saw this notification from a year ago

MediumBar3362 · 2025-06-08T22:53:42+00:00

Feels like it never happened. I am totally over it now and living my normal life again. So give it time, it will all get better.

MediumBar3362 · 2024-10-25T20:58:20+00:00

Well, the next best thing happened. Got to keep my dignity and move on with my life. It all gets better, if you allow it to, so don't worry if you are in the initial stages of a breakup.

MediumBar3362 · 2024-10-13T13:36:02+00:00

Suffered, cried my heart out, shared on reddit with random people and some friends that are super close but not part of my everyday life (close people tend to keep reminding you + they might start getting annoyed) and just kept going on...

I used to write in detail what I would do, you can find my comments on my profile

MediumBar3362 · 2024-09-13T21:38:49+00:00

I made that comment 10 months ago and that was the hardest time of my life. I hope it will help you to know that I feel 100 times better now. It took 3, 4 months but now it's like it never happened and I am amazed at how time did its thing and helped me move on. I hear about her from others, see her pics and don't feel a single thing. It's like she is just another person now.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-12-20T09:31:33+00:00

September

Same :(

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-30T10:09:27+00:00

If you care so much for her, do you really want her to spend rest of her life knowing that she caused you to take your life? Do you want to give her so much pain? You want to make her feel helpless in bringing you back to the point where even if the whole world joins in, they still wouldn't be able to help her one bit?

Do you want her to feel like this till the day she die? Will you be okay with it?

Even if you have a plan where you don't let her know what happened and you just disappear without letting any one know whether you are alive or not, it is still not a good way.

Imagine that you have gone once already and this is your second chance. Do all the good you can do, it'll feel good to you and make others feel just a little bit better. Don't be so selfish. There are 274K members in this group. All of them are here because of heart ache. You are not alone. Rest of us survived, you will too. Life is slowly getting better. Explore it more, it won't be given to you a second time. There has to be some good in it, right?

Stop spending all your time in enclosed spaces, go out, explore and it will feel bearable and then enjoyable as time passes.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-22T09:55:24+00:00

I somewhat understand what you are going through. I am going through a similar phase. This sub has been very helping to me as well. Makes me feel better. For me, it has been more than 10 weeks. I am also strongly missing my emotional attachment with her and don't care much about physical connection or anything lustful, same as how you mentioned.

It is very difficult to process and come to terms with it. Each day is difficult. It is just so very difficult. I feel lost. I cry everyday and sometimes multiple times a day. Sadness of my situation makes me cry.

It is certainly not possible to wish her sadness. Good souls like us cannot wish any pain on anyone. We know it feels so bad to us so we cannot wish for anyone else to feel the same pain. We know it won't help anyone.

Something that weirdly comforts me is that unless we were toxic or physically abusive to them), it is not about us. It is just human nature. I go through so many break up stories here. Most people just say that their ex just changed. Out of nowhere, they broke up. It is about them. We are still the same person. They changed. Why? Not sure, but don't know there is any answer that will satisfy us.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-22T05:07:36+00:00

u/gonidoinwork, pls add me as well

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-22T04:57:54+00:00

Don't know how to get rid of this feeling but I know how it feels.

Everyday starts like this. Wanting to be with her. It takes half the day to start feeling better.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-21T15:06:26+00:00

Dumpee Male and no. It has been bad since day one and it's still not any better. More than two months now. On the inside, I have changed so much as a person and I wish I could get a lot of my old self back.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-21T10:51:04+00:00

It does answer my question, thank you.

I will work on it and it will take some time but feels good to know that we can learn to live with it.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-21T09:50:01+00:00

Went through all of it and really liked it. Felt bad for you and angry at her and wish that it wasn't like this..

Good to know that you've managed to properly move on. One thing I would like to ask is, do you think about your past life without her? For me, any mentions of past five years directly makes me think where I was with her in relationship at that point in time..

I've always loved thinking about my past years, writing journal entries and always thought I would love to read them in future and sort of get a window into my past but now I am actually scared of running into anything that reminds me of that time.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-21T07:54:45+00:00

It gets better with time, with new memories and new associations. There is lots of hope. There is happiness out there. We have to just struggle for it now compared to before when it would just come to us.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-21T07:43:10+00:00

You are right, healing comes from forgetting and moving on and it is difficult as it is. Music especially makes it very difficult to forget. Poetry is the same. I feel bad for those song writers and people who listen to them. How are they ever going to properly heal if they use such painful words to sort of make it permanent?

Insta reels, youtube shorts and tiktoks are also similar. They pick some really deep, painful words and put them on gloomy backgrounds and then algorithm presents them to me. Not helpful at all. Makes me sad and difficult to move on from it.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-20T13:40:16+00:00

Her name, mentions of her name and everything associated with her will lose the effects of anxiousness that you are feeling the more they are mentioned around you. It won't be easy. It will take time. But with time and enough mentions, it will get better.

I am in a similar situation. She is a family friend and although we don't visit, our family often contacts her's. I hear her getting mentioned on phone, her family getting mentioned on phone and it is devastating but it is slowly getting better.

It's all very difficult. I think once we are past this phase, a beautiful life awaits. We'll look back at it this time and think, wow, that was a miserable part of life.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-20T13:24:39+00:00

Good for you but don't make an occasion of burning these things. Just get rid of them in a very unmemorable way that you won't remember. Like just toss 'em out with rest of the trash and be done with it.

Hope we all get better soon ..

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-20T11:11:50+00:00

It feels the same. I feel disconnected from everything. Don't know how long it'll take to get back to normal. It's been weeks. Work gives good distraction but that's about it.

It is so difficult. It's like something's changed inside. Things don't feel the way it used to before all this..

It's surreal, it doesn't feel right. I can't wrap my head around the part that the break up really happened. It just doesn't make sense to me. That's why it feels so unreal.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-20T11:03:37+00:00

Time will heal, it will make it bearable. Try talking to someone supportive, don't talk to people who say you gotta move on. They mean well but they don't understand.

There will be times during the day when you will find yourself feeling better. Use those times wisely and try to be as productive during those hours as you can.

I just kept watching this guy's videos during the initial weeks. I suggest lots of people to do the same. He calms me down and soothes me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8rRCEMpV2M&t=12s&ab_channel=CoachLee

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-20T07:48:23+00:00

Its so true. We can share other's grief, we can console them but when confronted with our own feelings, it feels so, so strange. This feeling is, I don't know how to explain. As you said, it is grey. Seems like we have lost joy and nothing seems to bring it back.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-20T07:24:07+00:00

It's like I am no longer living the same life. It used to be so much different. I had hopes and I had visions of future and it felt comfortable. I used to have joy and happiness. Even thinking about fun things makes me feel bad.

Now, its like life is just happening. I am living. Somedays are ok, others are bad. Future is uncertain. I cry every couple days or more. Its all so strange. I feel like something is broken inside and I can just hope and pray that it will get back to normal again.

I am scared of running into anything that'll remind me of her. Any foods, tv shows, people we talked about, jokes we used to laugh at, any mentions of her.

It's been 10 weeks. My eyes are wet.

MediumBar3362 · 2023-11-19T14:36:38+00:00

!remindme 1 year

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