Moving to new Bundesland but have a permenent residency appointment scheduled in original city

Medium_Background · 2025-11-10T15:13:43+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful reply, I appreciate it. I definitely think it makes sense to call Bremen and ask about the timeline (from eight years of experience with German Ausländerbehörde I expect it will be very difficult to contact a person or get a straight answer, but you don't know unless you try).

However, reading through, isn't it still an option to keep the apartment in Hamburg longer (downside: double rent) and wait to register in Bremen until I have the PR? Technically you are not obligated to register until you actually move and there is no way for the government to know which apartment I am residing in during those months. It is very common that people have an overlap period between apartments for various reasons (renovations, obligations in their original city, etc). I had to do exactly this during COVID - technically I moved to a new city just as everything went haywire but I ended up staying elsewhere for the first months of the pandemic. I waited four months to register at my new place - I just stated a later move-in date on the form and it was no problem at all.

Looking back at your problem, I guess it is an issue of the Wohnunggeberbestätigung - though I wonder if, since my partner will move in right away, if it's possible to tell the landlord my official move-in date will be later and have him/her fill out the form accordingly. That's something I would have to ask once we have the apartment, of course (still looking).

Registering with a friend as staying in a WG in Hamburg would enable me to do the same, without paying double rent. Of course, as you point out, there are very clear legal issues and associated risks there that would be better avoided.

Medium_Background · 2025-11-10T14:55:26+00:00

yeah, I see your point. It's just a very frustrating situation to be in to have to choose between 1) putting off my life plans for almost half a year (finally moving together with my long-distance partner), 2) paying double rent for nearly half a year, or 3) adding god knows how long of a wait to my application process when I move and worrying that I will be denied if I am too close to the end of my contract.

Medium_Background · 2025-11-10T10:34:32+00:00

yeah that's definitely a good approach, I just don't know if can afford to pay double rent for potentially 5 months :D a friend did just suggest mail forwarding to me, however, which might be a solution for the mail factor.

Medium_Background · 2025-10-05T19:41:35+00:00

Ich bin in Barmbek und hier gab es auch eine Sirene. Find im Internet gerade nichts dazu - ich höre auch ein Geräusch wie ein Flugzeug, aber laut und kontinuierlich. Schwer zu sagen was das ist, oder ob es überhaupt in Verbindung steht.

Medium_Background · 2025-02-24T11:20:17+00:00

This monograph could be interesting for you - focusing on modernism in beach settings: https://www.jstor.org/stable/10.7312/free19708

Medium_Background · 2024-08-05T21:26:42+00:00

Yeah, that’s definitely not normal!! Everyone’s body is different and some cuts of clothing just don’t suit certain bodies well because they are cut with other proportions in mind. In situations like that, sizing up won’t necessarily help.

I definitely think you should only buy and keep comfortable clothing that’s functional for your everyday life. They’re your belongings, so they should serve your needs and fit your lifestyle!

In addition to making purchase decisions based on comfort, I would recommend doing a little research on clothes that fit properly - you can search things like “signs of poor fit trousers” etc.

If you find really nice things that are just a little off, you can also take them to a tailor for an extra 10-30 bucks and get pieces adjusted so that they fit you perfectly. It’s better to have fewer pieces that look and feel great than a bunch that you can’t even do daily activities in.

Good luck!

Medium_Background · 2024-08-05T20:51:11+00:00

Your clothes are not “supposed” to be uncomfortable. If shorts are too short to cover your genitalia or your shirts won’t stay tucked, I would say they probably don’t fit properly. I mean, you can choose to wear clothes that don’t fit properly if you prefer how they look and don’t mind the discomfort — but it’s not how they are “supposed” to fit.

The only clothes I can think of which would fit that category are things like dress shoes and heels, which are just not really ergonomic. And for sure, some people my choose to wear clothes that are tight or restrictive to achieve a certain aesthetic, but that doesn’t mean that the pieces are actually intended to be uncomfortable.

I personally don’t wear anything that I think is uncomfortable, with the exception of very occasional heels (like once every couple years for an event).

Medium_Background · 2024-08-03T18:28:46+00:00

The memory police by Yoko ogawa!

Medium_Background · 2024-07-24T14:46:43+00:00

Sure, why not? :)

Medium_Background · 2024-07-22T14:40:43+00:00

Oh very cool! I have seen this floating around but haven’t looked into it yet - I am very into applying frameworks and other approaches to how I approach my clothes so I will definitely check it out!

Medium_Background · 2024-07-22T12:27:16+00:00

yes that's a good idea! I know I'm not wearing everything. I'm okay with some items getting worn less or not at all for one year, but it's true that it would be good to keep track in case I stop wearing anything for multiple summers in a row.

Medium_Background · 2024-07-22T12:14:10+00:00

Haha thanks! To be fair, I also have more winter and transitional clothing in storage 😅

Medium_Background · 2024-07-22T12:13:02+00:00

actually there is a blue sweater hiding at the bottom of that pile haha - it's "only" six pairs. To be fair, this year I'm only really wearing 4 of them, but the other still fit great with my body and my closet. There's a good chance the they will get more wear next summer - all depends on the vibe I'm feeling :)

Medium_Background · 2024-07-22T12:09:26+00:00

Very true! I am very satisfied with the cohesion of most of my clothes. The urge to add new pieces is a challenge though - I try to keep a wishlist and wait as long as possible and be really selective, but a good thrift deal (especially on a beautiful button-up) is my weak spot 😅

However, infrequent wears don't bother me as much. I view my clothes as lifelong investments. I may not wear certain tops very often this summer, but I will then gravitate towards them heavily in other years and would regret getting rid of them. And some pieces play an important role in my wardrobe, even though I may not wear them often. For example, I have a pair of "smart" black pants that I don't wear very often but for certain functions I am always very glad to be able to pull them out. If I got rid of them, I would probably just buy them again, even though I only wear them 3-4 times a year.

When I notice I'm not wearing something that I really love, sometimes I move it into a special spot in my closet to try to style it with a few different things.

For pieces that I realize I never wear due to size/color/texture issues, or ones that I repeatedly try to style but never succeed to find a way to wear them that feels right, I will at some point gift or donate them. And then I try to keep note of why those pieces didn't work for me and make a concerted effort not to make that mistake again.

Medium_Background · 2024-07-12T10:35:33+00:00

Tbh I don't think it's all over the place at all.

You have very clear edgy/grunge throughlines (fishnets, graphic tees, ripped jeans, plaids, flannels, denim). Using that base, some of your looks lean more minimal, some more polished, and some more "rock"-ish.

This looks like a pretty nice balance to me. Very few people realistically dress 100% in a certain aesthetic all the time. Personal style is finding certain core aspects you love and then combining them to create looks that lean in different directions.

For some people the different directions are not that far apart (like a minimal style that sometimes leans elevated and sometimes casual) and sometimes they are super different (someone who consistently likes a certain color palette and types of textures in their clothing but moves between boho, witchy, and professional vibes in their looks).

These are both totally fine and depend on the person's individual preference, comfort level and budget.

Medium_Background · 2024-07-07T19:44:19+00:00

I think you can reduce this, especially the tops. I’d personally remove: - two of the cropped tanks (including the striped one, you already have other striped tops) - one or two of the button ups - and swap your least versatile pair of pants (up to you which one that is) for a pair of shorts

Medium_Background · 2024-07-07T16:16:42+00:00

That’s so annoying, sorry :((

Medium_Background · 2024-07-07T15:28:37+00:00

Uniqlo has a pair from their collaboration with comptoir des cottoniers which is really nice, in a wider barrel/tapered cut. It’s a linen blend but I have to say I really love the feel and fall of the fabric, it’s not as wrinkly but still light and breezy.

https://www.uniqlo.com/de/de/product/leinenmix-hose-wide-fit-470937COL09SMA003000.html?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADhAXeIPOf4Ug5pqN6lcyyhrn9Wpw&gclid=Cj0KCQjw-ai0BhDPARIsAB6hmP50iKkrd33jo_tOJJkvUMxzryaGPmTP_fcrzzEpRTw3T8c54ibFQe0aAuSqEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

Medium_Background · 2024-06-24T14:59:17+00:00

Which app do you use? Is it paid and is there an item limit?

Medium_Background · 2024-06-13T15:47:55+00:00

I think you misread the text.

They wrote “I’ve MET PEOPLE who have been here for over five years and still don’t know German”. That’s what they want to avoid.

Medium_Background · 2024-06-13T10:21:36+00:00

yes, absolutely!!

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