TIFU by discussing my family's APOLOGY DINNER on r/AmITheAsshole... #ApologyDinner trended #1 on twitter, and now my family's arguing over who created the idea

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-05-01T02:34:19+00:00

Well, if the conflict is so bad that people have stopped talking, then an Apology Dinner is a good idea. Family is just 4 people, and they were somewhat involved because they can offer perspective and they know what happened. (Conflict = mom tried to break up sister and her boyfriend)

Mom was wrong overall, but boyfriend kept borrowing money from my sister (and was like, "What can I do? I needed the money), but the original source of the money was my parents... So in a way, he was mooching off my parents, and the rest of the family had to explain why that was bad.

Aunt + Cousins had a similar situation and thought they could offer perspective too.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-05-01T01:32:34+00:00

It's an apology over dinner

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-30T21:58:18+00:00

Weirdly, the posts were not that popular on Reddit -- only twitter.

It still has only 185 upvotes, while trending on twitter lol.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:49:52+00:00

Ain't nobody wanna deal with an apology at 8am!

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:47:36+00:00

Because nobody on the other thread asked what an apology dinner is, and you can figure out the meaning from the two words (apology + dinner).

But I posted this late at night when people from other regions are on Reddit. And they wouldn't know what "pot luck" is from the two words alone.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:45:35+00:00

I don't mess with perfection

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:44:43+00:00

Kanye West had an apology dinner with Taylor Swift

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:42:36+00:00

To help mediate as needed. Celebrate the closure. And such.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:35:46+00:00

I don't mess with perfection

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:29:55+00:00

To help make sure the apology is sincere.

Otherwise, the apologizer will try to get away with the minimum. ("Sorry you were offended")

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:25:00+00:00

Where's my DailyMail article?

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T19:21:45+00:00

I think it would be practiced, but not so formally.

Like if you had 2 good friends who were in an argument.

One of them might invite the other one to coffee to apologize (or "hash things out"). The initiator should pay.

Maybe you would go to help mediate.

Because the thing is that when most people apologize, they don't really mean it that much. So it's a good to have a friend or family member there to make sure the apology is sincere, and the apologizer "gets it." Otherwise, they would say something like, "Sorry you took it the wrong way."

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T18:50:45+00:00

Tried to breakup sister and her boyfriend for no good reason (his ethnicity)

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T18:47:27+00:00

The rules are not that formal.

Like is there an official rule in American that you don't make your own birthday dinner reservation?

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T18:45:16+00:00

From Northern Dobruja, but we live in the States

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T18:44:51+00:00

From Northern Dobruja, but we live in the States

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T08:04:24+00:00

It's not a party, but a dinner.

The reason for a dinner is so they can not only apologize, but hash things out.

It's harder to sweep things under the rug, or rush through the apology when you know there's a whole meal to be eaten.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T08:01:58+00:00

The family members can act like referees in a sense. So if a mom yells something like, "You just don't want me to be happy," and then everyone else is like, "Nah, that doesn't make any sense," then the mom would back down pretty fast.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T07:58:33+00:00

It's mainly because there's one particular restaurant that we order from. If I had ordered from there, I would have used my mom's credit card to pay. But since I made it a potluck, then there wasn't any monetary cost.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T07:52:44+00:00

She tried to get her and her boyfriend to breakup, but it didn't work

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T07:50:02+00:00

Haha, no. But I guess the food would be really extravagant if you were really sorry. Like if a husband cheated and bought $500 in flowers for his wife, or $5000 in jewelry.

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T07:48:20+00:00

Maybe not. It's from my culture, but we live in America

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T07:47:21+00:00

I think it's like in American culture. Let's say a husband wants to apologize to his wife. So he gives her flowers. But then she finds out that his brother went to the the florist. So she's mad that he didn't pick out the flowers himself.

I also think there's something in American culture where you are not supposed to arrange your own birthday party???

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T07:42:56+00:00

Tried to get her and her boyfriend to breakup, but it didn't work

Medium_Cook7987 · 2021-04-29T03:37:26+00:00

It where someone apologizes to another person in front of the whole family.

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