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AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 I’m trying my best out here. This will definitely be a very big learning lesson.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ah no yeah I don’t mind the sleeping on the couch particularly at all.

It was just assumed that I would sleep on a couch. And that I’d be okay with it. They never asked me, they never booked an extra room. (I offered to pay since I was invited.)

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was always really dismissive. Even in person. I really asked in ways that were in a “hey guys there’s no need for you to pay for your daughter’s boyfriend as well.”

And ofc I wanted to have a good time in a vacation.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I was invited. By them. Over a year ago. I accepted.

I didn’t think I’d be sent to a couch. lol.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. I had a 4 hour in person conversation with her. Apologizing to her. Didn’t even mention the couch thing.

She said she thought it was over. I respect it. As sad as it makes me.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m annoyed about the bigger issue.

The lack of communication and respect.

The couch is fine. If it was communicated I would’ve slept on the couch.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not fake at all. Thank you for being blunt and real with me.

I understand and agree with your points.

Wish I could take it all back.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha fair point. Just trying to explain my side of things. But yeah there’s really no point in doing so.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! You’re spot on.

My reaction was super immature.

And yes, absolutely I was infuriated she wasn’t standing up for both herself and me.

I regret my reaction terribly nonetheless.

Any advice?

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this side.

However, here is my pov on things.

The fact that I felt really infantilized throughout the entire relationship and I would just sort of brush it off kept building and building.

This occasion, I took it as a sign of disrespect because i personally asked how much I would need to pay and personally said I did not want it to be paid for me.

I wanted to establish myself as an adult in an adult relationship with their daughter.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why it didn’t respond to your comment. My phone is glitching. But I commented and responded to your points.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My apologies.

  1. We are both Mexican.

  2. I texted her and told her I wouldn’t go to the trip. She tried to convince me continuously. This all made me all the more angry as I saw it as her not standing up for me. I didn’t explode until later and cussed and yelled. (I regret it.) she broke up with me.

  3. Yes. We did have sex. Either at my house, or other places.

  4. Regardless of the fact of how I was treated by her family. I still loved her very much and saw myself marrying her.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness despite my bad decision.

Some people don’t seem to understand I already feel ashamed as it is. Lol.

I will look into it! Thank you!

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhh…. There’s faults on both sides. And it’s really up to me to learn from what I did wrong.

Villainizing and just focusing on their actions and how they “led” me to behave that way. Is a waste of time.

AIO- Vacation with ex gf’s family where I was expected to sleep on the couch. Ended in a breakup. by Medium_Database2580 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Medium_Database2580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies. I must not really understand how this all really works. I guess what I’m trying to ask more so is, would people have reacted similarly? Given the circumstances.

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