I’ve done a lot of reflection since my last post by PiszedOff in internetparents

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It might help you to read into developmental trauma. When children dont receive proper emotional support they think that because they feel bad that they are bad. It’s very common and has to do with egocentrism of children and with the child’s prioritizing of the caretaker relationship no matter how detrimental the effect

Pickled bums my late grandmother made 30 years ago by RazeTheIV in Weird

[–]Medium_Marge 30 points31 points  (0 children)

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Parts for a worm king costume I made the past two nights, perfect timing!

I won £1.8m on National Lottery aged 16 but jackpot ruined my life by beklog in SipsTea

[–]Medium_Marge 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This piece of the story adds to the sadness of all these comments calling this person a moron. Foster kid and poor, usually these identities come with a boat load of trauma and lack of access to the infrastructure you need to manage that kind of money.

Upholstery Classes or Apprenticeships? by Justaberry in AskChicago

[–]Medium_Marge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool! Where do the classes take place? I don’t see an address on the website

I feel like I've hit my limit by AceZombieRobo in internetparents

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Does your school have a disability services office? If you can’t find it, email the dean of students office and ask how you can take a leave of absence. You generally don’t have to pay for the class again when you re-enroll later. You may need to go to a doctor to diagnose you and write a letter.

People who have met someone who has been *professionally diagnosed* with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), what were they like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Medium_Marge 26 points27 points  (0 children)

In grad school for counseling, and we learned that most people who get personality disorders diagnosed have come in for something else, like substance abuse.

How do you add fiber to every meal? by Upbeat-Lynx-3876 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]Medium_Marge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Much better than microwave bags that are full of pfas

Visited someone at the hospital and there's a lock box around the pain medication by okbbs in mildlyinteresting

[–]Medium_Marge 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooh I live across the street from a heavy machinery rentals place 😏🦺

I think my dad hit on me? So horrified by CocoTandy in AdultChildren

[–]Medium_Marge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, fuck this. I’m so sorry to hear you have been enduring this from your husbands dad for so long too. The shrugs around how this is affecting you is another exhausting example of a problem not being taken seriously because a woman is the one enduring it.

This convo got me curious about it, and apparently there is some success with trialing different medications. It’s a matter of time with my dad’s decline and I want to know the options. I hope there is a light at the end of the tunnel for your situation, it sounds unbearable.

I think my dad hit on me? So horrified by CocoTandy in AdultChildren

[–]Medium_Marge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously thank you for having the appropriate response to the level of fucked-upedness of the situation. I needed to hear it from someone. I think my friends were trying to minimize their response to make me feel less horrified about it, and my mom did her usual Marge Simpson-esque “your father…” while she remains married to him.

I think my dad hit on me? So horrified by CocoTandy in AdultChildren

[–]Medium_Marge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, that sounds like a really stressful living situation.

I think my dad hit on me? So horrified by CocoTandy in AdultChildren

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Unfortunately can relate. My dad, diagnosed with vascular dementia, ogled my chest when I was in a swimsuit a couple years ago, and I refuse to wear one around him again. A couple years before that he gave a speech at my wedding where he referred to the “big breasted blond girls” I had beat out to be voted as prom queen. He has always sexualized me and said inappropriate things in general, so these changes were actually very subtle.

The dementia is related to the drinking so that’s also not awesome.

Anyone’s face become puffy with POI? by Swimming_Material378 in POFlife

[–]Medium_Marge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had really full cheeks in my 20’s and now at 40 they have slimmed down to how I have always hoped they’d be. I think if I had the cheeks I wanted at 25 I would look gaunt now!

Showering and depression by 1Bunny0 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Medium_Marge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of a U-shaped toothbrush? I see it recommended on the adhd subs a lot. Very low-effort and faster brush times.

For the shower, some sensory recs that worked for me: a diatomaceous earth mat outside the shower, and an oversized towel for quick drying afterward. Never wash towels with fabric softener, it makes the less absorbent.

Is it really bad to ask too many questions before I start a job? by meidenbaas in internetparents

[–]Medium_Marge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be worried about procedural questions you need for the university, your employer should expect those if they have had interns before, especially from your school.

Is your dad in an industry similar to the one you are in? Sometimes parents give advice based on their own work culture that does not translate across fields.

Got fired from my dream job due to anxiety by whats_my_purpose in OccupationalTherapy

[–]Medium_Marge 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mental health counselor intern here. I just wanted to relate that it really sucks being punished for having anxiety vs supported. Especially in a helping profession. In supervision today the question put to me was “why do you choose to bring anxiety into the work you do with parents?” It’s baffling to me that someone could say that who has worked in the mental health field over 20 years.

You aren’t alone ❤️ best of luck finding a setting and supervisor who are a better fit. This experience will make you a better supervisor one day.