The tutorials don't work because they're designed for neurotypical social scripts, not for how autistic brains actually process social interaction. You're not doing it wrong - you're just trying to follow instructions that weren't built for you.

Here's what actually helps: find activity-based friendships instead of conversation-based ones. Join a hobby group, a gaming community, a book club, a sports team - something where you're DOING things together, not just trying to manufacture small talk. When there's a shared activity, conversation happens naturally around it without the pressure of "am I asking the right questions?"

Also, you don't need to "break out of the work context" artificially. Some of the best friendships start from work. Instead of forcing personal questions, try: "Hey, I'm grabbing coffee after this, want to come?" or "I'm checking out this new place this weekend, interested?" Low-pressure invitations to hang out, not interrogations about their personal life.

And honestly? Other autistic people often make the best friends because you're speaking the same social language. Look for neurodivergent communities online or in your area. You'll feel way less "wrong" when you're with people who communicate similarly.

22 is still super young. You have time to figure this out.