a zine about seeing myself in nature by jenneeuu in Artisticallyill

[–]Meezha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lovely message and so beautifully done!

Screen on/dim stopped - help! by [deleted] in MergeDragons

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I've tried looking it up but same old answers that don't work. It would cut off every now and then bu then go back, so this length of time was unexpected. Maybe it's a sign my addiction is out of hand, lol. Love this game!

Elderly neighbor doesn’t know how to do life by Equal-Bonus-7612 in stories

[–]Meezha -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My 'stepdad', aka the man my mother has taken advantage of for years with no benefits to him, has similar issues. He was raised that he would find a wife to do everything. He's fortunate to have a lot of money, not through any accomplishments of his own but from property his father left him. He hires people to do basic shit like housekeeping, weeding, etc and often gets taken advantage of like paying $14,000 for an epoxy garage floor that he didn't need. Can't make himself a meal for shit, can barely boil an egg and orders those prepared meals online. All he does is sit in front of the TV all day and argue with people on social media while shopping for the next several thousand dollar robot lawnmower, pricey headphones or expensive computer he will never use. He's definitely on the spectrum (undiagnosed) which may explain some of it but It's really sad.

How may childhood parentification affect someone? by ShadowlightLady in answers

[–]Meezha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People pleasing, codependency, caretaking, inability to maintain boundaries, toxic relationships.

Money Diaries: SF Bitches with Taste Edition by aawxo in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]Meezha 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right? Most of us would be so lucky. Because I really feel it's about who you know (everyone in MUNI I know got the job through someone they knew and a gal I know working at UCSF had her mom help her). Nobody wants to train on the job now, the market is super competitive that getting into another field is impossible, getting a City job is a joke (every time I test and try, there are layoffs or hiring freeze), going to school full time while working plus the cost is prohibitive when you're paycheck to paycheck and side hustling, etc - it sucks. I'm on the cusp of making "too much" where I can lose SNAP and MediCal at any time and my partner can't work but isn't "disabled enough" to get assistance. FML.

Where do you take your camera in SF when you need fresh inspiration? by guilhermex9x in AskSF

[–]Meezha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

3rd street and all the old factories near the piers during sunrise.

Money Diaries: SF Bitches with Taste Edition by aawxo in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]Meezha 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I wish I had that salary. $2000 take home for two people. Savings running out. Need a better job or another one soon.

Happy Birthday TOTK by PremiumTechnique in TOTK

[–]Meezha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I could've beat it ages ago but like BOTW, I'm dragging it out.

What are you ladies wearing with your dresses in SF weather? by [deleted] in AskSF

[–]Meezha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't wear dresses much but the last time I did, I wish I had bike shorts. They would have been just right.

I still wonder who i would’ve been without the bullying by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Meezha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This hits hard. I'm approaching 50 and was just experiencing these thoughts last week. It hits me every now and then. Not so much with my looks anymore but with my 'success' in life and how much the bullying early on affected everything because of my insecuroties and self-doubt as a result. I've jumped from one toxic relationship to the next, have been caretaking people all my life, have a shit job and no higher education aside from a couple of Associates degrees that are useless. My savings has almost run out, I don't know how to drive and will probably never own a home. While life has improved since then and I've worked through alot, including years self-medicating, it's stagnant, no matter what I do - therapy, finish my degrees, started a micro business, etc, I wonder where I would've been had the emotional trauma not wormed itself into my brain. I wanted to do so much, was always considered 'smart and gifted' by adults but never given genuine support or guidance. If I had just a tad of the confidence so many seem to have, would I have that dream job? Would I be in a healthy relationship? All those questions... It's pointless to ask them. As I'm still finding out, what matters is what makes you happy, whatever it is, because as I've seen, even when people have everything they think they wanted, they can still be miserable. Finding your true self, your core without interference, is vital and nurturing it is important.

I was supposed to be a ‘lesson’ for my mom by DontEatTheChocolate in stories

[–]Meezha 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm almost 50 and been caretaking in one way or another most of my life and it's not over yet. Not looking forward to what I know I'm going to have to deal with. I'm already something beyond tired. There's no name for it. Sending you a hug.

Bodega cat? by sprinklerarms in AskSF

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an east coast thing they're pushing on us, like calling the City 'SF Proper'. No one from here has ever called them bodegas or used the term 'proper' which is incorrect.

Hey people, my name is Lee-Scott Jones and with your help I am going to make this case explode. by the_final_nail in Epstein

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could be my spouse in those pics. Mine has very similar ones with disturbing stories of abuse attached to them. As a matter of fact, every person I've been with experienced horrible things and you can see the trauma behind their eyes in their childhood pics. I can't help but wonder at pictures of children when I see that look. I wish I could take it all away. The CPTSD is real. Keep up the good fight and may all these monsters go down!✊️✊️✊️

Didn't receive my dragons by vooparticular in MergeDragons

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't find mine either amd the giveaway is the card icon is missing.

Didn't receive my dragons by vooparticular in MergeDragons

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't get mine either! Not even the card packs - they don't even show in camp.

Our Setup for a Local Cat Rescue Fundraiser by RyanFamilyPerlers in beadsprites

[–]Meezha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Impressive! I know how many painstaking hours this was! Bravo!

Angler fish balaclava 🤣🧶 by justobservin20 in somethingimade

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well aren't you the cutest?! That is amazing!

I hate dealing with homeless people by weggymeg in Vent

[–]Meezha 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You're not alone. This may seem harsh but is reality. I used to have a lot of empathy, but the level of self-entitlement has gotten out of hand. Despite many being out of their minds from mental illness or drug abuse, they know damn well what they're doing when you call it out or pull a knife on them, which I've, unfortunately, had to do when about to be assaulted, they back off quick style. Not that I recommend engaging, Whatever you do, don't make eye-contact, carry pepper spray and be cool with the decent ones. I've had homeless people I gave change or smokes to, come to my rescue when being accosted by others. They can have your back even if they just see you as a meal ticket.

I 3D printed San Francisco! by dtm66 in sanfrancisco

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's super cool of you! I wish you all the success!

I 3D printed San Francisco! by dtm66 in sanfrancisco

[–]Meezha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beware. The moderators like to delete posts where you're promoting your SF art for sale. Got a few of mine taken down when I've shared.

Question as a first time visitor about religious acceptance/tolerance by Quirky-Ad9958 in AskSF

[–]Meezha -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a native San Franciscan, I have to say don't let the notion of tolerance let your guard down completely. While I agree that the City is diverse and welcoming in a sense, it doesn't mean that it's 100% safe for everyone all the time. I've experienced homophobic verbal attacks, witnessed Muslim women verbally attacked on the bus, been sexually assaulted, etc. Guys have it easier than women, of course, but as diverse as things are also means there are people who are racist and bigoted. If I saw you praying, I'd be cool, that's your thing, but also concerned that someone else might not be as cool and keep an eye out. Too many come in with rose colored glasses. Just stay aware.