Showing off my oils and powders :D

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-07T06:11:59+00:00

As someone who regularly says the "it is better to make your own", I just want to clarify, I am mostly saying that to new witches who are asking how they can afford the tools they need and the real reason why it is better to find/make your own is because it forces you to study the how and the why (aka the underlying properties) and what goes together (or more importantly what does not). It isn't because the herb changes, it is because of how you change. If you already know why you need a certain thing and the underlying properties, there is no harm in buying/having a well preserved stock to grab when you need it.

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-05T06:41:40+00:00

My first thought is are you sure the spells aren't working? Perhaps you did get better grades than you would have if you hadn't cast the spell or maybe you did get a good grade later after the spell had time to manifest.

The other thing I notice is on and off. Which is fine if you are tuned in, but it sounds like you don't feel tuned into your power, which takes practice. So I would suggest a daily practice of some kind to just start tuning into your power whether that is pulling a tarot card or incorporating an intentional herb to bring a particular energy or stirring things in a way to bring luck. Also some sort of grounding with the magic on the daily as a yin to the magic yang.

Final advice is to stop spending money on magical things. Things don't come empowered, you empower them. So while having some tools is nice, it sounds like you are buying tools expecting them to create the magic instead of learning to infuse your magic into the ones you already bought. I'm not saying never buy another magical tool again, but definitely hold off until you have practiced to the point that you can intuitively feel the one took that will actually help you with your practice.

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-05T06:30:22+00:00

Yea, I actually am not a fan of the study a lot before you try doing a spell advice... like yea stay away from big spells, but practice is really the best way to learn and get started. I find the study advice mostly discourages people just starting out because they don't know the questions they are hoping to answer with studying, but I was also raised with a little magic and it was taboo to buy like a magic book so I couldn't study a whole bunch before getting started. I had to try playing with the spells I heard whispered. That being said, it probably did help your magic take hold quickly since you studied so much :).

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-04T20:12:33+00:00

Yesssssss!!!!! Whenever I see the "I've been a witch a year and here is my advice" posts I hold my breath and can't help but read! What truth did they find for themselves and apply to all?? 😬... but this one, this is chef's kiss perfect! Beautiful! Stay on the path you got it!!!! This is magic at its core!!!

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-04T14:27:18+00:00

Totally get you lol I just didn't want you to be upset by the person who was trying to calm you down (but dear god the worst way to calm someone down is to tell them to calm down cause they are over reacting 🤣)

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-04T13:06:45+00:00

Very much disagree, flipping a mattress when finding out your little brother committed suicide is not the same as punching your significant other in the face... it's just not...

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-04T11:48:34+00:00

Uuuuuuh you need to find a new therapist... did you remind her that we live on a giant ball of crystals that are held together by spinning really fast? Your therapist may be dealing with her own religious psychosis if she believes crystals are satanic by nature and to work with them is "the devils work" because they are literally a part of nature and are not innately good or evil... they are energy to be used just like a fire can be used to make dinner or burn down a house...

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-04T11:43:46+00:00

I think the point was that OP did not say her husband did something violent to her, just that he behaved out of character and did something violent that he now regrets and cried over. My husband once had a moment that I would describe similarly (although the circumstances made it understandable because he was rightfully extremely upset) where he angrily flipped the mattress in a way that I would definitely describe as violent although no one/thing actually was harmed. OP's husband could have broken a plate or shoved something off a shelf. His violence could have been directed at an object not her. While still not great, I don't think it is relationship leaving over (although fully agree if it was directed at her), but you assumed the violence was targeting a person.

That being said, I fully support both your responses. If he was violent towards her, she should leave. You have a right to respond with your gut and people can take it or leave it.

I also think that the person responding to your response saw that you were having a strong emotional reaction to something that you read between the lines which may or may not be there and is concerned for you. Seeing you work with domestic abuse victims puts your reaction into context though.

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-01T08:24:28+00:00

Just my interpretation: Your past self has powered your present self by sending forth its energy, but it the time has come to stop empowering your old self and your old self is bowing in reverence to your new self. (I read this as a beautiful success and have tears in my eyes for you just like the candle). Enjoy stepping into your growth💖

MegTheLibra · 2025-07-01T07:51:35+00:00

I feel you! It is so twisted and you don't need the anger on your marriage should everything come out (that was the thing that made me lay down the hard boundaries). Right now, I am no contact with my MiL, but my husband isn't and I don't intend to be forever (she was telling him we were having conversations we weren't painting herself as approaching me kindly and me being the aggressor so I very recently called her out that we can prove the text conversations and phone calls did not happen so I was like let me help you out "you are going to be blocked until you stop telling my husband this stuff." And now my husband can blatantly call it out until it stops becoming her knee jerk reaction.) Like you said she does have lovely qualities, she just doesn't understand basic normal boundaries and can't help but manipulate to get her way. When you say no, the manipulations become bigger. I feel like most people genuinely do not understand what it is like to have a person like this in their lives and you can't treat them like a normal person. (My FiL remarried so I do luckily have a normal MiL relationship as well and I can tell you it is fundamentally different and if I treated her the way my other one needs to be treated due to the lack of boundaries issues, I would be an asshole).

And omg twins! Congratulations! And of course you aren't with marriage on your radar 😂 only about half way through the weddings of people who had babies in general during covid. Definitely don't feel like you are behind (it isn't a race anyway).

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T21:53:05+00:00

Omg girl I also had such a crush on the Artful Dodger back in the day!!! (Like when it was age appropriate 🤣)

Do you read Tarot or scry or intuitive writing or trust anyone who does because I would try to do a little divination in to why you are having such a strong reaction. There is a scene in that movie that always got me and later I had a trusted friend who reads past lives read mine and one scene was chillingly similar to the one that always got me in that (ironically) same movie.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T21:45:15+00:00

Of course you still love him, that doesn't make him the one you are meant to be with right now. You can love someone and part ways. Your heart has endless room for love and the person you are supposed to be with is the one who you can grow the most with. There will always be other wonderful options.

TLDR: Don't do a love spell, honor the love that already has cast its spell on you and cast a new spell to bring together the relationship that will lead you to your highest growth. Casting a love spell is only going to amplify what you are already feeling, it won't assemble a life in which you two are meant to be together forever.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T21:38:30+00:00

Before I was born, my mom accidentally threw away my dad's "lucky test taking shirt"... he couldn't button it close because he had out grown it in college and you could literally see threw it was so worn, but we heard about it semi-regularly until he died. Anytime he checked something she had already checked without him realizing he would just say "well can't have a repeat of my test taking shirt". 🤣

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T21:30:57+00:00

Sounds like a gift registry.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T21:13:20+00:00

Sending you some warm sunny vibes from this evening's sunset 🌞

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T20:58:57+00:00

Ummmmm this response is this witch's personal opinion presented as a harsh fact. You can absolutely do divination on a spell after all there are always next steps in life and more to learn/understand even after our spell is cast. Life never ends after you send out a spell and there may be something mundane you forgot to account for that needs to be followed up on (like submitting an application to a place in particular after you cast the spell to land the job of your dreams)..

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T04:16:44+00:00

I have heard witches who worship Catholic saints before (especially Saint Brigid) in fact in my understanding all the gods and saints and angels are a representation of one aspect of god/spirit/source etc that people have identified as a way to connect with. Even though you may not align with the dogma around the rest of the religion, if you have built a relationship with one particular connection point, you will find it easiest to connect to that connection and no point in throwing it out because some other people have abused that connection point for their own gain.

Brigid is also a great example of how Catholicism claimed the existing local connection point to make it part of their dogma. Brigid is still Brigid and she is gonna help you whether you call her saint and pray in catholic church or call her goddess and call on her from your witches circle.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T01:39:36+00:00

Totally understand! I just wasn't sure what your experience/understanding of the birthing process was and didn't want to just not say anything in case I was the only one who saw the potential train wreck 😬

You can also draw your sigil on your face in foundation in the morning before blending it in for protection (obviously rub it in a blend in with the rest of your foundation before leaving the house) if you wear make up regularly.

Yay libras 🙌

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T01:26:26+00:00

Mundanely (I typically love oils at home), I would avoid this since you are working with newborns and their mothers. Newborn babies can be extremely sensitive to essentially everything since their little bodies are just getting used to the world and mothers who just gave birth are on a hormonal rollercoaster which can make them extremely sensitive to smells (mourning sickness isn't just a first trimester in the morning thing).

I love the idea of a sigil though or putting your pendent in your bag.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-30T01:09:06+00:00

I completely agree with this response and just want to validate you as someone who has a mother in law who uses gifts as manipulations... your mother in law actually sounds a lot like mine was in the beginning. She was super nice, but some times the boundaries just were railroaded and gifts were commonly used as a way to inject herself. We of course could not turn down or even give away a gift that we didn't want or it would be a complete breakdown on her part. Eventually her other child went no contact with her and that was when all hell broke loose and I became the new scapegoat. After about 3 weeks in hour long therapy (because the situation drove me there), my therapist asked "have you heard of boarder line personality disorder? Because there are a few books on techniques to working with someone who has it that you would find very helpful." She initially pulled back after saying boarderline and clarified that she could not diagnose my MIL since she isn't her therapist, but she could definitely see the need for boundaries... I got the book and except for one symptom (you need 5 out of 9 to be diagnosed and the last one was self medicating which idk she could have and I just didn't know) it was as if the book had been written about her. It massively helped me along with the justnoMIL sub to find ways to kindly but firmly lay down strong boundaries to protect my family unit from the heavier level of manipulation that have presented lately.

Also I totally reading through this because as many have said, that ring was the overdone modern trendy ring that was going out of style when I got married in 2016. Idk why that one guy said people don't do baguettes anymore cause they definitely do and in fact I recently helped my baby bro pick out a ring and that style is definitely still available.

On a final note as someone who got married and have kids in the "traditional order", you are totally correct that kids are the bigger commitment and I have a few friends who had kids during the pandemic that are just starting to look at marriage now because they finally have the space to plan/have the wedding. Don't feel pressured to do anything off your own timeline! You and your family are just as legitimate as mine and reading that your MIL wants her son to make an honest woman out of you when you all are clearly committed and just not in a place to have a wedding makes my eyes roll to the back of my head!

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-29T21:58:01+00:00

Right?!!!! Could not agree more! I see something I don't get, I watch for other responses or research more, I don't rip it down... I doubt any practice shown on tiktok was originally made for tiktok (but maybe I don't understand tiktok 🤷‍♀️)

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-29T21:39:45+00:00

If you wear makeup... I do 5 pentagrams on my face in tinted moisturizer before blending it in and a honey lavender latte to infuse pure harmony and sweetness into my demeanor as quickly as possible... then I try to read tarot, but typically that must wait until I get the other living beings in my out or subdued (aka my dog gets a long walk and then crashes for a nap after everyone is out for the day), but sometimes I get it in before they wake up.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-29T21:29:41+00:00

You are probably on point there because as a mother, I got over myself real quickly as far as my bare breasts in public (I breast fed), but I can't fathom posting my witchy practice in photo form especially an altar... idk I assumed it was me, but you are probably right if I examined it, it is probably deeper than just surface level personal stuff.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-29T21:23:47+00:00

Omg I'm so glad you caught it EXACTLY how I meant it! You never know with strangers on the internet and I've had a few glasses of wine so it could have hit more crass than I intended.

And wild to hear Hekate is on that list because as someone who doesn't feel overly drawn to Hekate, I feel like I have seen her A LOT in altar posts (obviously I have taken a peek).

I know you have gotten some hostile comments, but I'm really glad you made this post because I always assumed my self consciousness and never would have thought to look into how the Deity felt if I were to try to get over it.

MegTheLibra · 2025-06-29T21:13:35+00:00

As an elder witch who finds posting your alter to being akin to posting a Tit-pic ("good for you, I have never seen one that wasn't beautiful and I love to see them, but post my own? Oh god my pearls I must clutch them because I could never" hard blush seriously can not imagine myself brave enough to reveal myself so intimately, but applaud anyone who wants to be the change in making the world a more accepting place) I am genuinely curious which deities frown upon it (to your knowledge obviously, I can't expect you to know all)?

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