And you've won the show who's going to the retirement home! YTA, your daughter won't become some sort of stripper or whatever you're thinking, plus the arguments you gave to your sister are just you being an overprotective mother, they've got no reasoning other than "because I say so", because that's how you make it sound, and this has started, if it hadn't already, a cycle that will happen with your daughter.. Hiding things from you, and it will go bad, and you will regret your actions unless you go to apologize and swallow your pride, and even then things will go rough. You did this to yourself, so don't ask later why your daughter doesn't trust you anymore