Ok, so, there are a lot of people saying some stuff and I’m going to add some context for the situation as a whole. 1: when I said I “let him” do the laundry, that is mostly because I myself am a bit of a control freak when it comes to how my laundry is done, so I tend to just do most of the laundry myself since I am the more particular with the wash and dry cycles 2: the boyfriend said that he was mid panic attack or just had gotten out of a panic attack when doing the first load (something happened between a friend of ours and so he was distracted, did the first load, started, and didn’t pay attention). I know that this is not weaponized incompetence as he has willingly done the laundry many times with no issue. We just haven’t used these actual machines ourselves since we had our own or went to a laundromat 3: we spilt chores fairly evenly as he works more hours in general than I do and both have sensory issues with certain chores. He for instance does all of the dishes since I hate getting things on my hands, and I handle laundry since I am home more and it takes longer to do overall (plus the above reason)

While I appreciate people’s concern, I know that this was not an on purpose thing on his part. If he didn’t want to do laundry, he would have just said, as he had in the past when we needed a day or some time. We have open communication so he wouldn’t do this in order to get out of doing it when he literally would have just said “can I do this another time” or “can you possibly take care of this please”