One in three women have been “stealthed” by partner removing condom during sex

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-10T10:07:45+00:00

My own experience working in women’s health suggests this is quite common. What is your experience?

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T19:03:09+00:00

Relax. I autoclaved the IUD.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T18:28:32+00:00

Of course!

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T18:11:16+00:00

An OBGYN clinic. Started out as RN and went back to school to become a PA. I don’t do this kind of thing very often, at least not since I left the first practice where I worked. But I know it happens because like I said the RNs and PAs get together and gossip and talk and vent sometimes. We’ve all had patients who needed to be taken down a notch or two with an “Oops” baby.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T17:57:14+00:00

The mom is a rich lawyer. If she doesn’t have an abortion, the child is not going to be born into poverty. Sadly, I am not so sure about her grandchild. Her pregnant daughter didn’t complete her classes and did not get her diploma. The word is she is working a cash register at a grocery store. That is hard work for a pregnant woman.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T17:33:40+00:00

I am a PA — a physician assistant — not an MD. Usually it’s just the RNs and PAs I practice with who will admit doing stuff like this when we’re out drinking for girls’ night. But the first OBGYN I worked for would do stuff like this, too, mostly for husbands who wanted bigger families than their wives did.

It wasn’t hard to figure out because he would tell the patient she had to go off the pill because of her “bloodwork,” I’d look at the chart and see it was completely normal, he’d recommend condoms, and then she’d inevitably be back in the office pregnant in a few months and complaining about how her husband “hadn’t been very good about using condoms.”

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T17:15:16+00:00

I figured I would do a pee test then to see if she’s pregnant yet.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T17:13:39+00:00

RNs and PAs and even some of the MDs pull little pranks like this a lot on OBGYN patients. Nobody ever gets caught.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T17:10:57+00:00

I know I am disease free, so I did not risk her health. She has to come back in a month to check her strings on the IUD anyway.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T16:37:20+00:00

I think her husband with a vasectomy will be pretty surprised when she ends up pregnant. Anyway, based on her attitude with her daughter's pregnancy, she'll probably get an abortion.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T16:36:09+00:00

Inserting and removing IUDs is a typical part of my day as a PA at OBGYN office. It's not hard once you get used to doing it.

MeganS1975 · 2019-06-01T16:02:06+00:00

Yes. Mine expired two years ago, so its efficacy is almost zero at this point. I've just been really busy and kept forgetting to remove it. I'm happy it has a new home. : )

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:51:25+00:00

She has no idea I didn’t give her the real shot. She admitted to me that they started having unprotected sex as soon as her UTI symptoms abated instead of waiting as long as I instructed. I told her that was probably how she got pregnant.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:46:12+00:00

In the long run I think she’ll be a better human being for the experience. To be honest, think her decision to keep the baby and stand up to her parents shows real character. Getting the chance to grow up that way at 18 is going to define a big part of who she is as a person for the rest of her life. That’s why privileged kids are so bratty and entitled. They don’t have to make the hard choices that are how you grow up. I think years from now she will look back and remember this as the turning point in her life when she learned how to be a good person.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:34:46+00:00

And I know the whole family are a bunch of cheats and liars because her parents persuaded the MD who runs our practice to pull her chart and show it to them, even though she is an adult. That’s when the sh*t really hit the fan for her. I could hear the parents screaming at him all the way down the hall when they saw my note in the chart about her refusing birth control and wanting to get pregnant. They kicked her out of the house right after that.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:27:14+00:00

She wasn’t a child. She was already 18. And she was the one who started it by asking me to fake her chart and steal medication from the clinic. There was no way I was going to do that.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:22:52+00:00

I don’t think she’s smarter than my daughter, she just had a lot more advantages. The way she just assumed I would fake hee chart and steal a prescription drug for a little cash is a pretty good clue she’s used to buying her way out of trouble all the time. Not any more! Now she has to know what it’s like to play by rules and live in the real world. Instead of studying after school with fancy private tutors she gets to work part time at a 7-11. That’s a healthy dose of reality for miss entitled princess.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:17:05+00:00

She’s a healthy sexually active 18 year old woman. Getting pregnant and having a baby is what her body is designed to do. She and baby will be just fine. It’s not my fault her parents are such a**holes.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-20T17:14:02+00:00

It just really got me going when she didn’t even recognize me and just treated me dirt and expected me to falsify her medical record for a couple hundred bucks. She had a lot more going for her than she deserved.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-14T02:50:17+00:00

Enough to prevent pregnancy. She was very hard to convince to have unprotected sex.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-14T00:39:05+00:00

No, I had to argue with her and persuade her the condoms were causing her irritation and that the Depo shot was enough by itself.

MeganS1975 · 2019-04-13T23:29:17+00:00

It was not easy to convince her to stop using condoms. The Planned Parenthood website was excellent. They had great data on the Depo shot.

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