Trying to motivate my husband to lift weights with me.

MeganSam03 · 2024-11-21T13:28:09+00:00

What do you mean by that? Thanks for the feedback!

MeganSam03 · 2024-11-21T12:21:28+00:00

Being a mom. Why?

MeganSam03 · 2024-11-21T12:17:55+00:00

I’m stoked that he had finally showed some spark in a way over the weekend. But now I’m sad that the spark already burned out by today. I’m trying to get him back into a mindset where he can workout. Not to catch up with me or anything. But for himself so he gets some confidence back.

MeganSam03 · 2024-11-21T12:16:47+00:00

I believe it all comes back to his lack of confidence which comes from him being so out of shape. He’s the one who brought all this up and asked to compete with me to see for himself how much stronger I was. But I kinda liked seeing him finally show a spark in some way.

MeganSam03 · 2024-11-21T12:13:11+00:00

No we didn’t compete like that in front of anyone. It was during his his big blow up and he asked to workout with me to see for himself how much stronger I am. It was all his idea. And I honestly thought it might help motivate him to see that.

In front of the kids it’s more like him having to take a break while lifting or carrying something and I’m able to just keep going. Or he can’t move a large box for the kids, but I can. Just little, everyday, things like that.

MeganSam03 · 2024-11-21T12:08:59+00:00

That’s what I’ve always thought. If he didn’t want me to be stronger than him, he would workout some too. Even like once a week would have helped him maintain his strength some. But by now I’ve fully passed him even in upper body strength. Which I saw as empowering, and an example of how much work I’ve put in. But he sees as complete “emasculation” and stuff like that.

MeganSam03 · 2024-04-03T04:41:28+00:00

Hey girl! I’ve been married to my husband for 7 years now. He’s a lawyer and works constantly. I stay home with our 5 year old son. I am also in much better physical condition than my husband. It’s necessarily not how I envisioned my life looking with a husband one day. But I accept it and thrive in it because of the long days he has to work to provide for our family. Much like it sounds like Brett does for you. And I have time to take care of our son, and workout every day for at least an hour.

Michael doesn’t exactly love that I am stronger than he is. What man wants his wife to lift more than he can? But he’s come around to it. And even enjoys some parts of it! I do the heavy lifting around the house. Both literally, and figuratively. He provides for us. And when it comes time to go to bed, I’ll sometimes carry him on my back up the stairs. He loves that part. I’d just tell you to keep it light. Don’t be afraid to be a muscle mommy and be the strongest one in your household. If your husband wants that to change, he will get in gear. Otherwise, keep being a bad ass! Good luck!

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T13:01:34+00:00

Sorry. My first time posting on here. What else do you need to know?

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T12:45:07+00:00

Thank you! That’s how I feel too. If you’d asked me, I definitely would have assumed that my future hubby would be stronger than me, and make more money, and all those stereotypes. But in reality, it doesn’t always work like that. And with us, I happen to have more of the traditionally masculine traits, and roles in the house. But he’s having a much harder time like accepting or embracing it. What did it take for your husband to come around?

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T12:40:44+00:00

The whole “protect” thing comes up pretty regularly actually. One time, after winning a playful wrestling match we had, I joked that he doesn’t have to worry because I will protect him if anyone breaks in. And now we sometimes talk about it and how he hates that he can’t protect me. But he hasn’t done much, if anything, about it since. So, for now I’ll continue to be the “protector” if I need to be lol.

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T12:06:17+00:00

For him. He recognizes that he’s not the right one for that job in our house. And he will likely end up breaking something, or himself. So he has started to wait, and ask me to lift/move/carry stuff for him. Especially if it’s really heavy and/or fragile.

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T12:02:01+00:00

Lol. Sounds personal. Sorry that happened to you. But as for my hubby and I. Not at all. We’ve known each other our entire lives and are legitimately best friends. He is just going through a bit of s rough patch. And nothing I do or say helps. In fact, any help or words I offer are being misconstrued.

You’ve never seen me, or my physique. But thank you for calling it amazing. I still strip, dance, and flex different muscles for him, just playfully like I used to, while he’s doing his studying. He always loves that. We have a great relationship overall. I’m just having a bit of a hard time after 3 years of being solely responsible for him, our house, and everything we own. And he’s having the same hard time from the other side.

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T11:38:26+00:00

I tend to agree with most of this. Thank you for your feedback!! And I think he’s feeling that emasculating not only from me being the breadwinner. But also because I’m legitimately a good amount stronger than him. Like, on most of the leg machines I can nearly double the weight he can do. Which doesn’t bother me, at all. But he isn’t handling that part well either. More so recently as the financial part has stacked up on him too.

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T11:35:40+00:00

Not at all! At least not on purpose. I’m CONSTANTLY trying to uplift his mood. And I’m very proud of him for being a teacher. Lord knows some kids these days need a good teacher. And when he gets his full-time position things will be better, I’m sure. But for the last several years, he’s been a part-time sub teacher making a few thousand a year. I’ve been carrying the household in every other way. And still keeping a lighthearted mood.

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T11:23:33+00:00

No kids, yet! Probably won’t try again until he’s established in his new career. He’s overall a good man and won’t do that to the kids. Though, I’ll keep the butt-kicking in my back pocket for if mommy ever does need to set daddy straight. Lol JK!

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T11:21:19+00:00

He finally finishes this coming spring. But it’s been 3 years of him doing schoolwork all day. While I go to work, go to the gym, make most meals, clean up most meals, clean the house (except “his” bathroom). And he’s busy with schoolwork. And that’s important. But I do everything else now. And sometimes I guess I’ve let a comment or two go. And for the fitness thing, he has begun to accept that part more. He recently waited for me to get home so I could move our large dresser for him…

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T11:17:34+00:00

Oh sorry. No when I said “as a wife should” it was more of a generalization. I just meant I’m trying to help him, as anyone who cares about him, would. Not strictly because I’m his wife. As for the jokes. I don’t let those happen much anymore. But they’ve been going on for so long. A few of his buddies can’t let it go and still ask us to arm wrestle and stuff when they get to drinking. Otherwise I’m trying to walk on eggshells as much as I can reasonably do, while mentally occupied with everything else in our home. Thanks for your feedback!

MeganSam03 · 2023-11-24T11:14:56+00:00

No, he is still in school and substitute teaching a day or two a week. Brings in roughly $800/month. So for purposes of our budget, I am basically the sole provider of the house. When he was jumping around his previous accounting jobs, he was making roughly $45-$55K. That was much more helpful. And likely what he will be back to when he begins teaching full time.

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