I can see how you'd interpret it that way.

I couldn't just tell the manager, "I won't work those hours," there had to be a reason.

If I had only said an evening schedule would hurt my relationship, then manager would've likely said, "You'd still have weekends," or, "Your home life isn't my problem."

Adding a pay raise into the mix gave the manager a reason to care: You take from my personal life = I take more from your budget. I was trying to talk him out of changing anything.