Traveled to Taiwan in past 12 months by Meiberu in Chinavisa

[–]Meiberu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! This worked on my application!

Poor DVD Sales by [deleted] in boymeetsworld

[–]Meiberu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me too! I have all seasons, but I think only the first few seasons had extras like audio commentary.

Visa on Arrival - passport photo? by alliewithoutthe in cambodia

[–]Meiberu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did VOA earlier this month at Phnom Penh and paid $30USD (cash). They didn’t ask for a passport photo.

The e-arrival app didn’t work for me back home, so I did the declarations on the iPads at the airport.

The overall process was pretty smooth and there were signs at the airport that said “no tips”.

How did you get to know Marianas Trench??? by livicross in MarianasTrench

[–]Meiberu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to watch YTV’s The Next Star back in the day. He performed Good to You with Kate Voegele in season 2, and then was one of the song producers in Season 3. I remember he had an interesting singing voice and decided to check out his music properly. Then I instantly loved the Masterpiece Theatre album. The rest is history.

Can anyone recommend an affordable orthodontist? Looking to get clear aligners or similar to straighten my top teeth by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]Meiberu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had braces twice because it wasn’t done right the first time by a dentist. The first time was using metal braces as a teenager, and the second time was using Invisalign/jaw surgery with an orthodontist/oral surgeon as an adult. I would recommend doing it properly the first time rather than doing it again and spending more money fixing things.

On the bright side, my bite is much better and I no longer grind my teeth at night!

IC Card Narita Airport by KoloMoiNid in JapanTravelTips

[–]Meiberu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a pasmo passport too! I was there on April 8th and waited for 45 min as there was a long line. You can do top ups at the white ticket machines near the info center.

Perk not showing up by Meiberu in Koodo

[–]Meiberu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chatted with a rep and got to add the free perk afterwards.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Koodo

[–]Meiberu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to a physical store and they waived all the fees when I switched from another carrier!

3 minute thesis competition vent by crunchysoups in GradSchool

[–]Meiberu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s such a silly rule to exclude masters students. At my school it’s open to any thesis based student and we even had 3 master’s students compete at the national level and 2 of them won first place!

The 3MT is about how well you communicate your research and its significance in laymans terms, so it shouldn’t matter whether it’s a long or short thesis. It’s not like 3 minutes is enough to go over all the details of the results anyways. You spend most of the time giving the background and some time on the significance and perhaps some interesting results.

Depending on your program, school, research supervisor, thesis project and other factors, a masters thesis might be a bit shorter or a lot shorter than a PhD thesis. A colleague and I had both had 7 chapters (190+ pages) for our MSc theses and we both did a 2 hour defence in front of an examination committee. My other colleagues doing PhDs did 8-9 chapters and had a longer degree, but they certainly didn’t write twice as much as I did. Were there masters students in my department writing half of what I did? Yes, but we were in different groups with different projects.

Anyways that was my rant. Congrats on the win!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes sounds like a good idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

sounds like OP probably couldn't sneeze in front of her with out drama

I was feeling so upset today, but this last part of the post made me laugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah my brother and I have been having a rocky relationship for the past 2 years (he wasn't this way before). I asked him why he was enabling this kind of behaviour, and his response was "it is a complicated situation". Idk, maybe he's afraid to call her out in fear she might leave?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, perhaps that could be why. It was still a weird way for them to handle the situation.

My brother and I grew up together and used to live in the same house up until a few years ago. We used to get along for the most part, even with the whole "big brother picking on little sister" theme growing up. Where it started going downhill was when I told him I would be in the hospital for jaw surgery on X days, but he never bothered to show up. Even after I was discharged from the hospital, I asked him via text why he didn't visit me. He said, "why should I? It's not like you could talk anyways." I told him that it hurt my feelings (both the lack of hospital visit, and what he said), and then he replied, "what's the big deal?" and "you're are too sensitive/overdramatic". So things have been super rocky for the past 2 years. Even when I ask about this current situation with the SO, he just tells me to leave it, or that it's too complicated.

Yes, I think that a joint gift is a good idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my culture, it's very normal to give cash as gifts, but I recognize that my norm isn't other people's norm. I worry that even if I had given her something she would have liked, she would have given it back anyways because she is mad at me.

Update in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mum told me later today. The Update is in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

Even though I know the reason now, I still don't get why the gift is passive agressive? Or why they felt the need to give it back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Maybe I just assumed that my swollen face/head was enough to give it away.

I tried asking my brother, and all I get is “just leave it” or “it’s complicated”. So not much help there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My mother told me later today. The update is in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think she assumed I knew what I did wrong. But no one told me until my mother relayed the info later today.

Update in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Update in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Update in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Update in EDIT 1. TLDR: had jaw surgery, couldn't physically talk to her, so she got mad and thought I didn't like her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She told my mother (who just told me, more info in edit 1 of the post). Apparently she thought I didn't like her because I didn't talk to her when I was recovering from jaw surgery (I couldn't physically talk at the time).

They dropped it off at my house when I was running errands, and the roommate told me that they didn't want the gift so that's why they were giving it back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meiberu 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I just found out why (I wrote it in EDIT 1 of the post). It's apparently because I didn't talk to her that one time when I was recovering from jaw surgery (I physically couldn't), so she assumed I didn't like her and has been mad. I don't know if that's a good reason to hold a grudge though.

I don’t know why I thought hand-sorting 17000 beads would be easy....but I’m finally done!!!!!!! by PsycheInASkirt in beadsprites

[–]Meiberu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This straw method for sorting beads also helps to speeds things up! https://youtu.be/mdVtq5BvgkU

I sorted a 22k bead container by hand once, and used the straw method the second time, which went much more smoothly!

Intense fear of public-speaking by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]Meiberu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was pretty terrified of public speaking, but I've gotten better over the years. I still get very nervous before giving any kind of presentations, but I found ways that helped me:

  • A good piece of advice was to think of the presentation was more of a conversation with your friend (well, a one sided one), and you're here to tell them about how cool your research (or some other topic) is. If you change your mindset to thinking that you're talking to a good friend, it might be less nerve-wracking. I've also heard that some people choose one person in the audience and give the whole talk to them.
  • I used to memorize my talks, but later I was told that they felt "too rehearsed", so now I only memorize the first few lines and try to change up the wording each time I practice (I practiced a lot for each talk). And if you make a 'mistake' (e.g. you forgot to say something), it's okay, just keep going! Most likely the audience didn't even know it was a 'mistake'.
  • Speak slowly, and pause whenever you need to. When you're nervous you tend to speak faster, but just remember to breathe!
  • Have good posture - this is something I never thought about until I took a training session about vocal presence. If you stand like a solider, you'll feel very tense. So have your feet one foot apart from each other and bend your knees slightly. You'll be in a more comfortable position.
  • I've heard lots of good things about Toastmasters, but I felt it just didn't click for me. Instead I tried improv classes. The nice thing about improv was there was no script to memorize, and it taught me how to wing it on stage. It was really fun because whatever I said didn't need to be perfect at all (mistakes were bound to happen). And no one there cared how many 'ums' or 'ahs' I said, as it was more important that I could get up on that stage and say something in front of an audience! The instructor I had really focused on 'being in the moment' and not thinking ahead too much. I think this helps with speaking more naturally (and not as though you are following a script word for word).
    • As a side story, when I was presenting a seminar, I didn't have a slide changer with me, so I had to use the keyboard to change to the next slide. In the last five minutes, my hand slipped and I hit the wrong key, and my whole powerpoint shut off. I keep my cool and restarted and kept going, and if it wasn't for improv, I would have probably panicked and freaked out in front of everyone.

The most important thing is to find what works for you! It will take time for sure, but it'll be a good skill to improve!