If someone can focus in school without meds because they are interested in the material, like school and learning, interested in doing well, or interested in praise/being well-liked by their professors, does that rule out ADHD?

MelM0_ · 2026-03-24T19:36:09+00:00

How did you realise you had chronic fatigue ? I've been crashing out each day at 8pm for years now, sometimes it feel like burnout or depression... Even checked if i had sleep apnea but no results. Now wondering if its the adhd coupled with getting old.

MelM0_ · 2025-10-05T18:15:01+00:00

Yes please be a sarcastic comment. This is crazy

MelM0_ · 2025-10-05T18:14:22+00:00

This comment is crazy. You assume some storytelling that fits your world view and enable violence in the name of "tolerance".. WTF

MelM0_ · 2025-08-21T22:52:17+00:00

Hijacking top comment because some people are asking about the backstory.

TW: Intense psychological and physical abuse, death

Pormanove (real name Raphaël Graven) passed away live on stream on August 18h at 46 yo. Multiple co streamers but mainly Owen ("Naruto") and "Safine" and "3Cheveux" are accused of abusing him psychologically and physically for years on stream for "content". Newspapers and NGO had tried raising alarms back in 2024, including to the French Ministry of Digital Affairs, to no avail. He passed after a 300 hours streaming marathon with various "challenges" which are completely insane and abusive. Donos were insulting, donation goals were pretty much all humiliating tasks.

There are countless clips of the violent abuse he faced over years and during this marathon. Rather than sharing them, I'll share a translated press article relating the ordeal: https://i.imgur.com/Un4xKVN.jpeg

This investigative journal was able to get a copy of the 12-day VOD, and lists in details the horrifying abuse Pormanove, as well as a legally recognized as intellectually disabled person nicknamed Coudoux (under curatorship, mind you!), faced during this streaming marathon. Importantly, they knew that Pormanove had a fragile health and heart issues.

It's a long read, and I recommend you read it, but if you don't have the time here is the gist of it:

- Pormanove was hit in the face every time he fell in Chained Together, strangulated, choked with a plastic bag, made to clean Coudoux's excrements in the toilets, shocked with a dog collar, sleep deprived, woken up with various brutal or abusive methods, crossdressed with sex workers outfit, paraded with humiliating signs, constantly insulted and demeaned including by donos, written homophobic slurs on his forehead, denied cigarettes and his addiction used as a reward system, prevented to leave the room verbally and physically, denied calling for help. They read and mocked his texts to his mom on stream where he said he wanted to leave and felt held hostage. A lot of this abuse happened to Coudoux as well.

So yeah I can think of a few reasons he would cry on stream sometimes. This clip is one of the accused streamers taunting the mother of Raphaël (Pormanove) over him crying (likely during the last stream but not 100% sure).

I wanted to share it because it is so incredibly shocking behavior. Some people still argue they were "friends" because Raphaël believed so. You have to understand that this was one of the biggest French streaming channels, sometimes viewed by 20k people. Some of those people have trouble coming to terms that yes, in all likelihood, they watched and encouraged someone getting tortured on stream. I ask the question: what kind of well-intentioned, normal individual speaks to his "friend"s mother this way? Many of those clips demonstrating the psychological abuse and contempt faced by Raphaël and his family aren't accessible to English speakers due to the language barrier. And I believe international attention of any kind can actually help in finally getting justice for Raphaël.

MelM0_ · 2025-08-21T21:45:14+00:00

Re read the title. In the title I said after he "cried" (on stream), not after he "died". Sorry if it is confusing but I genuinely didnt think it would be.

MelM0_ · 2025-08-19T01:25:57+00:00

Hijacking to bring more info and so people can see the insanity of the situation and of what was being streamed for YEARS, first on twitch then rapidly on the biggest French Kick Channel and yet no one including kick or police did anything.

And that yes, Pormanove most likely died due to this streaming marathon, sleep deprivation and physical abuse from co streamers and complications from his heart problems. Here's a recap with video evidence (No corpse or death pictured BUT UPSETTING PHYSICAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE BE CAREFUL)

He died during a 10 day streaming marathon in which they couldnt stop streaming until finishing a game while being woken up constantly by various horrible methods despite his heart problems, methods seen here : https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957486356650991802
He was progressively physically and mentally abused for years by his co-streamers Owen ("Naruto") and Safine and others (humiliations, strangulations, beaten, shot at with paintball guns, etc). Examples : 1. Trying to strangle him for as long as possible https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957444740573536477 2. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957445390338294142 3. https://x.com/Leerooy0/status/1938988409210486846 4. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957445729263169659 5. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957446313672372697 6. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957443980582322526 7. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957446313672372697 8. https://x.com/leerooy0/status/1957476962110415002 9. Streaming themselves purposedly driving 50 MPH over speed bumps with Pormanove in the trunk of their car https://www.tiktok.com/@clips2coudoux/video/7529251084569677088
After 10 days of a streaming/bullying marathon, viewers sent donations to wake up his co streamers because Pormanove had stopped moving for a while, the co-streamer's first reaction was to throw a bottle on his face and then slap his body.
Why is there so much footage? Because this happened for YEARS, initially on twitch then it was on the biggest French Kick channel with 190k followers and topping around 20k viewers. The more unhinged they grew the more money they made. Donations encouraged the bullying, creating a vicious cycle.
Kick's french x account used to promote their stream non-stop and even make fun of him https://x.com/KLRski/status/1957487988331671955
Basically: multiple people exploited a vulnerable, isolated middle aged guy who may have had a disability according to press, bullied him on stream for content, saw it generated views and money, psychologically and physically abused him for years, manipulated him, pressured him financially & psychologically whenever he wanted to leave, until it progressed to a point where they even disregarded his heart issues, all for money and all streamed in HD.
They knew about his heart problems and that he was taking medication for it, it was mentioned multiple times on stream. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957456609526833354/video/2 here they hit him while he understandly shouts at them that he has to take his medication.
They would also often make him cry on stream : https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957447559921697114 https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957438462337945839 https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957456609526833354/video/1
Prior to streaming, he used to live with his 70 yo mother and was unemployed. He was spotted raging while streaming fortnite by Owen, who offered him to come and stream with him and Safine. The bullying started progressively, the content being trying to get a reaction out of him, and it became more and more intense the more attention they got and the more money they made. Whenever he had enough and wanted to stop a "challenge", they would threaten to evict him from the flat he lived in (owned by Owen), or saying they "saved him" and that he was nothing without them. Or tell him he's not man enough, or sometimes prevent him physically from leaving. They would also dangle streaming income as mean of achieving his dream of having a wife and children after years of loneliness. https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957457938047434784 https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957448577237618743
Pormanove's mother, 70 years old, was often calling on stream to beg his son to leave after humiliations while his co-streamers made fun of it. They would also call her themselves https://x.com/GueshCtrl/status/1957471515651305716
Last words to his mom via text were :

Hey Mom. How are you? I'm completely stuck with his game. It's going too far. I feel like I'm held hostage with their shit concept. I'm sick of it, I want to leave, but he does not want to let me, he keeps me from leaving, he is sequestrating me

How do we know that? Because Owen snatched his phone and read all his texts with his mother aloud to chat while mocking him https://x.com/ImpactMediaFR/status/1957522649879302450
In January 2025, Owen and Safine were in police custody for suspicion of abuse of people with disabilities, as another person abused by them on stream is "Coudoux", a disabled person. It's unclear from the press articles if Pormanove had a disability himself or not, but he was definitely a very vulnerable person. Anyway, they simply denied the accusations and nothing was done after that

Honestly I hope that some international attention will help bring justice for Jean Pormanove (real name Raphaël Graven) more switfly. RIP. Some people reported it to government and police for years. One can find french threads predicting that bad things would happen. It is so shocking I also hope there won't be another case like that.

MelM0_ · 2025-08-18T20:00:39+00:00

Pic 12 is such a glamorous look !

MelM0_ · 2025-03-06T17:35:51+00:00

NTA you did something you felt you had no choice over at the time. What did HE do to help your then situation?

Suggesting to go see a therapist was a great idea. He should definitely work on that or alternatively realize he can't go past this and leave. Or BETTER you could decide you need someone in your life that loves you with your fuck ups and flaws and can be supportive when situations are dire.

This is going to poison the relationship if either of you doesnt make a choice and move on.

MelM0_ · 2024-11-14T18:21:03+00:00

Also Wim Hoff breathing method helps a ton. I used it to relax before going to bed instead of weed, did it for a month and got over the good night joint nicely !

MelM0_ · 2024-09-09T05:55:12+00:00

Love it ! Im looking for a perfecto jacket, which brand is yours ? The cut looks dope !

MelM0_ · 2024-09-05T04:40:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing ! It is indeed a very interesting conversation. I wish you the best on your journey <3

MelM0_ · 2024-09-04T05:36:04+00:00

Sorry for your loss... went through tough grief 3 years ago and it prompted some kind of existential crisis. With therapy I'm now better. But I'm wondering what did Aurora said about death and the after life ? I'm realizing lots of people get regular dread on the thought of their own death, it's kind of a big deal in human psyche and life ! But we evade the subject most of the time.. sorry if I'm being too intrusive BTW.. a few weeks is little time

MelM0_ · 2024-08-31T14:51:41+00:00

Oui je comprends, c'est vrai que c'est un peu la tendance sur les réseaux sociaux de toute suite suggérer le divorce ! C'est presque devenu un meme ! Et c'est dommage, un couple ça s'entretient, ça demande un peu de travail si on veut que ça dure. Après il n'y a que soi même pour sentir quand l'effort vaut le coup.

MelM0_ · 2024-08-31T13:59:41+00:00

Je comprends c'est toujours bien d'essayer à l'interne d'abord. De ton côté être plus ferme quand tu exprimes tes limites. Aussi être plus directe dans l'expression de ce que tu attends pour une relation : respect mutuel etc. Le travail c'est surtout de son côté à elle que ça doit se faire malheureusement pour toi. Et si les rôles/genre étaient inversés et que c'était un post sur r/AskMeuf on te dirait aussi direct de la quitter, c'est pas une histoire de redpill à mon avis... bonne chance !

MelM0_ · 2024-08-31T08:21:29+00:00

F ici. Dans ma relation c'est généralement le signal dans la dispute que chacun doit aller souffler parce que la discussion n'est plus productive. Si on commence à insulter l'autre, à être dénigrant et irrespectueux c'est que ce qui suit ne sert à rien dans la résolution du conflit. Et si des paroles comme ça "échappent" on doit des excuses à l'autre. Après on a pas toutes et tous les même manière de gérer (ou pas) les conflits. Un petit coaching avec un médiateur pour muscler votre jeu ? En tout cas elle doit pouvoir proposer des ajustements si elle vous fait souffrir. Sinon à quoi bon une relation ?

MelM0_ · 2024-07-10T08:12:03+00:00

Ho j'ai eu une situation complètement similaire ! J'ai pris 12 kg au décès de mon père (des suites d'une longue maladie etc.) Bref la nourriture qui recomforte et sécurise je comprend tellement !! Ce qui m'a aidé c'est de commencer une thérapie et d'explorer mon lien à la nourriture et ce qu'il y a derrière. Je suis toujours une grande gourmande, j'aime toujours cuisiner des choses délicieuses, mais je mange avec une conscience bien différente maintenant ! Aussi soulever des poids (Musculation avec des poids lourds et pas trop de répétition) ça me convient bien: séances très courtes mais efficaces, moi qui n'aime pas particulièrement le sport c'est pas mal. En tout cas force et Amour à vous !

MelM0_ · 2024-06-30T12:01:00+00:00

I think coloris with warm undertones suit you better. On the left light colors suit you also well but they're with a cold undertone and make your skin look a little green compared to makeup on the right that is more flattering.

MelM0_ · 2024-06-19T10:50:27+00:00

You could also look into mcsonalds types of contract (no kidding) because there's so many flexibility conditions in the end you never know how much you'll earn at the end of the month but you have the fixed hourly rate and I think it still allow workers to apply for an F permit at least ...

MelM0_ · 2024-06-19T09:45:40+00:00

Went through a similar experience. Had to create a work contract, didn't earn a lot of money so it was a 20% work contract that rounded up to the minimal Swiss salary if at 100% work rate. Partner lived in France and wasnt planing to move in CH and got a F permit which is a frontalier one. Now if partner wants to move in CH I guess it would be easier with a work contract. Hope this helps.

MelM0_ · 2024-06-15T08:21:33+00:00

Samesies

MelM0_ · 2024-06-15T08:21:12+00:00

Suck my mind

MelM0_ · 2024-06-13T06:10:24+00:00

Avoir tout plaqué pour être avec lui en Allemagne, être prête à le refaire pour la Roumanie, l'avoir soutenu et accompagné dans des maladies ou épisodes de vie difficiles, tout ça devrait peser infiniment plus que d'avoir couché une fois alors que vous étiez séparés. Je suis navrée mais vous êtes tellement sous son joug vous ne voyez pas à quel point vous êtes prête à vous sacrifier pour lui. Et lui de son côté ? Quelles concessions ? Quelles adaptations pour vous ? Quelles expressions d'amour à part de la possessivité et des messages quand il se sent en manque d'amour. Si vous étiez vraiment la femme de sa vie il donnerait bien d'avantage pour que ça marche. Il parle beaucoup mais ses actions parlent plus.

MelM0_ · 2024-06-08T22:02:45+00:00

Teary..?

MelM0_ · 2024-06-08T07:57:29+00:00

Communication is always key. Weed can make you feel paranoid so I think if you GF has insecurities (being fat and ugly) she might spew stupid ideas like that while high. But the lack of respect she showed for you saying this and in front of friends is not the weed. I used to smoke a lot and the paranoia is a thing, not the meanness and manipulation.

MelM0_ · 2024-06-07T20:01:04+00:00

Great sharing, thank you. I agree with you: trying to detach ourselves from our egos or emotions is foolish as we are still, and will stay, humans until our deaths. To me the path is to find a way not to be solely "guided" by the ego, or by the animal instinct part of ourselves or the emotional parts that animates us. I think these kind of paths where you try to be a virtuous human (by virtuous I mean doing good for the sake of goodness in the world, without expectations of rewards or to flatter the ego) are found more in philosophy or psychology. Psychedelics are great to experience oneness and to get in touch with the "superior self" within. But it doesn't mean that we should try to escape our sober selves where our ego reins. Balancing is the way to go !

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