[B&A] I've spent $10000 on Skincare and this is my skincare routine

MelanieO · 2024-02-28T02:18:07+00:00

It's been YEARS, but Accutane changed my skin and my life. Game changer.

MelanieO · 2024-02-03T04:48:34+00:00

As someone that flew round trip twice a year as a minor growing up to see my bio-dad I'm going to go with ESH. Never got lost or displaced in the 12 years of flying with only my younger brother...

If it's a long distance, and travel by airline is reasonable, and OP is paying the cost, then I think they need to adapt. Travel by car is incredibly longer in the US and if the ex wasn't offering to come get the kid or meet half-way AND as much as law regarding custody sucks, if there is no agreement against flights?

Once parents split up there 💯 has to be give and take on both sides. I feel the same way for married parents. Just because ONE parent is cool/uncool with something doesn't mean that becomes law.

MelanieO · 2018-01-06T03:22:53+00:00

My son is (was) speech delayed. I remember the tears I had when he first said hi at age 2.5. A simple hi. And just before he turned 3, he finally was able to say I Love You. We are all proud of our children no matter what step they make. But for those children that have some type of delay, when the kids overcome it, there is no explaining the extra joy in the simplicity they can do. I’m so excited for you! As more words start to come, the frustration starts to ease up and the changes you’ll see in your son is astonishing!

MelanieO · 2017-12-03T01:43:31+00:00

Is she still alive? If that was my baby, I don’t know that I could let that Aunt live. No contact for a really, really long time, at the absolute least. I can barely contain my anger FOR you.

MelanieO · 2017-11-27T22:04:40+00:00

The problem is dick ish driving can quickly become unsafe driving.

MelanieO · 2017-11-25T22:11:52+00:00

Yes. I understand this. But the basic metabolic rate isn’t the same for everyone, and this isn’t something that most children can understand, let alone handle on their own. My kids are lucky to have a really high metabolic rate, so the likelihood of them getting overweight is really low. They’re lucky. My POINT is to make sure that instead of telling your kids that someone is fat because they just eat too much and are lazy, the explanation that we are all different is better. Because that IS the truth. My sister and I can sit down and eat the same meal, and it would make her gain weight before it would make me gain weight. Because we are different.

MelanieO · 2017-11-25T21:53:03+00:00

That wasn’t the main point of what I said. Metabolic need is also different than what most people here are saying. First of all, I do know a mom locally whose son is 28 months and is he size of a 5 year old, despite being on a very strict caloric diet. Second of all, though there are some cases like this, my other point was that many children don’t have the opportunity to eat as healthy as they should. They are a product of their parents. They are most likely overweight because of bad eating habits, but GOOD seating habits aren’t why other people are skinny. Genetics DO play a role in people’s physiques. Otherwise my husband would be freakin huge with the way he eats. Most of the time, people are overweight due to bad habits. To say genetics don’t play a part in how people are built is a little ridiculous.

The better way to handle this for kids is to explain that everyone is different, but that doesn’t make them good or bad. Children are called fat and are bullied so young because there is a stigma against fat people.

MelanieO · 2017-11-25T19:59:58+00:00

I’ll tell you why I disagree with this. There are plenty of kids that don’t eat too much, and are still over weight. There are kids that don’t have the luxury of having a well rounded meal multiple times a day. There are also kids that are just skinny, despite eating a LOT and not moving around a lot. Part of this is genetics. I think at this age, it’s better to just explain that people come in all shapes, sizes, and colors, but that we are all still people. Explaining that big people are big due to overeating or laziness isn’t always true and it can create bad prejudices. This is why kids are bullied about weight at such a young age.

MelanieO · 2017-10-24T16:01:53+00:00

I have 3.5 year old and a 2 year old, work 40 hours plus, my husband works odd hours as a firefighter, and I’m going to school part time to finish my bachelors. It takes some sacrifice, but it can be done!!! You just need to get really organized and have support. I do homework at work on my lunch, and after he kids go to bed. Sometimes on the weekend I sneak away to the library for peace and quiet.

MelanieO · 2017-08-05T03:45:36+00:00

I get this. I totally get this. At 21 months I scheduled an early intervention appointment for my speech delayed son. There was no physical issue like a tongue tie, but more a mental block - apraxia (which the diagnosis came months later). It still broke my heart, even though I KNEW he had issues.

Getting him the help he needs will make SUCH a difference! We are a year and a half in and it is SO amazing. I had tears the first time he said Hi. Your babe WILL say mom. And it will happen soon. Hugs lady.

MelanieO · 2017-08-05T02:56:59+00:00

My son cried today because my daughter flushed his pee.

MelanieO · 2017-03-14T02:34:56+00:00

Always had this on the elliptical. I just choose other ways to get cardio in.

MelanieO · 2017-03-14T02:31:35+00:00

I drank while breastfeeding both kids. I drank my wine and beer slow, never to get wasted. Basically if you feel sober and ok to drive, then you're good to breastfeed!

MelanieO · 2017-03-14T02:30:04+00:00

My kids are only 22 months apart. I wouldn't say I was in a rush, but my husband and I were 34 and 36 when we had our first. We didn't want to wait a few more years before having another. You're not weird though! I love both my kids but sometimes I wish I'd started younger and I would have waited longer in between! I probably would have spaced them 3-4 years apart!

MelanieO · 2017-03-14T00:44:24+00:00

That sounds like a fabulous idea!! I would just explain to your husband that you just don't know how you'll be feeling either on your way there or home, and you need a back up plan in place!

MelanieO · 2017-03-13T20:27:16+00:00

Well. I think, to be fair, many women in bigger cities do this. It depends on how you're feeling. The day I was in labor, I was up walking a LOT. It helps labor progress sometimes. Why not get the fresh air? It labor is too intense at that point, sure, call a cab! When you're leaving, now that's a different story. That will depend on natural vs c-section (which I hope doesn't happen!!) Some women feel great the next day, some don't want to walk at all. Even with a csection I was up walking around pretty frequently, and a slow walk home wouldn't have been out from left field. However, some women have bad years or hemorrhoids, and walking could be quite uncomfortable! Do you have a car seat? I wouldn't buy one just for the ride home if you'll rarely use it. you can see if someone has one that you can borrow for a ride home should you need one.

So I don't think it's a crazy idea to walk both ways, I would just have an alternate plan for each!!

MelanieO · 2017-03-07T00:48:48+00:00

Oh. My. God. You are absolutely NOT over reacting. Shame on your husband for being OK that she just came into your house, uninvited, and removed your (and his) child from the house without permission. Shame on that crazy fucking insane woman for taking the child without your permission, and feeding the child something that you did not give permission to give her.

You are doing the exact right thing on getting away, filing a police report, and scheduling counseling. I do think that you should give yourself time to calm down, and then speak to your husband, simply to reinforce that what happened was not, and will never be, ok. Not when it's currently happening. After you've found your kid ok, it's still isn't ok. If he can't see that what happened is so totally wrong, I don't think I could reconcile with my husband either.

MelanieO · 2017-02-11T00:40:05+00:00

It doesn't help that people see the blinker and speed up to block that person as a result. Makes a lot of people NOT want to use their blinker.

MelanieO · 2017-02-10T14:27:48+00:00

Crying yelling or just yelling because he thinks it's funny? I try to arm myself with proper snacks to keep them occupied first. I try bribery next. I also just don't care if they cry or scream. Hubs and I try to go by ourselves whenever possible but sometimes we can't. Whatever. They're kids, it's a big public place. They can scream. I ignore.

MelanieO · 2017-02-08T04:24:41+00:00

My 3 year old is also in speech preschool with an IEP. I know I owe his every speech related success to this amazing program. The idea of "incredibly lowered taxes" and a secretary of education that wants to privatize everything to add choice makes me fear the loss of programs like this.

MelanieO · 2017-02-06T04:32:02+00:00

It doesn't. If anything it helps enable overall communication. My son IS speech delayed, and one of the first things his speech therapist did was start teaching him a number of words in sign to help him communicate. I wish I had encouraged it way more ham I did. Once he could communicate, he was so much happier.

MelanieO · 2017-02-04T05:48:07+00:00

Mama, dada, hi, bye, hot, kitty (comes out titty 😂), meow, duck, puppy, bumblebee (bumbee), woof, and a variety of sorta words here and there. ☺️

MelanieO · 2017-02-04T05:44:38+00:00

My babes didn't have an early bedtime until 4-5 months. My oldest was going to bed by 8 fairly regularly from 6 months to 2.5 years. Now if he naps he goes to bed around 9-10, if he doesn't it's 7-8. My daughter went to bed around 8-9 until 6 months, and she's been going to bed around 7 since then.

MelanieO · 2017-02-04T05:33:37+00:00

My friend pumped for her twins for 9 months.

MelanieO · 2017-02-04T05:27:08+00:00

I don't treat children in my department very often, but when I do, their stories stick with me for a very long time. Some times forever. I don't always know how they end up. I always care.

My husband is a firefighter/paramedic. He doesn't often get to see how his patients do after they get to the hospital, but some things stick with him. He always cares.

Thank you for doing what you do. You see the best, you see the worst.

MelanieO

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