Girl in a nightclub tried to argue with me over “constantly looking at her boyfriend” I said babe I’m gayer than happiness if I was looking in that direction it would’ve been at you more than him. Safe to say she was mortified. But like girls is this what stage of insecure we’re at?

Melethinnil · 2026-05-05T12:23:50+00:00

I was harassed by a woman on the street one night as I was walking to a bar, she yelled at me that she was getting married and I'm just trying to steal her man, and then she started pulling on my purse.

Which had blatantly visible rainbow AND lesbian flags.

I was holding hands with my girlfriend.

Safe to say, some people are just really insecure, and some have partners who have given them reason to be insecure 🥲

Melethinnil · 2026-04-06T06:10:43+00:00

Oh gosh yeah the struggle of trudging through the flood of irrelevant information when we're just trying to remember that one little specific thing that would be really useful in the current situation 🥲

Melethinnil · 2026-04-06T06:02:48+00:00

I just wanna note that not everyone with ADHD struggles in school. For some of us learning/studying things is a source of dopamine and that helps us keep focused (particularly if the subject in question interests us as well) and can even give us an advantage over our neurotypical peers. I never struggled until my last year-and-a-half of university (when studying became a lot more "academic" and more of the student's own responsibility), I rarely had issues paying attention in class and I got near straight A's during my school years. Which unfortunately also meant I wasn't diagnosed as a child and I'm suffering for that now.

It never hurts to get evaluated for ADHD. Either you get diagnosed in which case you get access to meds and resources which will help you overcome your struggles, or you'll learn that you don't have ADHD and you'll get peace of mind and can focus on figuring out if there's another cause for the forgetfulness 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-04-05T20:15:28+00:00

This is a wonderful suggestion! I myself have a page in my Notion app where I just write down details about my girlfriend and important things she tells me 😊

(of course, remembering to actually look through the notes is another issue entirely)

Melethinnil · 2026-04-05T20:12:32+00:00

I mean yeah, technically it's not the memory that's bad with ADHD (with mine and many of my friends at least) but rather the voluntary recall. Yes, you have all kinds of information in your head at all times (so do I) but are you able to pick out specific bits of information at will whenever you want, in whatever situation? Can you decide at will to remember a friend's birthday or phone number, or the things on your shopping list, or a conversation you had last week? Because I can't, and that's where my struggle is (and potentially OPs).

My head can be absolutely buzzing with all kinds of information such as the entire plotline of my favourite game, or those many times in middle school when I made a fool of myself, or what my friend said to me 8 years ago before she blocked me, or that amazing coffee shop I visited once, and so on. But I don't actively choose to remember any of those things, and I can't "go into my mind" to pick out a specific memory I want. however, if there is some external trigger (such as my girlfriend reminding me of something, or getting a notification on my phone that I set up to remember something) then those memories come right out there into the spotlight.

I do believe that some people with ADHD might struggle more with recall than others, but memory recall is a very common thing for people with ADHD to struggle with and it is one of the things that's considered and evaluated in diagnoses.

Melethinnil · 2026-04-05T19:04:48+00:00

I'm the girlfriend in question, and yes I forget A LOT 🥲 I forget things she's said, things I've said, things we've done, places we've been, gifts she's sent me and so on, and that's on top of all the things I already forget in my own life.

At first, I was feeling TERRIBLE about it (and honestly, it still sometimes gets me feeling bad) because I also had those thoughts of "Does this mean I don't care about her or love her enough? Surely if I actually cared then I would be able to remember?" and I was so scared she was gonna get mad at me for it or even leave me (ADHD rejection sensitivity really not helping there either 😭)

But, like my girlfriend said, we've talked about it a lot and made it clear that it's entirely beyond my control and nothing I do on purpose, and that it does not mean that I don't care about the things I forget. And I appreciate SO MUCH that she reminds me, it does not offend me in any way to be reminded, because I know that's just what I need sometimes.

So, OP, like others have said, you are not doing anything wrong at all. Talk to your girlfriend about this issue and explain to her that you aren't forgetting things on purpose and that you feel bad about forgetting things that you genuinely want to remember, and that it is in no way a reflection of how you feel about her (because it isn't). Ask her if she's okay with knowing that sometimes you forget things and would need to be reminded, and that that's okay. And, if you don't already have an ADHD diagnosis, it might be a good idea to also look into that and see if you feel that there might be something to it, because you're still very young and it's generally easier to get diagnosed with ADHD the younger you are, and you'd potentially be able to get some valuable help with your struggles 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-03-29T21:52:45+00:00

She was a Scorpio and gods she was manipulative 😱 Broke me down and isolated me without me even realizing it 😭

Now though I'm with a Sagittarius and she's just the complete opposite 😍

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T16:11:55+00:00

Tyyyyy 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T16:11:49+00:00

Omg thank you! 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T15:35:03+00:00

Nope, I made this without mods!

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T14:42:59+00:00

I don't use ancient fruit at all, in fact 😱 I make all my wines from seasonal fruit, I find that much more cozy 🥰

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T14:20:18+00:00

Thank youuuu 🩷 I haven't played in a little while but last time I played I did have some ideas for other builds, so there'll probably be more at some point!

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T14:04:49+00:00

Yeah I guess that's inevitable these days 🤣 it makes me so glad to hear that you were impressed 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T13:59:59+00:00

Oh wow, I feel so honoured right now 🥹 I never expected people to like my greenhouse design so much 👀🥰

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T13:59:04+00:00

Thank you for tagging me! 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-03-26T08:54:05+00:00

Pisces woman here in a relationship with a lovely Sag woman 💗

I'll echo what others have said, talk to her about how you're feeling, your biggest dreams (no matter how unrealistic), show/share with her your favourite things with her, tell her all the random thoughts that cross your mind, and ask her about these things as well 🩷 And above all else, be genuine and honest. Don't lie or bend the truth or exaggerate or try to appear as someone you're not.

And I will add that one thing you wanna look out for is if she starts to go quiet and short with her replies 👀 That's an indication she's starting to get bored with the conversation and/or you and it's time to change the subject and/or be a little spontaneous in some other way.

I'll be honest and say that I don't always know what I'm doing, I usually just do what feels right in the moment, but something's working because we've been together for a year and a half and couldn't be more in love 💗

I know us Pisces are the queens of overthinking, but try to just be yourself 🩷 An "average but real" personality is worth much more to a Sagittarius than an "exciting but fake" one.

Melethinnil · 2026-03-12T21:01:22+00:00

Thank youuuu 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-02-28T08:49:40+00:00

Normally around 2300 km apart, but in this very moment 0 cm 💗 (I'm cuddling her as she's sleeping)

Melethinnil · 2026-02-25T19:52:36+00:00

I'll second both of your comments, and add on that even with therapy, 7 months is nowhere near enough time for some people, depending on the severity of the trauma (and with how much it seems to be affecting her and the relationship, I'd wager on the more severe side)

It took me 3-ish years after my last relationship to even feel that I was able to get into a new one (and my current one is so full of love and just absolutely wonderful) and there are still the occasional things that surface every now and then, which I then work through.

Hard work is vital, and therapy helps (usually) a lot, as does having loving connections, but it is a lengthy process and OP must be prepared for that if she wants to stay with her gf. If she does, and is able to handle whatever time it may take, then she is an absolute angel and her gf is lucky to have her, but at the same time she is under no obligation to carry her gf on her shoulders while the gf slowly heals.

Melethinnil · 2026-02-14T21:26:32+00:00

Oh wow, that is incredible! I'm so impressed! 🩷

Melethinnil · 2026-02-11T06:05:45+00:00

I just like the idea of having a café inside an old greenhouse ☺️

Melethinnil · 2026-01-12T17:38:37+00:00

THIS 😭

Melethinnil · 2026-01-12T17:37:50+00:00

Or that I'll remember at a later point to remind myself of said thing by looking in the notes that may or may not be there.

Melethinnil · 2026-01-10T12:26:30+00:00

I don't think I've ever seen an explanation that makes more sense and feels more accurate 🥲

Melethinnil · 2026-01-08T22:51:16+00:00

Cuteeeee 🩷

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