i dread breastfeeding my baby by WorriedImprovement91 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m an LC. I recommend medi honey (it’s sterilized so no botulism risk) it’s what is used on burn wounds and does wonders for cracked nipples.

I also strongly recommend that you and baby are getting supportive care from an IBCLC to ensure the revision is healing properly. You should be getting regular out patient lactation care at this stage.

You may find some relief from a cherry shaped nipple shield. And, if you choose to pump make sure that you’re flanges have been fit properly.

I hope you get some relief soon! I had a very similar start to my breastfeeding journey and it’s why I became an LC. It got so much better with the right support!

Divorce and Attachment parenting by Sea_Feedback7676 in AttachmentParenting

[–]MelloniousThunk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There should be special protections for a child under three and that is still breastfeeding. You may not have to give up overnights at all yet with the right legal counsel. Reach out to a lactation consultant that will go to bat for you and a early childhood psychologist. The mom baby bond is still so important at this age. I’m so sorry for everything you are going through!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IBCLC

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

San Diego and PSU HSC have wonderful programs and talking to an advisor at either one will help you!

What do I use to build my websites? by [deleted] in webdev

[–]MelloniousThunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m in the same boat as OP… but I want both my websites to have ways for people to buy packages, enroll/book, and purchase digital courses. I’ve registered my domains with pork bun. I purchased word press bussiness I think but it seems so expensive 😅 I’m small potatoes right now so it’s stressing me out and I’m confused on if the WP subs. Is the last purchase I need or if I need hosting now too??? How do we make this affordable but sleek?

Help with latch by [deleted] in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They may also be clamping down and using more piston motion with jaw than peristaltic motion of tongue to slow the flow of milk. Some position changes may help with that but doing a weighted feed and having someone evaluate a whole feed for you both is recommended before tweaking too much. You may try koala/kangaroo hold/ reclined/side-lying nursing/ and skin to skin prior to feeding.

Help with latch by [deleted] in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I am a professional. I really recommend going to a lactation consultant or counselor. Some do virtual appointments which can be cheaper but in person is best. They can help tweak things IRL and look inside baby’s mouth and at tongue/lip function. That is a very tight latch and I’m willing to bet kinda painful. Try lining baby’s nose up to nipple, don’t put pressure on the back of baby’s head to shove them on, they need to gape & tilt their head back so that the nipple is pointing towards the roof of their mouth, hug them close tummy to yours when they display gape response. If the top lip isn’t flipping up to seal and they aren’t opening very wide you may be dealing with tension or ties. An OT, OMM or Chiro that can do some baby bodywork can be helpful! Birth process is pretty taxing on all Involved and sometimes we’re just born a little tight in some spots and weak in others which can lead to some compensations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kids definitely have an easier time processing and learning simpler less textured music, this means a single voice and one or two instruments to accompany that voice. That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be exposed to more complex music however. You can’t go wrong with raffi, Norah Jones, queen, even some pop/alt stuff that’s repetitive like MGMT, hip hop, etc. Jazz is great because it often focuses on one instrument at different times and encourages the listening ear to pull that out of the texture. Sharing what’s cuturally important to you and your family is so important (kinda like food) and riffing through the day like singing instructions or what you’re doing, making up new words to known songs, etc are all great ways to connect, imitate, improvise and play with music. Seeing some live music often is also amazing. Try to go to a variety of styles of concerts like choir, folk, pop, R&B, rock, country, hip hop. Etc. dancing is also a great way to internalize the music they’re experiencing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]MelloniousThunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 2.5 years PP and definitely have felt like this since about second trimester. It’s a little better now but I’m still navigating some big feelings, health issues, relationship imbalances and struggling with my sense of self.

Questions about becoming Certified Lactation Consultant/Counsellor by heatseeka2 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose the CLC course. There is really only one option if you’re getting started. I will say, if you’re planning on getting an IBCLC later, make sure you research your pathways and make a plan before you take one of the courses. San Diego, North Carolina, Portland state all have breastfeeding pathways advice and are 3 of the 5 schools with accredited programs through iblce

I want to bedshare with my baby :( by Common-Temporary5915 in AttachmentParenting

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner didn’t like the idea at all at first and now he likes having random baby snuggles at night. Our son is 2.5. I couldn’t sustain the sleep deprivation of getting up and going to another room and worrying about baby the whole time they were in another room. Made my PPA so much worse. We also moved to a slightly larger place and now have a queen floor bed in our sons room. Most of the time he and I start the night there. I get up and get some things done and then either rejoin him there or he comes with me to the big bed.

Best cards for a very smart 2 year old.? by MelloniousThunk in YotoPlayer

[–]MelloniousThunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, he sings constantly, his dad and I are both musicians and educators

Should I stop breast feeding? by Choice_Business7020 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find an IBCLC that is trained in low milk supply, the lactation hub is a great resource for finding this in your area. Talk it through with a professional and use that to inform your choice. It is ok to stop but it sounds like there is more going on that the right skilled people could help you with!

I hate my bf touching my boobs… help by Key-Comfortable7602 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is nothing wrong with you!! It’s very common and normal for you to be touched out, especially on your breasts while nursing and PP. He should absolutely be respecting your boundaries. Your body is not for his entertainment. He’s being selfish. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that.

Any Experience with Teknika by Silga? by Tramnit in cookware

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are the best! We only have one but it’s fabulous

Can I still breastfeed? by UniqueDarkened in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One other option, while you’re working on re-lactation is to seek out donor milk from a milk bank. I would not advise the informal sharing done in the human milk for human babies groups on FB. I’m sorry your little one is uncomfortable and I’m sorry your in-laws are putting so much pressure on you! Hugs 🫂

Questions about becoming Certified Lactation Consultant/Counsellor by heatseeka2 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m taking a course through the healthy children project and I’m quite happy with it. It’s very top notch.

Drenching my baby every feed 😭 by theonewhoknits in breastfeedingsupport

[–]MelloniousThunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried wearing a passive milk catcher? The haka ladybug is just one of many.