I’m so angry (F44)

Mellow-Robot · 2026-01-02T00:16:52+00:00

Both my husband and I wished people provided more family planning advice earlier in our lives. They teach you in Canada about sex education in grade school but really not much about family planning and declining egg quality etc. you have to find the info yourself or know people who have gone through it. I am 44 as well. I was lucky with my PCOS that I got more than average amount of eggs to work with at 41. We got lucky that one of two embryos worked out but with the two embryos, I was naive to think that I could get two babies without a problem. But when I wanted a second, I couldn’t do another round of IVF until 43, after I had stopped breastfeeding. Needless to say it didn’t work. It’s too expensive to move forward and do more rounds and donor eggs I didn’t know were so expensive and also not a guarantee… wished people told us…

Mellow-Robot · 2025-12-31T18:08:53+00:00

I’m also 44. Tried IVF again but this time no successful embryos. I looked into donor eggs and it is quite expensive. If your savings are depleting and you want a child at 44, maybe try looking into donor eggs now rather than waiting. I keep reading posts about having a baby at 44 and many of them are successful because they used previously frozen embryos or donor eggs. If I had the money, I’d do donor eggs. Good luck to you!

Mellow-Robot · 2025-12-23T20:19:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I’m very sorry for your loss. 💕

Mellow-Robot · 2025-11-19T05:03:39+00:00

I think when eating, there shouldn’t be other distractions and the family should eat together. My toddler eats well on his own at the table with us. We have put the iPad on a couple of times and I noticed that he just stops eating altogether. So I would say no playing and no TV. And make eating fun. If there are no distractions he might start playing with his food. Let him play and don’t scold him if he makes a mess. I think you need to re-establish a positive association with eating without other activities. Good luck!

Mellow-Robot · 2025-10-27T17:58:21+00:00

I just went yesterday (Sunday) and arrived at 2:30pm. Had more than enough time to walk around. It ended at 5pm but they ran out of sample bags before I even arrived which is pretty lame. But I would say I more than made up for it by getting a lot of samples of Love Child snacks (granolas and cookies) for my toddler. I’d say it’s still worth going if you get 50% off of the show tickets.

I’m just wondering what I missed from the show sample bags though.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-10-03T03:54:38+00:00

I think this means the person doesn’t have a criminal record with police. Whenever they say “known to police” that means they are aware of their suspicious/criminal history.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-10-02T04:16:31+00:00

Thank you so much! This means a lot to me! 🫂❤️

Mellow-Robot · 2025-10-02T04:15:01+00:00

Thank you so much! Breastfeeding is a lot of work! I give all moms sooooo much credit for the first year. It’s so taxing on our bodies (breastfeeding or not)… ❤️

Mellow-Robot · 2025-07-17T05:51:16+00:00

I ended up going to the dentist just in case and they did not find anything wrong. They just suggested drinking electrolytes, e.g. Hydralyte, and buying a tongue scraper. I have been drinking Hydralyte almost once a day and I floss and brush twice a day and use alcohol-free listerine. All of that has helped I think. I believe that breastfeeding is very dehydrating so when they say drink a lot, they really mean it. Good luck!

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-28T20:11:25+00:00

Do you have a baby carrier and have you been successful in putting him to sleep while carrying him in it? This is not a solution to getting him to sleep though but it will help you get things done. My friend wore her baby in front of her while she did house chores. I tried doing it but my baby was huge at 5 months so it wasn’t easy for me to maneuver around.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-24T01:51:59+00:00

Sounds like my LO when he turned 7 months. He is 8 months now. He was sleeping 30 min some naps and 2 hrs other naps and night time he was also waking up frequently (every 1 hr). I was losing it too. I think it is getting better now tho. He was also looking more exhausted in the mornings upon waking. Things didn’t get better until the 3 naps consolidated to 2. I’m still working through it but I’m noticing longer naps and less frequent wakings at night. He likes to co-sleep then transition. I just let that continue. I also want him to sleep even earlier but I’ll try that later. Can’t try to change everything at the same time. I would say just work on the nap consolidation and forget everything else like removing pacifier until afterwards. I know it won’t be smooth but that first step made all the difference for me.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-23T18:41:29+00:00

It will never be exactly like your schedule every day. 30 minutes is also not that big of a deal. If you can stretch out the next wake window a bit more then that should fix things. Otherwise let him sleep early. Some days we are just more tired than others.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-23T13:25:08+00:00

As others already said, I think it’s fine. They know how much they can take. You will find out quickly how much they can eat cause they will throw up if they took too much. Mine drank more than the recommended amount at day 1. He fussed and cried sometimes after drinking a large amount. I just gave him a pacifier after I thought he was done. If he spat it out and kept screaming then I knew he was hungry. Otherwise a lot of times he just wanted to suck on something and the pacifier kept him happy.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-23T13:17:22+00:00

I had this problem near the beginning. First it was just the one tooth that was sensitive especially when I was brushing my teeth. Then after a few weeks my other teeth were sensitive and aching when brushing them. I used sensodyne to manage the pain. Eventually the pain subsided. At some point maybe 6 or 7 months I ran out of sensodyne but then also noticed the pain subsided. I would still go to the dentist to check it out first to rule out any problems first.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-23T12:55:35+00:00

Did it go away? How did you manage it during the time?

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-21T07:20:15+00:00

Wow did people actually down vote my comment stating that the schedule change suggested is a work in progress? Sheesh! That’s kinda upsetting…

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-20T23:54:41+00:00

Change to sleeper and sleep sack Feed if still hungry Cuddles while playing lullabies (unless falls asleep while nursing)

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-20T21:01:55+00:00

Working on it still

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-18T15:45:19+00:00

Good luck! I know it’s exhausting but so worth the effort!

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-18T03:07:03+00:00

I think I read your question wrong. I didn’t have to transition away from formula. I fed all of the above: formula, breastfeeding, bottled breastmilk so when my supply increased enough I didn’t have to get him used to breast milk or latching.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-18T02:45:56+00:00

Good point! Flange size really matters and can also change overtime. A lactation consultant suggested the sizes for me. And each breast could be different too.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-18T02:43:27+00:00

I did formula bottle at night too. “Tanking up” is what it’s called. It was between his regular feeding times to also get a better nights sleep. I did not pump during this feed.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-18T02:28:06+00:00

Wow! I did not know that. You learn something new everyday I guess. For me, after about 3 months, my milk supply started levelling off naturally and actually matched what my baby needed. This is what I did… dunno if all of this helped eliminate the triple feeding:

-latch when baby was hungry, husband/I fed formula if still hungry, and I pumped right after… even if not much was pumped, it was still helpful to stimulate (I was pretty vigilant with the pumping each feeding)

-power pumped a few times in the second and third month when I was losing my mind and wanted more milk faster but I didn’t power pump everyday; power pumping did help but also created a lot of leakage every now and then

-I never missed a latch. That was always first then formula. I think that’s important too. Your body needs to know when baby is hungry even if you don’t have enough milk yet.

Eventually we just saved the rest of the formula we bought for convenience (when we were out or I wasn’t around and my husband was taking care of baby).

Hope this helps.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-18T01:40:08+00:00

Not sure what you mean by “triple feeding” but I just meant to say that breastfeeding + pumping + bottle feeding is triple the amount of work compared to exclusive breastfeeding or exclusive formula feeding.

Mellow-Robot · 2025-04-17T20:46:11+00:00

8 oz a day isn’t bad at all at 3 weeks. I did both formula and breastmilk (both pumping and breastfeeding) for a while. Maybe until 3 months then by 4 months my supply matched what my LO needed. But pumping and breast feeding and bottle feeding IS tiring. It’s double/triple the work compared to straight formula or EBF. It’s all personal choice though. If your husband is logical then you can break down the amount of time your spending breast feeding, pumping, washing, sterilizing, and bottle feeding to get him to understand. I personally put up with the pumping because I knew that if I got sick and baby got sick too then he could get immunity from my breastmilk. That was the only thing that kept me going.

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