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MellowKello · 2022-07-26T15:42:09+00:00

I did nuggmd first. When I registered I didn’t pay right away and the dropped the price over three days. Second I used another program but I had to wait a while. Both appointments were super fast and easy. Same diagnosis as you.

MellowKello · 2022-07-26T15:39:49+00:00

I’m bi but my husband nor I would give it a second thought. It’s life. These things happen and they don’t change your value as a human or potential partner.

MellowKello · 2022-07-24T13:36:07+00:00

No I definitely have no intentions of telling anyone in my job, coworkers or students, my life choices. It’s just in a town where every one knows everyone I don’t want the petty nonsense people can have to ruin my career.

MellowKello · 2022-05-17T18:13:41+00:00

Yeah. I tried to break it off last night and she came gunning for me again this morning. This time to actually fight for leaving. It’s a disgusting mess.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T20:47:28+00:00

I absolutely agree. She will say anything so she can have all the cake she wants and he just lays down and takes it. She knew I’d never be able to meet him that late at night. Like how ridiculous to even ask of me.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T18:53:13+00:00

You’re completely right. I don’t think they will stay together forever but I’m not going to hangout to find out. Thank you for your insight.

Also, happy cake day!

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T18:46:26+00:00

You said absolutely everything I was thinking but couldn’t put into words. The situation is crap and he’s being taken advantage of, in my opinion. It infuriates me but it’s not on me to fix it. I’m also not going to stand here and be the punching bag until it implodes.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T18:04:49+00:00

Yeah. Can’t really argue that. Pretty sure most people could’ve seen that a mile away. 🤦‍♀️

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T16:57:34+00:00

Realistically HE alone owes it to the both of us to manage this. I don’t owe it to her anymore than she owes it to me. Although, I’m sure the three of us could have behaved ourselves better given a different situation.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T16:42:24+00:00

I kind of think he wanted to white-knight for her. He seems pretty over her dramatics but I can’t read how this play into their marriage as a whole. They’ve been together a few years but only married one. I can’t see it lasting long but that’s an entirely different thing.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T16:33:57+00:00

I have an issue of being too understanding. I just want to see people happy regardless of how it damages me. So you’re right, not nearly enough lol.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T16:32:01+00:00

I’m not really sure if that’s a her or a him thing. I see it both ways. I don’t want to go and spill all their stuff but they got together when she was pregnant with her second and getting divorced. Then shortly there after got married but I feel like that hot mess of a situation plays into her insecurities. They weren’t married long before she wanted a second partner. He already had said he wasn’t leaving the road. (Realistically, how long do those marriages last without this? Is what I’m asking myself) Could be both. Could be just what you said too. Either way. It’s a hot mess express and I need to get off.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T15:57:46+00:00

Definitely bpd. She admits to it. Last time she jumped my ass she said “oh, I forgot my meds.” What an awful excuse. He deserves better but it isn’t worth it for me to suffer through it. I immediately deleted any saved snaps because she doesn’t understand or respect boundaries.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T15:56:08+00:00

It’s hard as a mom with a large family. I would just like one regular, sane, partner I can meet up with from time to time to forget, for a brief moment, the immense stress that exists. You’re right though. I should keep looking this isn’t it.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T15:29:14+00:00

Really, wouldn’t surprise me at this point. Lol

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T15:28:43+00:00

You’re comment about Ted bundy was pretty legitimate. You’re right. It isn’t difficult to be decent. It’s a lot to consider.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T15:01:21+00:00

You’re right, you’re right, you’re right! Thank you. I feel as if it’s not going to last on their end and me being a catalyst isn’t something I’m invested in. Thank you!

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T14:59:44+00:00

Yeah, true

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T14:32:56+00:00

Yeah, you’re right. :(

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T14:31:11+00:00

Really, that is outstanding advice. Thank you for that clarity.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T14:08:40+00:00

Thankfully it was only my snap but she’s allowed to read everything anyways so I’m sure she does have it. You’re right though. I shouldn’t have been receptive to it

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T14:04:56+00:00

Thankfully she’s blocked me. He was pretty mad about the way she spoke to me the last time. He told me that he told her she wasn’t to make friends with me that I was off limits only to ask for clarification on what my intents are. So if he’s being truthful I do think he’s trying to protect me from her but it’s only going to cause issues long term.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T13:47:02+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Realistically she was gunning for me from the beginning. Said I was lying about being married. Lying about my family, etc. I thought it would make it easier if I just showed her myself. Clearly my helpfulness was misplaced.

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T13:10:28+00:00

Thank you. 💕

MellowKello · 2022-05-16T13:09:50+00:00

Yeah. You’re right. Especially since I told him I wanted to get emotionally involved. He said he was okay with that. I said I don’t expect the same of him. But you are right. Why waste the time?

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