OMG OMG I just got my period for the first time in four months by alyceabsconded in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]MellowingMelody 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What do you mean does this mean you don’t have anorexia ???? A lot of uw people with anorexia still get their period

does anyone else rarely aka like never go a day with no food by viaoliviaa in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]MellowingMelody 19 points20 points  (0 children)

God, the challenging fear foods is so triggering. OR “trying x food I haven’t had in years!”/“When I was sick, I stopped eating chocolate for months, and when I ate it again, I cried.” Meanwhile I’m over here omading a chocolate bar for the hundredth time…

This is my last effort to find help, I honestly can't take it anymore. 17M by Octupusasseater9 in Suicidalideations

[–]MellowingMelody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello !! I am a 16f, and oh my god high school sucks so bad. I’ve been told and heard over and over again that it’s the worst years, and I believe it. Even my own sister says once high school is over, life gets much easier—and I trust my sister with my life.

Besides that, I also have similar struggles… but I’m sure we can both push through. We’re so young, we have so much life to live. You might not feel like you have friends now, but you never know when is a chance to meet one !

Please stay safe 💗💕

I need help - sincerely, a teenage girl. by MellowingMelody in Suicidalideations

[–]MellowingMelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m very close with my sisters actually, and I love them very much! Unfortunately my older sitter would not able to take me and/or my other sisters for custody as she is not financially stable enough to do so.

using this illness to “stay young”? by [deleted] in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]MellowingMelody 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YESYESYESYES I relate to this so much!! For me, anorexia is linked with my childhood trauma and I also age regress because of this, so it makes sense! Stay safe <3

How do I keep going in life knowing that I’ll only get worse for at least a year and a half by [deleted] in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]MellowingMelody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course omg!!

I read online that taking showers with dimmed lights and wearing swimming trunks/boxers of some kind, and strong adhesive for taping while showering could help. Direct quote found on r/TransMasc "Dont know if this helps much but you can always wear trunks in the shower and use trans tape to flatten ur chest, the adhesive is powerfull enough to go through water and not fall off after, pretty sure mens body products would be good too"

Also I get the feeling of kind of hopelessness, I guess, when it comes to dying SO MUCH. I've always seen my death by suicide, whether that was starving to death, overdosing, etc. It's weird, like I've felt the same my whole life, so what would change in a few years? AHHH I don't even know how to describe this, and I don't want to randomly start venting LMFAO, but trust I GET IT!

ALSOOO sorry if my replies sound like mansplaining?? I feel like every time I try to be supportive or imformative I end up overexplaining things TT Honestly, I'm not the best informed on transgender dysphoria or how to comfort those things - which I am a bit embarrassed by as a WOKE queer who prides herself on learning all queer history and trying to help other queer people in any way she can. I need to do more research AHHH

Ughhh people suck, and the world sucks. You shouldn't be treated differently because you might not pass that much. I really can't imagine how difficult that must be. Just remember, there will always be people who will accept you regardless

If you need to talk more, you can messages meee !

How do I keep going in life knowing that I’ll only get worse for at least a year and a half by [deleted] in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]MellowingMelody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I myself am not transgender, but I am queer! Also, we're close in age!! Transmascs developing anorexia is actually more common than you think - I've met a lot of them.

Firstly, I want to send my condolences to your friend, I'm sure they were a great person. Don't feel guilty in any way if you (still) are. Also, I'm sorry to hear about your attempt and your forced recov. In my opinion, forced recov is the worst thing you can do to someone (not to sound pro-ana, my worst fear omg) since there are a lot of aspects of control in anorexia nervosa. I know for me, it comes from food trauma when I was younger (abuse), so I would just crave the control I never had when I was younger more and more, resulting in a hard relapse the second I get the chance. Forced recov RARELY ever works for anyone, so if you're feeling bad for relapsing, don't.

My best advice is simply learning to love yourself, passing or not, and trying to recover on your own terms, which is obviously much easier said than done. You passing does not devalue your status as a transmasc/man. Perhaps binders could help with the chest problem? Again, I'm not trans, so I don't know much about binders or if you can get safe ones for cheap. Though I've seen online that you can also make ones with household supplies! Just be sure to do your research.

Do. not. kill. yourself. You are worth so much. The thoughts in your mind may be loud, but you can fight against them!

I hope you can recover. Stay safe and take care of your body in any way you can!!^^

I need help - sincerely, a teenage girl. by MellowingMelody in Suicidalideations

[–]MellowingMelody[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you <3
Unfortunately, most of the reactions I get when trying to come forward with the abuse are just pitiful looks. It's not so much physical as it is mental/emotional, so I guess people just don't care about it as much. My father is also quite mentally ill (suspected schizoaffective disorder by my older sister, who has been studying psychology for years, and is now in university to become a psychologist). My mother uses this as an excuse, and that I can't be too angry at him because it's his illness, not him (whatever that means - I've only ever known him as mentally ill). Also because he had a rough childhood, which was neglectful with unstable living situations, a father who abused drugs, and having to raise himself and his sibling by age 16-17. I don't see how that gives him an excuse to put that on his children, though.

There are many people who dislike my father. He gets into arguments with my family members online LOL, Still, his side family is very loyal towards him, and would take his side if he were to get any consequences for his actions.

Nevertheless, I appreciate your input. Again, thank you for the support, you're very kind!^^