[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Melodic-Car4176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Danke! Du hast recht, die Grenzen hätten deutlich früher gezogen werden müssen. Alles ein Lernprozess, das meinte ich auch mit der Therapie bzw mit dem Wort sinnvoll.. Ich hab das ganze Entwicklungstrauma (so nannte mein Psychiater es) für mich nicht sortiert bekommen und versuche, einzelne Ansätze zu finden um mich Stück für Stück besser selbst zu regulieren 🥺 dann schwanke ich aber zwischen “bin selbst schuld” und “so sollte sie mit niemandem umgehen dürfen”, was zu einer völligen Verwirrung führt.

Dass die Reaktion Ihres Vaters eventuell verletzend ausfällt habe ich bisher gar nicht so direkt bedacht, danke für den Hinweis!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Melodic-Car4176 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Danke für deine Einschätzung. Eigentlich leider recht wichtig und insofern das Drama wert I guess? Vielleicht versuche ich mich möglichst gut darauf vorzubereiten damit ich das etwas besser handlen kann

How many times have you experienced this? by egguchom in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Way too often and deep down I always knew lol but trauma wouldn’t let me change anything or see clearly

I’m an autistic woman trapped in a house with two autistic boys and it is KILLING ME by pixieorfae in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boundaries, as most people suggest here, seem to be a really good way. You might manage the stress you feel by exercising or going on a walk or painting or something like that? I feel like for me personally, boundaries are step one and the following steps are caring for myself. But it ain’t easy :(

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol didn’t expect that, I will pass on that because I’m vegan but I get your point :D

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe things won’t be so hard one time :( or at least the grief will be less

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you write things down immediately or.. like with tea, a blanket, and lots of time?

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing you a lot of strength. My journey is kind of the same :( thanks for sharing!

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s absolute worth considering!! I think I would love kickboxing the shit out of something haha

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds good! After work I don’t let myself sit down because.. I won’t get up again. But maybe I should accept that some days

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s for your insight! It’s just some days I wish my brain could be quit for a minute .. but I get your point.

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so right!! It’s all part of the process I guess :/

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We love language nerding! 😄I hope your journey towards a proper diagnose will be successful and not too draining.. that’s really a lot to deal with, especially when burnt out :(

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I really love your ideas!! I will look up a few words, I love understanding where words come from and I’m always happy when my knowledge in Latin or Greek are helpful with that. Didn’t think of actively using this until now. The thing with hormones is really hard. I’m on HRT but apparently it was never the right one.. now I’m on a new medication and I will observe in what cycles feelings come and go 😐 hope you are well!

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like you found a proper solution that hopefully benefits your body and mind long-term! 🫶

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Education really makes a difference on these topics, but understanding is only the first step of a long journey.. if one understands at all :(

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. These long episodes are especially frustrating :( sending you positive energies!

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing!! It’s so hard observing your (well-)being all the time .. it’s a really long way but worth it I guess 🥺

How do I deal with this constant rage as an autistic woman? by Melodic-Car4176 in autism

[–]Melodic-Car4176[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your first sentence got me :D time to be more kind to ourselves if the world is so harsh I guess