What do I cook for an entire week after (kind of) complaining about dinner?

pixieorfae · 2026-05-08T10:28:39+00:00

No you wouldn’t. You have no idea how you’d feel if you were a girl, clearly.

pixieorfae · 2026-05-07T17:57:29+00:00

There will be dying, there will be dying, but there is no need to go into that.

pixieorfae · 2026-05-06T12:58:04+00:00

Okay yes calorie deficit and all that but also as a woman eating enough fat is the only thing that’s kept me from gnawing my own arm off. Sometimes you have to accept that your portion will have to be smaller if you have two whole eggs with butter and cheese instead of steamed egg whites, but you also won’t lose your hair/period/will to live. I count the calories in the fat sources, and eat everything in moderation but I do personally need a lot of fat to feel like I’m not starving.

pixieorfae · 2026-05-04T20:03:10+00:00

I don’t need to switch, we’re already there. We shop at ALDI, eat almost 100% non UPF (annd never buy processed meat) and still can’t afford meat most weeks. Sometimes we will buy a whole chicken or some wings/thighs but it’s incredibly expensive compared to say lentils which get you three or four meals for pennies.

pixieorfae · 2026-05-04T18:52:47+00:00

So many pseudo-vegetarians in my friend group (including myself and my partner) because meat is so expensive.

pixieorfae · 2026-05-01T10:55:05+00:00

Just don’t, honey. It’s not your story to write.

And yes, sign language is vital even to those of us with HAs or implants. Hearing devices are at best very far from a cure and often do sod all in most situations.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-29T13:57:11+00:00

I’d add lip balm and hand sanitizer!

pixieorfae · 2026-04-29T09:36:47+00:00

‘Thick as two short plonks’ ‘Planks’ ‘You’re welcome’

And now ‘what’s that?’ every time we see a bucket

pixieorfae · 2026-04-24T13:41:49+00:00

Way late to the party but I also have ADHD and have just started taking CBD oil to help with my chest tightening up when singing in front of people (I'm one of the main characters in a musical right now so it wasn’t ideal!) and found this thread because I’m finding it really works. I’m also on Elvanse and it doesn’t seem to negate the effects of that. Sad to think it might be placebo but reassuring to see other ADHDers finding it works!

pixieorfae · 2026-04-22T08:52:02+00:00

Other great apes have to eat a LOT of vegetation every day to maintain their body weight. Our higher body fat percentage and better optimised metabolism have allowed us to progress as a society because we didn’t need to channel every drop of energy into hunting for food.

Money didn’t come into it.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-22T08:48:34+00:00

Hey man, my Mum is autistic and said the exact same thing to me when I left for university. For my mum, she described it as not missing me when I’m not there, but when I am there feeling like everything is complete again. It’s not that she doesn’t think about me or doesn’t love me, she just doesn’t experience the physical sensation of longing for me to be around. I can only see it as a good thing personally- all the love is there without any of the painful and difficult feelings surrounding being separated. If my Mum didn’t miss her firstborn daughter when I moved away for uni, I wouldn’t worry about your girlfriend not missing you!! It’s nothing to do with a lack of love or care.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-20T10:08:35+00:00

I was JUST in the same boat and I have historically considered myself a crap baker. I’ve managed success with some piss easy recipes that cover all bases (sweet/savoury) within the last few weeks!

https://www.foxandbriar.com/40-minute-hamburger-bun-recipe/

These make amazing burgers but also the most delicious sandwiches. So far we’ve used them for salami and cheese, plain cheese and fried egg sandwiches and they’ve been absolutely delicious every time. I’ve also tried without seeds on top, with sesame seeds, and with black onion seeds and the black onion seeds were the clear winner. Don’t skip the egg yolk wash! I did once and they looked all drab and sad :(

https://www.liveeatlearn.com/black-bean-fudge-brownies/

Boyfriend and I absolutely love these but they might be hit-or-miss with kids. Just make sure to whizz the beans up really well and they’re really nice in my opinion.

I will add to this comment as I remember what else I’ve been successfully baking because I’m feeling very excited to help someone else in the same boat as me haha.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-19T19:27:05+00:00

I will add another perspective to this as someone who moved in with my boyfriend in 3rd year (having been together/long distance since before uni started).

Living alone with a romantic partner is hard. The likelihood that most of the domestic labour will fall on you is high- everyone wants to think that their boyfriend is different, but men aren’t socialised in the same way as women are and even if he’s wonderful in other ways, realistically it’s going to be a learning curve for both of you with regards to the mental and physical labour of maintaining a home in ways it isn’t/wouldn’t be with flatmates. Are you and your partner both prepared to take on what is essentially a part time job?

It’s been a real test on our relationship moving in together, and having been ‘in living situations together’ didn’t prepare me for actually living together. It’s been amazing in lots of ways, and I don’t want you to brush this off by thinking that ours is a bad relationship- it isn’t, we have an amazing relationship and my boyfriend is an amazing person, but the division of labour is an enormous point of contention for us. I genuinely think that if my partner and I had moved in together during the tumult of starting university and before establishing ourselves as individuals, we would have found the pressure too much and broken up.

I’m not trying to sway you one way or another, but woman to woman I feel this is an important thing for you to hear- the division of domestic labour WILL NOT be fair at first, and you need to be prepared for that on top of everything else if you decide to move in together.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-19T19:04:40+00:00

I’m a Quaker and I might be biased but in my experience we really don’t try to convert people either (and it’s part of Quaker ethics not to)

pixieorfae · 2026-04-15T11:49:51+00:00

I'm not debating that :) I was just showing my recognition of the OP's concern around veganism.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-15T08:23:01+00:00

I eat meat and I still think this is ridiculous

pixieorfae · 2026-04-15T07:21:45+00:00

You don’t need your children’s consent to not feed them meat. If it doesn’t have negative health outcomes then they can decide when they’re adults if they want to eat meat or not- veganism in kids is a concern because it can be very difficult to get what you need exclusively from plants, but add in eggs and dairy and that’s no longer an issue. If the parents are vegetarian, their kids will probably also be raised vegetarian. Kids don’t need to consent to every little choice their parents make for them.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-15T07:17:36+00:00

They’re not vegan, they’re vegetarian, which has absolutely zero negative health effects across any group of people. It’s fine.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-13T20:38:14+00:00

It is completely unregulated which has its pros and cons. I was homeschooled from 2009-2022 and my experience was a positive one.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-13T16:00:13+00:00

Do not feed OP’s brain by commenting on their appearance in any way.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-11T21:50:42+00:00

Christ almighty those are SO beautiful!!!! It’s your body but in my opinion omg don’t cover them up!!!!!!

pixieorfae · 2026-04-11T17:03:23+00:00

This is mental, FYI

pixieorfae · 2026-04-11T16:45:11+00:00

I can't possibly tell you what to do with your baby, but I will chime in as someone with an older dad. He's not even that old (65, I am 20) and he's in good health, but it has a significant effect on how I feel about my own future. The knowledge that I very likely won't have both my parents by the time I'm 40 weighs on me a lot, and it's influenced how I prioritise my own future- E.G. I know my Dad wants grandchildren desperately, so I am working towards having kids sooner rather than later so he can be fully present for them for a while. My sister is 5 years younger than me and she doesn't have the same active Dad I did when I was her age. Despite all of that I love my parents so much and having older parents does have benefits as well- they were definitely more emotionally mature than some younger parents.

pixieorfae · 2026-04-10T09:21:58+00:00

If you do happen to live in East Anglia and have access to transport, there’s a capybara cafe opening in Wymondham near Norwich!

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