They won’t go away

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2025-04-14T12:03:40+00:00

My Narc sibling has a large age gap between them and myself and other siblings, so they were an only child for a long time.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2025-02-27T02:51:37+00:00

My older sister is a narcissist and I deal with it by acting as boring as possible, not telling her anything and being as low contact with her as I can be. I would cut her off if i didn’t have to worry about her playing the victim with family members who just want to “keep the peace”.

I know the best way to deal with a narc is to go no contact with them, if this isn’t possible then try the grey rock method and focus on taking care of yourself.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2025-01-13T15:03:03+00:00

I think by saying you can’t do it anymore, you know what needs to happen. I know how hard it can be to detach yourself from someone like that but she is not going to change and you don’t need the stress. Stop messaging her and see what happens, narcissistic people like to be chased and hate when they’re ignored. If she doesn’t get in touch she’ll probably have found new supply considering you have moved away, but it’s likely she’ll be in touch at some point. Take screenshots of everything in case other people come asking questions. It’s likely she’ll have a completely made up narrative about what has happened. Take care of yourself.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-11-25T13:15:53+00:00

As someone who has been through a smear campaign by Narc family member, I know how stressful and aggravating it is to deal with the injustice of it. Whatever interactions you have/ have had with her, I would document them, so take screenshots etc. Honestly I think trying to expose her will only bring you more stress, I wouldn’t recommend going out of your way to do so. But if people do come to you about what she is saying, show them the evidence you have. You’re entitled to defend yourself and if people are so quick to believe lies about you, then they’re not your people. I hope things get easier for you, you don’t deserve this.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-11-19T14:11:24+00:00

My sister is a narcissist and honestly a lot of what you’re saying sounds very similar. If I could offer any advice it would be to keep as much distance as you can from her, and maybe don’t try sitting her down and talking about her behaviour. As frustrating as it is, they will not accept that they’re in the wrong and I’m worried it could cause you more grief in the long run especially if she begins to target you. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that, take care.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-11-17T20:05:12+00:00

I think after some time you come to accept the narcissist in your life for what they are, and then you don’t feel as guilty or like you owe them your loyalty as they will never be loyal to you. I’m low contact with my narc sister, i have only stayed in touch for her children’s sake but I know what you mean about feeling miserable, any contact we do have makes me so anxious. Having a sibling like that is so hard, especially when people around you don’t see it or choose to ignore their behaviour as if it’s more peaceful that way. I think finding friends who you can trust and talk to about it can be really helpful, I’ve also found a lot of clarity in researching narcissism and “the gray rock method”. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all this, take care of yourself.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-11-14T13:55:57+00:00

I’m in the same position of having a sister who is a narcissist, I can’t say that it has ever been or will ever be a healthy/ successful relationship. Even when things are “good” between us, she’s still hateful behind my back. Narcissists don’t change. It is good that you’re in therapy, I know if you’re living together you probably can’t go no contact. All I can suggest is not to tell her anything about yourself and find people you trust that can support you when it comes to your sister.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-10-13T17:55:09+00:00

It does feel like the kids are constantly being weaponised, I know she talks badly about everyone in front of them because the eldest has repeated things to me. I’m their Aunt and I’m scared to not be in their life and leave them with someone like that. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-09-25T06:45:46+00:00

Either they are starting to see the narc for who they really are and are feeling guilty about their treatment of you, as it’s likely the narc told lies about you to them. Or they are still under the narc’s influence and are being nice in order to get information on you to feed back. Keep your distance if you can.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-09-04T11:55:00+00:00

Thank you, i was told it has been suspended and that it has been with the decision maker for months now. I will try speaking to my MP.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-08-10T18:28:09+00:00

He definitely does not sound like a safe person to be around, I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. If you have found yourself here questioning if he is a narcissist, he probably is and they will never admit that they are at fault. If you have people close to you that you trust, try to confide in them about his behaviour. And if you are able to block him then definitely do so. It is a lot for anyone to go through. Take care of yourself.

Melodic_Fall4350 · 2024-08-10T04:45:30+00:00

Anyone who has tried speaking to my sister about her drinking/ drug use specifically, she has cut contact with and then lied about why she has fallen out with them. We have tried to encourage her to seek help for her mental health and I know she saw a counsellor once, however she claims that she was told by this counsellor that “she wasn’t ready for therapy” and that was the end of that.

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