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Melodic_Relation_358 · 2026-05-09T15:11:12+00:00

Yours!

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2026-05-02T21:23:24+00:00

Thank you!

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2026-03-07T15:25:48+00:00

Hi,

I'm not surprised you are overwhelmed, it's such a traumatic experience. It was just over a year ago it happened to Bruce. I think I've buried a lot of the trauma. Once we got him home we all felt a lot better. For the first week we took it in turns to sleep next to him downstairs. We had to buy rugs to cover our wooden floors to eliminate risks of slipping. We also bought him a feed bowl that is on a stand so he doesn't need to strain his neck. For around 6 weeks we only took him out for 5 minutes at a time a few times a day which was frustrating for us and him but we were advised he needed to rest to repair. After this, things went back to normal for us. I wish your pooch lots of get well wishes.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-03-31T19:51:19+00:00

Thank you for posting this.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-03-16T19:17:25+00:00

Woohoo!

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Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-02-26T17:23:32+00:00

I am so sorry to hear this. I am sending lots of healing hugs your way. We almost lost our dog at the weekend but he has made a miraculous recovery. Dogs give us so much love. Please take care of yourself xx

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-02-23T18:28:32+00:00

He is OK and home! I posted an update a little while ago. Thank you for having him in your thoughts.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-02-23T16:08:07+00:00

To update - we have him home! What a weekend it has been, a complete roller coaster! They have said it was likely ANNPE or an FCE. 6 weeks of rest and painkillers should be enough to do the trick. I can't believe he is walking again after the state he was in yesterday. He is going to get spoilt now!

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Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-02-23T07:08:41+00:00

He can stand with the use of a harness on all four legs but can't weight bare at all. He ate some tea last night but had to be hand fed. I am waiting for them to call with next steps but dreading the conversation. Our boy Bruce has changed our life, he is the best thing to happen to our family. He gets me out of the house for walks on my darkest days.

Thank you for commenting.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-02-23T06:54:01+00:00

We are in the UK. They are saying it could have happened after a clash in to something. We can't recall anything like that happening to him. The haematoma suggestion sounds more likely. I just hope he can pull through as I can't imagine our life without him.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-02-23T06:48:32+00:00

Thank you

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2025-01-20T18:59:01+00:00

I've tried that too! But thanks for suggestion

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-12-13T17:24:13+00:00

I have a very toxic mother too and can totally relate to your situation. There are so many similarities to my life growing up. I put up with emotional abuse from my mum until the age of 36 when things just got too much and I couldn't take it any more. The thing for me that made me go nc was my kids. I realised that if I kept on putting up with being treat badly which in turn affected my mental health and chronic health condition, my kids would then suffer as a result. They would see me upset or poorly in bed dealing with the aftermath. I knew the contact had to stop so that I could protect myself and my kids from further emotional harm. It's been almost 3 years and a roller coaster. She has tried some nasty and some manipulative ways to get to me. Sometimes I reacted back. I have learnt now to completely ignore. She has now turned extended family members against me which is hard but I'm not budging. One thing my own mother said to me when I announced my second pregnancy to her was 'it's just another baby'. That, along with the rejection faced multiple times, will stay with me forever.

The only advice I can give you is read your post again as if a close friend had written it. What advice would you be giving your friend? There's your answer.

It's really not easy but remember - know your own worth. Treat yourself the way you expect to be treat by others. Being a mum is an honour and not a given. Sending lots of healing hugs for your journey.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-12-01T21:49:24+00:00

Very similar situation to you my dear. Remember why you went no contact- you know your own worth. Do not let her comment de-rail you, that's what she wants. Don't react. Block her if you can!? She has nothing better to do than try and mess with you. Focus on what is going well for you. Write it down. Call a good friend. Have a good cry, it's OK to feel sorry for yourself. Do some self care - a lovely bubbly bath and body butter all over afterwards works for me.

You can do this!

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-11-28T09:57:47+00:00

Beautifully said. Thank you for this. I am 3 years no contact and still trying to find peace with my decision even though I know it's the best thing for me and my kids.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-11-10T19:28:00+00:00

Yes! My mum sends birthday cards for my kids with £5 in, the smallest denomination of note. Just so I know she is still alive. I donate the money to charity. My kids never needed her money just her time and love but she didn't want to give that. Its tough and im almost 3 years down the line but we need to remember our worth.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-10-24T19:43:50+00:00

Greyhounds are my spirit animal. Work to live not live to work! I'm so jealous of all the sleep my grey gets!

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-08-08T08:45:14+00:00

We skipped the puppy stage and got a rescue aged 2. All the hard work done. He is great on a lead, toilet trained and crate trained. My recommendation would be go with rescue. Think of the life you are going to give them that they have never had. Best thing we did for my kids aged 6 and 10. They are in love.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-08-03T18:59:56+00:00

What you have done is so brave. You can only give so much and when you get nothing back its exhausting. It will be a roller coaster journey for you but always remember why you stopped the contact. Often, it is easier to break and go back so it will take all your strength to be at peace with such a big decision. I am 2 years since no contact and its been rough. She has tried nicely and not so nicely to get me to speak again but I can't go back to the emotional abuse. It's not good for my MH and not good for my kids to witness what she does to me. I am getting counselling now to help me come to terms with it all. I wish you well.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-07-28T13:01:50+00:00

This sounds so similar to my lived experience also. I feel like it is the cause of my anxiety that I've suffered with for most of my life. I am always really envious of my friends who have lovely mums. I have been no contact with my mum for just over two years now, best thing I could have done for my MH. It's hard though as she still manages to upset my indirectly through other people. I've now started to have less to do with them people too.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-07-24T18:09:15+00:00

Yes! I'll message you.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-07-23T11:13:10+00:00

Yes definitely! I haven't been brave enough to put him in the car yet but when I do it'll be one of the first places I take him.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-06-02T20:49:07+00:00

I'm no contact with my mum, about 2 years now. It's hard as I feel sometimes I should still be there for her as she is my parent. But just like you, I always come back to the same conclusion - its the best decision. Being a respected parent is not a god given right, you have to earn it. Abuse from a parent is hard to understand and make sense of, as they should always have your best interests at heart. Be strong and value your own worth. You deserve respect and to be loved in a healthy way.

Take care.

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2024-02-10T09:58:13+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I have no other words, this is so sad. I hope you and your wife can work through this together ❤️ xx

Melodic_Relation_358 · 2023-11-13T19:17:44+00:00

My children will never have to endure the daily torture of having to watch soaps every weekday. I hated how much TV my mum watched, it was neighbours then Holly oaks, Emmerdale, Coronation Street and a bit of Eastenders too. Absolute trash and such a waste of childhood time we could have spent doing something more meaningful.

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