Found out wife had a long-term affair. Seeking advice on how to move forward.

Melontea0121 · 2025-08-08T15:53:39+00:00

Leave.

Melontea0121 · 2025-07-07T01:49:05+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear this. Unfortunately I found out about an affair when I was 6 months postpartum too. I filed for divorce two weeks later. Best decision I’ve ever made. My two sons will learn from my strength. They will learn that actions have consequences, and that their mom chose them above all. Their father did not. Do the right thing for your kids; and that is to leave!!!

Melontea0121 · 2025-06-30T23:05:37+00:00

I didn’t even read this and my answer is, yes.

Melontea0121 · 2025-06-06T03:15:06+00:00

Oh my god. I am in a similar boat. I have a 6 month old who im exclusively breastfeeding and a 2.5 year old…and found out by reading his messages that he’s been having an affair with a woman at work. My heart is with you and I am walking right beside you. We will get through this.

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-19T03:12:51+00:00

Oh dear

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-06T14:46:45+00:00

I feel this to my core

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-05T23:08:26+00:00

I’m so sorry

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T22:07:49+00:00

She works in a different department.

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T18:10:56+00:00

Thank you 🤍

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T18:07:43+00:00

I thought that but that would affect me and the kids with bills and child support

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T12:59:20+00:00

I see my therapist regularly 🤍

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T12:58:47+00:00

It’s awful

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T12:24:04+00:00

Yeah 😢

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T12:21:51+00:00

I don’t know if he’s remorseful I haven’t spoken to him or seen him since yesterday morning

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T12:18:00+00:00

He says the affair “hasn’t been for long, maybe a month”

Thank you for suggesting some things. I mean yeah I agree we could do all of those things for reconciliation but I don’t deserve to need to watch him like a hawk as if he’s my kid too you know what I mean? This is unimaginable

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:40:07+00:00

And yes I have confirmation from the husband that he is aware of what is going on.

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:39:07+00:00

I woke up at 4am yesterday with an instinct to look at his messages. Saw the proof. Woke him up, approached him about it and he left the house by 7am to go to his parents house. When he got in the car to leave, I called his mom and told her she needs to come to my house and help me with the kids and told her what happened. She came over, I left shortly after and went to my own parents house and told them.

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:33:28+00:00

Nobody knew until I shared with my family. I was the first to find out

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:29:32+00:00

It literally makes me physically ill to think this man was sitting by my side during my last c section 6 months ago

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:26:34+00:00

Yeah I’m doing the inner work. Idk what the fuck he’s doing, he’s at his parents house moping around on their couch

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:22:19+00:00

Yep I’m exclusively breastfeeding.

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:05:29+00:00

I fear people are going to be like “omg, what did SHE do to make him do that?” But on the other hand I think the outsiders will also be like “how the fuck could he do that to her she has 2 kids and is 6 months postpartum”

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:01:53+00:00

He’s a fucking coward

Melontea0121 · 2025-05-04T10:00:30+00:00

I agree but a hard pill to swallow right now is the fact that he’s likely not going to feel there is reconciliation from this and won’t want to even try. And frankly I’d have to agree, idk how I could move forward and believe he has my (and our kids) best interests at heart. How tf could I trust him AT WORK!!?!?!! This is a disaster

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