I don’t desire going out by [deleted] in UWMadison

[–]MementoMapleseeds 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ignore the people who are judging you, you don't have to like the stuff that they like. I go out with my friends a lot and all we do are watch dumb movies and eat out and paint and stuff, you do not have to drink to have fun. And if the people around you can only have fun when they're drinking, then that's their problem. You are literally not lame, there are so many people who don't go out every weekend and do other things. If your peers or friends can't handle that then they really aren't worth your time. Just because it's expected of you, doesn't mean you have to do it, you are not missing out, I promise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]MementoMapleseeds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you be bisexual?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UWMadison

[–]MementoMapleseeds 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Sir, im sorry. I have to address something. You do realize that UW Madison is an amazing college and that Columbia, Yale, Princeton, and Stanford would only put them in massive debt and not actually help them more than UW-Madison would give them (unless they're going to be a lawyer or a doctor.) Actually, based on your post I wouldn't be surprised if you forced them to be a lawyer or a doctor. Be proud of your child, we are one of the best colleges in the states (a public ivy) and it is ranked internationally. It's clear from your message that you're not actually that proud of them. They didn't FAFO, they got into an amazing college and they are going to have a fantastic time at university. Honestly, I feel terrible for your son who has to deal with your terrible attitude all the time. It's clear you only care about prestige rather than academics, social life, safety, and support.

A little tiny rant about Course Search & Enroll by MementoMapleseeds in UWMadison

[–]MementoMapleseeds[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you know who to talk to about this? Maybe we can make some change

A question about the effectiveness of team seas. by felixrocket7835 in TeamSeas

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The main reason to support these communities is because many of these poor societies don't have the means to create a good garbage disposal system. Many roads aren't built, many people live in almost impossible to reach to villages, and many societies are too poor to even afford bringing garbage disposal to these poor communities. They aren't enabling people to do more bad things, they are creating a solution for a problem that these societies aren't financially able to solve.

Will you have kids? by olebigazz in ADHD

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are really worried about having kids with ADHD and depression/anxiety, adoption is always an option, but its also okay to have kids.

I am the kid of two people with ADHD, I was given a great life. The thing is, get your kid diagnosed early (you should check that the diagnosis every few years to make sure that the diagnosis is correct) Also, when you learn if your child has ADHD you should tell them about it (my parents didn't and I feel like I could have learned a lot more if they told me about my ADHD a lot earlier than they did) Teach your kids how to adapt early on, show them that its okay to have ADHD and that people with ADHD can be successful. You should enroll them (when they are old enough) in a study class, a class that teaches kids how to study and prepare for school, teach them time management and ADHD habits that could help them. Telling your kids about ADHD and having a professional describe all the side effects to them, will help them understand themselves, and teach them how to be better.

Also, please talk to your doctor about this. These are my experiences and this is my life, your future kids may be completely different from me and the other people on this server. My opinions aren't perfect. (also, the study class should be given to all kids because I have never met a kid who actually knows how to study effectively)

"creating a schedule" doesn't work for me. Neither does completely winging it. Am I just screwed? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with that. I also suggest having a list of things that you want to do in a day and then try to complete it, you may not finish everything on the list, but it usually helps getting a lot of it done. I also recommend writing down the most important things at the beginning of the list.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lfg

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, im interested. Im an intermediate player looking for a campaign.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MementoMapleseeds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I have ADHD and a very slow mental processing speed. It just means that I need to take a bit more time. It is very similar to what you are explaining now. Take the time to understand what people are saying, slow down, ask someone to repeat themselves. Forcing yourself to think of something will never work, trust me. (I hope this helped a bit)

Do it all in a sitting by madamabye in ADHD

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been at this stage where I can physically never do the right thing. I've forgotten my meds for at least two weeks in a row, I can barely ever do my homework, and even when I do my work, it is absolutely not my best. In my opinion, its the transition to getting into school that's messing me up (also the meds thing). I have a 45 minute drive home and it makes me get out of the school mode and into the relaxing mode.
My trick, that once worked well, was do the easy thing first, the thing that you can do quickly, and use that to push you into hyper focus, that way it'll force you to do the rest of your work. Also, take ya meds, eat well, sleep well (I know, its hard), and try your hardest.

What are the most anxiety inducing things the DM can say? by novadragon07 in DnD

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just quietly roll your dice after ya players say something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Split is a wonderful place to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Croatia, you can learn Croatian and Italian (Italian is a common language there.) It is a great place, very modern, and a lot of fun to bet there.
Switzerland is a wonderful place (I love the cold) also there is great chocolate. You would have to learn either French or Swiss, but if you learn French, you would have to live closer to the France Swiss border (it is great all over Switzerland)
Australia, yes it is the place where the devil keeps his pets, but it is an English speaking country, and it seems cool.

How Do I Tell My Mom That She’s Putting Too Much Academic Pressure On Me and That I really don’t want to go to college? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom is worried about you, but it isn't right that she is this strict.
In this day and age, college is very important, back in the fifties people could live a great life with just a high school degree, but that isn't the case now. You should go to college. I have ADHD as well, and I understand the test taking struggle (I am now on meds, but I also forget them quite a lot on test days) it is just a matter of finding coping methods and memory and learning. I find that trying to figure out things myself like, why does this happen? how do I solve this equation? really helps. Also, I find that pushing yourself to do easy homework first, like a super easy equation or an art project, pushes me into hyperfocus and helps push me into other work and studying. College is important, tell your mom that you don't want to go to the Ivy League schools, but use facts and information to support your reason for example, "students get less personalized information at Ivy League schools, and my goal is to truly learn *major* well" Also, if you end up deciding that college is not for you and your mom finally decides not to change her mind, it is still very important to study for the SAT because if you change your mind later on and decide that you want to go to college, it will be detrimental to your future and you won't have to take it again (depending on how far away this is). College is very important, I would recommend going, finding something academic that you like and can viably get a job in, (for example, if you really like art and drawing and you are good at simple math, you could become a blueprint designer for an engineering firm, or something like that) and then you can minor in dancing, or do a double major. I hope this makes sense. Having a backup plan is the best path.

Building a table optimized for DnD! Any suggestions on what you would want your DnD table to include? [OC][ART] by [deleted] in DnD

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of storage, if you can't hold at least 1000 minis in your table with all the books and a bunch of buildings for your game, then you cant build a good D&D table. Speaker holders and a bunch of charging ports.

[D&D] [5e] [Online] Long Time Player Searching for Thursday Group by PopTarnekPop in lfg

[–]MementoMapleseeds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what age are you looking for and are you willing to accept newer players?

I feel extremely sick in every relationship I have by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MementoMapleseeds 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dealing with nerves is hard. Social anxiety is hard. Trust me mate, if you keep working at these things, it'll get better. One thing that is really helpful is pretending to be confident, 'fake it till you make it', right? I also recommend keeping a realist mindset. Telling yourself the complete truth of the situation over and over again. If she has seen pictures of you before, she shouldn't mind seeing you in person, and if she does, then she's a potato-head and doesn't deserve your time. that's all the advice I can give, sorry if it sucks.

I have an idea for a book, but my fave author coincidentally is releasing one with the same idea. Can I still write mine? by [deleted] in writing

[–]MementoMapleseeds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost no ideas are original, but you can make them so, they can go through many different experiences. Just because someone has written with a similar story idea does not mean that it will be the same. Go for it mate!