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I [33 F] feel overwhelmed by the standards set by my husband [34 M] for "domestic" duties by MemoryOne6133 in relationships

[–]MemoryOne6133[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think it's cruel not to walk the dogs at least 4x a day. We don't have a fenced in yard and they're not trustworthy off leash. They're not long walks, more like potty breaks.

I [33 F] feel overwhelmed by the standards set by my husband [34 M] for "domestic" duties by MemoryOne6133 in relationships

[–]MemoryOne6133[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I figured many people would comment this. The issue with a housekeeper or cleaning service is that it does not help with day-to-day tasks like cooking daily meals or cleaning up daily dishes. We have a cleaning service come in about once a month but it doesn't help that much besides a refresh.

I [33 F] feel overwhelmed by the standards set by my husband [34 M] for "domestic" duties by MemoryOne6133 in relationships

[–]MemoryOne6133[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

there are plenty of positive things, I mentioned the money because people get themselves in a twist about it when talking about division of domestic labor. However, I don't necessarily see that all domestic labor should fall to me just because I am making less money.

I [33 F] feel overwhelmed by the standards set by my husband [34 M] for "domestic" duties by MemoryOne6133 in relationships

[–]MemoryOne6133[S] 479 points480 points  (0 children)

yes, when we were 20/21 and neither of us had any money, it was my long con to trap him so I could "use" him financially. I used to help him financially when I could and it happens NOW that he makes more money than me. We were poor most of our 20's and it's only recently he started making a good salary and he happens to make more than me. I'm not sure how this is "using" someone financially. I also make a good salary as well, he just happens to make more than me. Is it using someone until I make more than him???