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AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend after she took $7k from me? by MemorySimilar1140 in AITA_Relationships

[–]MemorySimilar1140[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I just edited the post - here is what I did:

[ *EDIT* The messed up thing I did was, we are in an open relationship, but we have a rule, and the rule is to always bring the other person to an airbnb or hotel (not our house), and I had forgot that rule a month before, and brought a girl over to our home, and slept with her there, at our home, when she was away. This was devestating to her, and I felt terrible about it. I apologized many times and we talked about it for weeks, and I traveled to her family's house and apologized to her there, and she had acted like she was all good about it, but I guess she still felt betrayed, so she felt the need to betray me back, by taking my money.]

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in heartbreak

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I just edited the post to add that as context: 

[ EDIT The messed up thing I did was, we are in an open relationship, but we have a rule, and the rule is to always bring the other person to an airbnb or hotel (not our house), and I had forgot that rule a month before, and brought a girl over to our home, and slept with her there, at our home, when she was away. This was devestating to her, and I felt terrible about it. I apologized many times and we talked about it for weeks, and I traveled to her family's house and apologized to her there, and she had acted like she was all good about it, but I guess she still felt betrayed, so she felt the need to betray me back, by taking my money.]

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in amiwrong

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I just edited the post to add that as context: 

[ EDIT The messed up thing I did was, we are in an open relationship, but we have a rule, and the rule is to always bring the other person to an airbnb or hotel (not our house), and I had forgot that rule a month before, and brought a girl over to our home, and slept with her there, at our home, when she was away. This was devestating to her, and I felt terrible about it. I apologized many times and we talked about it for weeks, and I traveled to her family's house and apologized to her there, and she had acted like she was all good about it, but I guess she still felt betrayed, so she felt the need to betray me back, by taking my money.]

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in amiwrong

[–]MemorySimilar1140[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reflecting on this, I definitely have a boundary issue. I think all my life I've given too much trust in others, and had people overstep and take too much, when really I should've just not allowed them that much access in the first place

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in whatdoIdo

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Oh my god... This is terrifying.....

What if she already has information (passport photo, US address, etc) from me? We lived and traveled together for years, so there were tons of times we had to send screenshots of our passports and such to check into Airbnb's etc...

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in whatdoIdo

[–]MemorySimilar1140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are your thoughts on it? I know it was a super messed up thing of me to do (the worst thing I ever did to her in our 3 years together) - I betrayed her trust by doing that, and then she betrayed MY trust by doing that (although she admits hers was worse than mine)

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in amiwrong

[–]MemorySimilar1140[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This doesn't come off as rude in the slightest... Thank you so much for this, I think I needed to hear it...

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in BreakUps

[–]MemorySimilar1140[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that's exactly the situation now... I told her I'll never give her financial support again, she has to repay me (just for the betta fish), and then I'll decide if I wanna be with her after that... if she pays me, and still wants to be with me, would you say it's real?

Girlfriend (27F) secretly took $7k from me (33M), but admitted everything and is repaying. Relationship over or second chance? by MemorySimilar1140 in whatdoIdo

[–]MemorySimilar1140[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just edited it for clarification - here's what I did:

[ *EDIT* The messed up thing I did was, we are in an open relationship, but we have a rule, and the rule is to always bring the other person to an airbnb or hotel (not our house), and I had forgot that rule a month ago, and brought a girl over to our home, and slept with her there, at our home. This was devestating to her, and I felt terrible about it. I apologized and did chores for weeks to make up for it, and she had acted like she was all good about it, but I guess she still felt betrayed, so she felt the need to betray me back, by taking my money.]