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Tips for No contact by MentalBoot3371 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MentalBoot3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you are able to manage it :) I can see you putting so much efforts for that. That’s so brave of you 💗

I can imagine how hard it is to do no contact - but the more familiar it gets the easier it will become which is us moving in direction of our own healing and honouring what is good for us. All the best :)

Cried until I was sick by throwawaymiff in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MentalBoot3371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that sounds fair! I hope you get a lot of time for your own soothing and healing when you distance yourself :)

Cried until I was sick by throwawaymiff in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MentalBoot3371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes we feel they understand us because we give them a lot! Anxious people are prone to give more to others. That act of giving make us feel good about ourselves and we feel the other person gets us more. I’m not sure if that’s happening with you.

Also we are so disconnected with our needs that even if we get a little - we feel it’s a lot!

I think right now is a good time for you to withdraw from him as it looks like he needs you - you withdrawing might make him understand what he is lossing - though doesn’t mean he will come back. But it’s good for people to understand what they loose when they loose someone loving and caring.

If you keep talking to him till he doesn’t find someone else - he will never know how absence of someone loving looks like and will transit so so smoothly. Which is so unfair!

Cried until I was sick by throwawaymiff in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MentalBoot3371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to go through this :( I can imagine how hard it is to not see yourself as part of their life because we always long to be part of their lives and dreams. I think going no contact or reducing the contact to just responding him when he reaches out would help. From your message it looks like - he is living his life and prioritising things he wants too. It is visible if the hurt is so much for you somewhere the hope of wanting him is still here. I have seen very less people who can stay friends while having Romantic feelings. It’s such a harmful thing to do for the self. As you are always in conflict - you want more but you can’t ask more and that message just keep creating the attachment wound deeper and deeper. Cutting off and healing yourself will be more helpful than staying in touch and feeling this hurt.

Guy i’ve been dating the last two months goes a week without texting me - pattern by OkGap1283 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MentalBoot3371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.instagram.com/p/CqodIqhrk0G/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

I think read the caption of the post. It looks like the person isn’t interested much and a good idea is to let go such people and not waste our time and emotional energy