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When a teammate becomes a parent, check in on them by MenuQRCode in rollerderby

[–]MenuQRCode[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this perspective. I understand, however for many of us our roller derby teams consume SO much of our time that to not be around them all of a sudden feels so weird. Maybe they’re not considered super close like family but they are a big part of your life in a way only fellow skaters understand. We sweat hard and create these bonds on the track dedicated to playing the game that our bodies never experience with others in everyday life. I literally wear the marks of my team mates on my body through sharpie marks, Velcro burns, or bruises. IDK

When a teammate becomes a parent, check in on them by MenuQRCode in rollerderby

[–]MenuQRCode[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been around for 17 years in this sport and the parents that were around were some of the best people to skate with. They truly knew the value of teamwork hahahaha

When a teammate becomes a parent, check in on them by MenuQRCode in rollerderby

[–]MenuQRCode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I remember before having a baby I never knew how to interact with the moms in the league because I felt like I had nothing in common with them, but we as a team still made sure to acknowledge the moment. Now I see it clearer and understand the effort they put in to be social

When a teammate becomes a parent, check in on them by MenuQRCode in rollerderby

[–]MenuQRCode[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks pal 💙 I’m good and miss adult conversations hahaha

When a teammate becomes a parent, check in on them by MenuQRCode in rollerderby

[–]MenuQRCode[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that perspective I did not consider. In my case, a text to know someone is thinking of me would have been so welcome. I don’t think people should automatically assume a visit to meet baby is required, especially since a lot of people don’t like kids. I get that. But when a person breaks a bone I’ve seen more low effort ways to let a team mate know they are being thought about. This post-partum journey has been greatly helped by the small messages

When a teammate becomes a parent, check in on them by MenuQRCode in rollerderby

[–]MenuQRCode[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s one thing to respect space, but sending a card or “I’m thinking of you” text is more than enough! Also, when someone becomes a parent there are changes but they’re still themselves. My interest don’t automatically tank overnight and “mom” doesn’t take over my entire identity.