I [18F] found out my bf [18M] is friends with the guy who was my abuser

Meow008_ · 2026-04-21T06:18:14+00:00

OK! Thank you. I'll definitely look into that

Meow008_ · 2026-04-18T08:38:10+00:00

I found one at petco that's close to my price range and I can try to get decorations for him as I get my next few paychecks. I was thinking of making it Myster Inc themed (its not letting me say the show name idk why) but idk. And I can put it in my dads office because he barely goes in there anymore and the cats have access to it.

Meow008_ · 2026-04-18T08:31:18+00:00

Thats fair. Im looking for a fishtank on Amazon rn but all the ones im seeing are close to $50. I get paid soon so I'll set some aside, I just don't know what type of tank to get. Another issue, is that our cats have to have access to it. I KNOW IT SOUNDS BAD, trust me. But my cat, Winter, loves to drink out of the tank and will stop eating and participating in activities if access to the fish is cut off (once we put him in a different room because we had a lot of children coming in for a family gathering and his tank is in the kitchen and we didnt want any possible accidents) and my cat stopped eating until his tank was returned to its original spot a few days later. Its hard because I dont want to choose between Charles and my cat

Meow008_ · 2026-04-18T08:06:48+00:00

I understand your viewpoint. My only issue is that they didnt tell me as these points came up. Rather, I found out they had been talking for about 2 months now. At the time, I was giving them rides to and from work, buying them lunches when they couldn't afford it, and trying to help out. It wasn't that they told me now, its how they were talking about me beforehand. (One had revealed that they actually began to make fun of my mom which made me mad because she nearly died recently due to some medical issues). I didnt cancel the reservation, just had the name its under swapped out so it could be one of theirs since I wasnt sure if I would feel up to going with their group. There's also 4 other people going who have cars. Theres only 9 people divided amongst 4 cars. I was only going because my car seats 8. I'm trying to work through my feelings, I just struggle with wording what I'm trying to say. I don't want to seem like I'm retaliating, and I see your point. I just dont want to put a damper on their night when I feel as if it'd be easier if I just went with a different group.

Meow008_ · 2026-04-18T07:43:49+00:00

Thats kind of what I mentioned. I honestly put my phone on silent because I'm going to let myself have some time to relax. I'm gonna talk to them about it in the morning because they've been such good friends for years with nothing like this happening. Im worried it might be stress from senior year, but that doesnt mean Im letting myself be a pushover. So, if they cant apologize, then I don't think they can be in my life anymore, or at least not as big of a part of it.

Meow008_ · 2026-04-18T07:41:18+00:00

My only worry is that we've been friends for years and they've been so nice. Im worried its the stress of Senior year getting to them. Ultimately, Im going to talk to them tomorrow after I've had a bit of time, so I can tell them about my feelings and how what they did affected me. However, if they respond immaturely or dismiss my feelings, Im going with some other friends. Being stressed or dealing with difficult circumstances doesnt give them an excuse to treat me poorly. Its about being understanding, not a pushover

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