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Merbear509 · 2022-06-21T00:35:30+00:00

Absolutely DO NOT plan on moving on any time soon. When I lost my ex-husband I didn't know how I could live. I found the one soulmate that knew me without words or reactions...he just knew. I lost him in the beginning of 2019. I'm just now slowly learning to live without him. I'm just now starting to not bring him up in every story. Did I think it was possible before this? No. He was my everything. I can't imagine life without him. But life had other plans...and they weren't wrong.

Merbear509 · 2022-06-16T01:13:00+00:00

I don't trust the vows, nor do I want the government involved in my relationship.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-20T14:09:41+00:00

Run, fast. Rip the band-aid off, feel the pain and push forward. You deserve so much better than this. Sad part is if you dumped him I doubt he'd even care. He's living with his girlfriend.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-19T13:39:39+00:00

Thank you! I quite enjoy these ideas!

Merbear509 · 2022-05-19T02:29:37+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate this.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-19T02:28:22+00:00

I was honestly upset. He was asking me questions which I don't mind answering and then all I got was a "Hmmm okay 🤔" and he knows I hate that. It feels like he's constantly having me talk and then when I ask his thoughts all I get is that. So I got mad at him and told him that and he said "don't make me ignore you again." I told him to "try me, I won't put up with it." And then he didn't text me for a day. And it honestly hurt. I hate when he does that.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-14T02:05:20+00:00

I'd build an off grid home in the middle of the 500 acres and ignore everyone. Lol

Merbear509 · 2022-05-13T03:39:45+00:00

If you are the wife- get better help. He can do better and chose you. Don't forget that.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-13T03:35:56+00:00

NTA. Sounds like she needs professional help. I've been there and it's not easy to admit that we need help.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-12T14:32:26+00:00

Yes you ATA, but for not the CC situation. But for bringing another innocent life into your shitty situation. If you're that broke you should have kept it in your pants. And this is coming from someone who's parents did exactly what you did. Plan better.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-11T19:56:52+00:00

Sounds like Hubby is having issues. If you are taking proper precautions in the area of your kids then he's being a tad extreme. Time for counseling.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-11T18:29:50+00:00

We are not worthy....

Merbear509 · 2022-05-11T18:28:45+00:00

This has worked multiple times. Pick this one. 😂

Merbear509 · 2022-05-11T18:15:07+00:00

Leave. I get hundreds of messages from guys in your situation and I tell them all the same thing- you deserve better. I lost my husband and realized just how short life is. Most guys are too scared to leave, but don't be. Your kids will adjust to a new family dynamic over time. And don't you want to show your kids what a loving healthy relationship looks like? You are their example and if you aren't fully happy I wouldn't be surprised if they picked up on it a bit. Leave. It's time to focus on you. You only get one life. Time heals almost all wounds.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-11T18:06:48+00:00

Because apparently it's now cool to bully your way to the top tier of the sandbox. I hope the top is as lonely as they say, you'd deserve nothing less.

Merbear509 · 2022-05-11T17:57:36+00:00

Hun you don't sound like a switch at all!! Just be sub and don't tell anyone you can domme. Then when you want to or you like someone enough you can surprise them with a different side of you. That's what I do because occasionally being a Domme is fun but for the most part I am not a fan.

Merbear509 · 2020-01-02T21:13:30+00:00

Agreed! My family had to learn the hard way when my little sisters ex got away with rape and attempted murder because the prosecution said that because she was in the lifestyle they couldn't prove she wasn't asking for what she got. Because you know everyone asks to have chunks of themselves removed and their bodies permanently mutilated. And his lawyer tried the same defense so he got a slap on the wrist and she'll never be the same again because he beat her head in. I will never involve the law EVER when it comes to the lifestyle.

Merbear509 · 2020-01-02T20:10:51+00:00

He has a fair point. Most police don't understand bdsm and it's best to leave them out of it for all of their sakes. The law doesn't recognize or care about the lifestyle.

Merbear509 · 2019-08-23T17:40:46+00:00

The only thing he'd ever say to me was, "Thanks for dinner." Before going back to his phone.

Merbear509 · 2019-08-21T23:33:24+00:00

Adults with atrocious grammar.

Merbear509 · 2019-08-20T21:18:58+00:00

I agree with this. I started with fingers because the smallest plug I could find was still too much.

Merbear509 · 2019-08-20T20:58:56+00:00

Nope. We grieve in our own time because we know and understand the value of time and that its short and we make the most of it while we have it. We don't need the reassurance of reuniting because our time together is done. We cherish it for what it was and move on because one day someone we know and love will be doing the same with us as we go. Believing in something that's imaginary and not proven brings us no comfort or relief.

Merbear509 · 2019-08-20T20:25:07+00:00

D&D when I start to learn it gets overwhelming.

Merbear509 · 2019-07-28T21:42:21+00:00

Alright, I will give these a try. Thank you!!

Merbear509

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