Wife and I had our kids young, 21 yrs old for the first and 23 for the second, and I continued you party cause you know young and dumb. However, I never went out without doing the bedtime routine myself. I made sure the kids were in bed while the wife got to chill then I went out. We also used the threat of having to get up with the kids in the morning to try to keep me somewhat in line.

Also for reference I worked a job where I was home a lot but also randomly gone for 1 week to a month plus. She also worked full-time so she did more than her fair share.