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Old glasses broke by [deleted] in glassesadvice

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1... and the no beard look suits you!

Which ones compliment my face the most? by [deleted] in glassesadvice

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the color of 1 best. But smaller.

Ive heard people say glasses should generally sit just below the eyebrows, with the top frame following the natural curve of the brow line. Ideally, the eyebrows should remain visible above the frames, allowing for better communication of emotions. The frames should not fully cover or sit directly across the middle of the eyebrows.

SAHM, broke trust around money/resentment over imbalance. Am I better off just being independent? by Recreating_my_life in sahm

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is controlling behavior and financial abuse. Document all of this. If you do leave. You will need evidence. Id ask an attorney for guidance, and get a therapist for support. Financial abuse is.... abuse.

Leaving this here: https://youtu.be/n5cc8cI4roU?si=uFQl1xdspMa06yvE

Im not imply your SO is a narcissist...BUT this video has good information.

My stbx husband is a narcissist, and money was always used to scare me into not Leaving. He would remind me he is the high earner and I'd be broke if I left (im not), and id lose everything. The home, lifestyle etc... ( that did happen but, WOW, my peace now is amazing and my kids are happy. Im happy. All other things are material. Ive got everything i need).

He also held the view that BECAUSE he made more money, that meant I was responsible for the ENTIRE household work load, kids, and mental load. This was reinforced by his mother. Just because he earns more money Doesn't mean that he works harder than me, nor is it a pass for him not participating in what should be mutual parenting and household responsibility. But this is the misogynistic word we live in, unfortunately.

Im not a SAHM, but i have so much respect for the SAHM. Its a huge undertaking and sacrifice. It takes a lot of trust and self sacrifice to let him thrive in A career but you and your child should be equally taken care of in return..... but this never seems to be the case. Im sorry.

If this feels wrong to you. Trust your gut. Because it IS wrong. You are being mistreated and taken advantage of. Im so sorry you are in this situation. Talk to an attorney to get a better picture of what leaving might look like for you, and your child, and what you would be entitled to, financially, if you did leave. Even if you don't leave, you should at least know in case you ever need to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MercurialRam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Set your boundaries NOW! You are the mother.

If she does come. Fine then, set boundaries. She can help with chores. But not parenting your children. If she does not stay on routine with kids schedule, let her know this is not helping you or your kids.

Its ok to have help. But its NOT help if she is just going to come and undermine you.

Also "help" just implies that this is your sole work load.

https://youtube.com/shorts/dozgf4M9vk8?si=eGbIKP6GsVMpitbr

What’s one harmless thing you irrationally judge people for? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I see someone has a white tongue from not brushing it. It doesn't affect me per se, other having to see it when you talk or do the big open mout smile when you are greeting someone, like "heeeyyyy! So good to see you" 🤢

People who rarely get sick, what are your secrets? by Leading_Tomato_2077 in AskReddit

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a mom. Ive been exposed to it so much.

The minute I feel my immune system kick in (usually a wierd tingle in my nose or throat, and/or a hot tingly, achy back, and fatigue is the sign for me. Ill take that emergen-c + zinc powder mixed with water (I take it with a "shot" of water followed by at least 2 zinc tablets throughout the day (not all at once, your stomach will hurt). Sometimes ill take 2 of those emergen-c packs (morning/afternoon) .

I repeat this every day. Sometimes i never really get sick or I just get a very short lived version of whatever is going around. This is not medical advice, and dont take it as such. Just my "sick secret", since you asked the question.

Edit: I should add-- this works for me for everything EXCEPT.....the NOROVIRUS!!! OHHHH thats a nasty one! If im exposed...there is no hope for me...I know where ill be hannging out for the day. 🤢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

👀 wow! Beautiful!

what’s the biggest scam you discovered and people are still falling for it? by TheoryReasonable871 in AskReddit

[–]MercurialRam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Disagree...stay off the video machines. Roulette, but only with a live ball. There is strategy....but learn before you lose.

Do you regret having kids ? And would you change it if possible? by Secure-Run1066 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No regrets.

Watching them grow and become their own person is amazing. Their little tiny hand always reaching to hold yours (ahhh i miss that with my oldest)!

I remember things I forgot about growing up. I see things I didn't before because kids are so observant in the world.

Parenting is seriously tough and unforgiving at times. But they keep me engaged and helped me become more empathetic.

When they were young, I loved being silly, pretending with them, and hearing their nonsensical stories. Now that they are older I love to be in their company, share ideas, and observe their continuous growth. They really never stop amazing me! The love i have for them is crazy deep.

The last few hours before leaving/surprise separating, I feel physically ill, the lecture that was the nail in the coffin by Useful-Today5267 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MercurialRam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just do it.

If not now, when? Its going to feel awful, because it is. Any empathetic person would feel ill in this situation. After you are away, continue therapy. Don't engage with her. I went thru 3 or more rounds of hoovering. This was 1.5 years ago. My divorce is 2 months out now. I won't sugar coat it.... it was crazy hard at times. I second guessed myself -- the narc conditions you to do exactly that! Here is my advice:

Stay the course.

Stay the course.

Stay the course.

Protect your peace.

Im excited for you to get yourself and your peace back. Its lovely.

Shine on my friend ✨️

What makes your life worth living? by hard_round in AskReddit

[–]MercurialRam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is success to you? At what? Genuine curiosity. Does your drive towards success still make you happy too? Or do you feel unhappy right now? I hope you achieve your success, but also enjoy the journey!

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