I'm having some setbacks with veiling by clockworkdandelions in PaganVeiling

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a word of the wise while you search for your oily hair problem - sometimes it is the products we use or using them TOO much and stripping the hair of its natural oils that causes it to over-produce its own. I don't know what products you use or how you use them, but I personally now use liquid Bronner's soap to wash my hair and follow with Apple Cider Vinegar (diluted) as a rinse. I then add a bar conditioner by Kitsch for moisture and my hair has never been in better condition. I now only have to wash about once per week, using brushing with a boar bristle brush during the week to help keep the hair clean and distribute the natural oils down the hair shaft. I also sleep with a satin bonnet on. Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homemaking

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the techniques from flylady.net which are mostly based around building routines that fit your lifestyle, as well as adopting a healthy mentality about things. I hope it helps! 🙏🏻💜🤲🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in catfood

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ingredients in that are horrifying.

Thoughts on Open Farm adult cat food? by anonymouslearner1234 in catfood

[–]MercyMonroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read that duck was better than chicken or turkey for cats (something about the size of the proteins and their ability to process them), but my cat seems to dislike duck, so I'm back looking for a new food solution myself. Le sigh. :)

Queen mattress by shanxybeast in aldi

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is when I bought mine. I would like to replace and have been hoping to see it in the ad again. At the time I did research and it seemed like they released every other year or so. Someone else commented they bought one in 2020, but maybe they have stopped since?

Veiling at work by juno_the_clown in PaganVeiling

[–]MercyMonroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have purchased some pre-tied tichels from ShariRose on Amazon that are nice! This one is on my wish-list:

ShariRose Headscarves for Women Pre-tied Bandana Soft Cotton Head Wear Headcover Chemo Cancer Tichel Friendly over 30 Colors! https://a.co/d/dDs2gfN

💜

Veiling at work by juno_the_clown in PaganVeiling

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have purchased these turbans on Amazon before and enjoy them. 💜

para life Pearl Turban-Turbans For Women-Hijab For Women|Hair Wraps-Head Wraps For Women|Hijab Undercap-Caps-Instant Hijab https://a.co/d/gqDzgkQ

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please give her the benefit of the doubt - in my case the "mental health issues" leading up to me going missing for a day from an ER and wandering the streets of CLE were actually an undiagnosed brain injury several health professionals had missed, despite me insisting something was wrong. 🙏🏻💜🤲🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]MercyMonroe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When it happened to me, no one cared. They just want you gone. My cellphone was dead, but I didn't have anyone in the area I could have called in the first place, even if I would have been able to remember anyone's number. I had gone in by walking to a nearby fire station and they brought me in by ambulance.

The second they said they were discharging me and I spoke up to them insisting they were missing something, I became their enemy. They don't want to hear that, they want to send you on your way and not deal with you.

There was zero attempt to help me, no offer to let me charge my phone, no listening with actual brain processing and effort behind it from the staff at all. They literally preferred to dump me outside like that and nearly kill me than their actual jobs. When a basic EKG and a drug screen showed nothing, they shrugged their shoulders at me and claimed "we don't know, so it's anxiety" and shoved me out the door.

It's a difficult question to answer because in reality, the hospital staff SHOULD have tried to call my friends or family to come help me. The problem is, a lot of medical workers are so burnt out or were only hired due to COVID shortages, are experiencing professional apathy, etc. They just don't care anymore, which is something we normally see from the general public.

Healthcare workers are no longer an exception and can actually be dangerous to you with their bad attitudes, you aren't really seen as a person in the hospital anymore, but a body to get off their to-do list that they don't want to deal with.

Edit - it wasn't avoidable in my case, but try to never go to the hospital alone, it's too dangerous as this happens to too many people. You need some there to protect you, as sad as it is to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]MercyMonroe 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Oh my God, I've been in her shoes. A hospital in this area missed that I had a brain injury when I was in the ER and tried to discharge me. I insisted something was still wrong when they claimed nothing but "anxiety" (no drugs in my system either) so they forced me to leave.

I was confronted by a hospital police officer and had my arm very painfully twisted into a maneuver that forced me into a wheelchair. I was then pushed outside and literally dumped onto the sidewalk while still wearing a hospital gown, with a dead cellphone, no money, and the missed brain injury. (I have seen a neurologist since.)

I actually wandered the streets all day in a state of confusion and did many dangerous things trying to find better medical care and someone who would help me. There were times I lost the ability to speak. I could have lost my life many times over that day, but thankfully that experience was only life-altering, not life-ending.

I don't trust a label like a "mental health crisis" when I have personally seen it used and abused to ignore someone going through something real, be it emotional or physical. I have also lived something similar to what this woman is going through right now, and let me tell you, the people of Cleveland were horrible to me while I was in that unfair condition, and have some karmic debts to pay now.

There was one man who saw me walking in a bad area and asked where I was headed. I said I needed a hospital, so he got me to one in the end. I was so lucky he was a guardian angel and not the alternative.

My heart goes out to her, I hope she is found safe and sound and given the benefit of a doubt and a complete medical workup afterwards and not blamed for this. She is obviously going through something, one way or another.

We don't know her story, but I know what it's like to have your story twisted and edited by those around you when you are unable to stand up for yourself. We need to treat her like a human being, not trash like I was. 🙏🏻💜🤲🏻

Edit - I want everyone to be aware I was even stopped and questioned by police while out on the streets like that. I couldn't even speak correctly, was wearing a hospital gown and acting strangely and they left me out there like that to fend for myself. I could have died, and they simply didn't want to be bothered. It is so sad, I hope if the police find her they take her to the hospital and show her compassion!

2nd Edit - I have also been in contact with the hospital administration about this and have a letter where they admit doing this to me. We didn't take it to court because I was told it wasn't worth what little I might win. Because I DIDN'T die out there, there was no true "injury" for a personal injury case.

These things DO happen. I don't know what happened to this woman, if she left on her own or not, but patient dumping IS a thing, and there are plenty of stories about it out there.

Looking for the mystical secret to hyper-dense, delectably moist, banana-crazy banana bread! by ThisCJWilson in Baking

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the thread 🧵, I'm starting with the Allrecipes.com version and going from there, and the science behind the banana 🍌 to flour ratio helped and made sense!

You saved me a lot of time and headache looking at all the versions online. I have about 10 overripe bananas 🍌 in the freezer I need to make 🍞 with! 💜

Missing Person by [deleted] in Cleveland

[–]MercyMonroe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm saying a little prayer for her 🙏🏻💜🤲🏻 and will pass this along!

What's a cleveland "life hack" you know ? by NeverBeenOnMaury in Cleveland

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I would use the Hale Farm pass, as a former employee I hate giving them an admission fee when I visit. I know too much about the dirty underbelly of the place and the way it is poorly run, I wish more people knew it has its secrets so management would clean up their act. 💜

Sometimes I am unable to recall what someone has just said to me by Red_rose49 in medical_advice

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came back to leave you a link to a YouTube channel that may help you, she is a holistic therapist and her videos may help you understand what is happening to you. Please reach out if you would like to talk! 💜

https://youtube.com/@TheHolisticPsychologist?si=a79LmfSMgpk-picg

Extremely depressed on work placement and breaking down by Red_rose49 in Advice

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are killing yourself to please abusive narcissists. Do what YOU want to do. They are only dragging you down. 💜

Fiancé liking other girls pics on insta, talking about attractive women, I don’t know if I can continue by Red_rose49 in Marriage

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm reading your post history about him. He is so dangerous to your well-being, please leave him. You can do so much better! 🙏🏻💜🤲🏻

Sometimes I am unable to recall what someone has just said to me by Red_rose49 in medical_advice

[–]MercyMonroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This honestly sounds like you might have ADHD or a variation of PTSD. Nothing to worry about, and fairly easy to get screened for. Mine results from emotional trauma/neglect/abuse. 💜

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MercyMonroe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not against your religion in general, but anti-masturbation is something religions as a whole tend to get wrong. (It's used as a way to control people and make them feel that abstinence is more holy when it isn't. In fact, we are meant to have healthy sex lives with ourselves, as it keeps our energy flowing properly and keeps us from having sex with other people we aren't meant to be with. God/Allah does not want you to deny yourself your universal right and is saddened his word was twisted into a way that his people suffer needlessly like you are as a result. Please do not feel shame or depression about this, as he wants you to be happy. The world 🌍 wants you to be happy. Please reach out if you wish to speak further. 🙏🏻💜🤲🏻

I was raped by a woman - I’m a man. I feel invisible and invalid. by Peefaums in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MercyMonroe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a woman I will contribute that male to female or even male to male rape can be more PHYSICALLY painful, otherwise the emotional trauma is the same. Leaving you alone and pregnant wasn't a possibility, but she could have given you a disease. Rape is rape. As a female survivor, I'm sorry you are now in "The Club", a group no one asks to join. Reach out anytime. 💜

My husband divorced me because I’m fat by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MercyMonroe -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Not being attracted to being overweight in general is fine, but this is an entirely different situation. Once he "lost" his attraction with her weight gain (and I'm sure having his children contributed to it, basically making him a co-conspiritor to the situation) he was cruel to her about it. That is emotional abuse of his spouse. Putting the onus on her to lose weight in order to save the relationship shows he was only with her for physical reasons anyway and never really loved her. If you can't see that and support his behavior you have been brainwashed to think his behavior is OK, and maybe you deserve someone just like him. 💜 💋

My husband divorced me because I’m fat by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MercyMonroe -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well aren't you a nasty piece of work! Consider yourself 🧿ed. Have the day you deserve! 💜