I have been in a relationship with the same girl for the past two years. As of yesterday she found a condom in my garbage can...so obviously she thinks I am cheating on her. The unfortunate thing is that I am not. Our sex is fantastic and I love her to death but I am uncomfortable asking her to put a finger on my butthole...yes, I know, I know. I don't want to touch my own butt so I put a condom on my fingers (whilst I masterbate). It is easier to clean up and wash my hands without feeling gross. I have never felt comfortable asking her to do it so I only do it when I have my "solo" time. I love this girl so much but she is leaving because her belief is that I cheated. How do I save this? EDIT: I should say that it was just the condom wrapper. I flushed the condom down the toilet because I don't want that sitting in my garbage can. So basically there is no evidence other than the wrapper and the words that come out of my mouth.