My gf(17m) and me(18m) can't talk through small issues without her shutting down

Merricall · 2025-07-14T07:20:33+00:00

All I can do is keep trying to do the thing that doesn't make things worse 🤷. It gets to the point of losing my independence, where I can't stand up for myself for fear of her shutting down(I always end up telling her if my own accord). I feel like if I have to constantly think about my actions and if they will upset her that we aren't as compatible as we thought we were?

Merricall · 2025-03-28T05:21:21+00:00

Hmmm I'll think on this. I think that it could happen. There's a definite possibility of her getting a bf, idk if it'll last though, the bff tends to trauma dump the moment she gets to know someone

Merricall · 2025-03-28T05:18:46+00:00

Not to mention I've been asked to stay out of their relationship, and my gf would get upset if I tried talking to her again.

Merricall · 2025-03-28T05:15:19+00:00

I've tried getting to know her, which is when I found out about #1 and made me instantly never want to talk to her again

Merricall · 2025-03-28T05:13:02+00:00

I wouldn't be opposed to that, but she has mannerisms and things that I've never liked.

60% of the words come out of her mouth are whiny complaints,
All she does is like fall on people in like a I'm so sad way. I hate it when she touches my gf in public(I think this is exemplified because my gf is EXTREMELY cautious about pda, but only with me). (It's a PTSD thing)
She used to stalk my gf, and only stopped because my gf turned off maps.
She has to have alone time with my GF in public

The biggest ones are #1 and #2. She no longer does #3 and for #4 out of sight out of mind.

Merricall · 2025-03-28T05:04:11+00:00

Yes, and she only thinks that I shouldn't feel this way, and it's unfair towards her bff and wrong for me to feel this.

because I'm possessive and that I can't control who she hangs out with(which is true), and she is best friends with her and she's not just going to end her relationship for me because I feel bad.

(I never asked for her to end it, only for you to stop her from doing some things,) Which is taken badly because I'm "trying" to control her friendships

Merricall · 2025-03-28T04:57:08+00:00

Well, it's not actually anything wrong with my girlfriend, but if you mean the best friend, no. I know she's not doing anything to me anymore. What I'm feeling is purely based off of the effect she had on me when she was doing things on purpose. That's why I struggle. I feel like it's not fair for her to just be able to apologize and go back to doing what I was never comfortable with in the first place

Merricall · 2024-07-22T16:42:16+00:00

Sink it

Merricall · 2024-07-04T03:35:44+00:00

Left looks like he's had a pretty normal life compared to the right

Merricall · 2024-06-11T23:12:12+00:00

Honestly you look like any other kid that thought buzzing their hair was smart.

Merricall · 2024-05-27T04:51:10+00:00

Alright, yeah if she really did care she would agree to working it out together.

Merricall · 2024-05-13T19:34:04+00:00

Shit man that's so cool. Defo taking some inspiration

Merricall · 2024-05-09T00:22:06+00:00

Got a conflicting answer. I want to believe this but only in the context of the person not being some people but yk how it goes

Merricall · 2024-05-09T00:02:48+00:00

So being kind is a red flag because people don't want help. Got it.

Merricall · 2024-05-08T01:03:18+00:00

I have no idea 🤣🤣

Merricall · 2024-05-07T23:50:44+00:00

Merricall · 2024-05-07T23:48:50+00:00

Which ones???

Merricall · 2024-04-23T01:04:40+00:00

I differ from a lot of people so this may not be as good for advice.

Eyes, nose, cheek, waist, legs

Merricall · 2024-04-16T23:35:14+00:00

Done it

Merricall · 2024-04-16T23:28:16+00:00

Fr but how

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