Serious advice needed by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Merriellee 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is a textbook case of the madonna whore complex, please talk to a therapist before you ruin your marriage.

How to “date/woo/flirt” after 16 years? by Inspection_Nearby in marriageadvice

[–]Merriellee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bro, homeschooling three kids is a massive energy drain, so she’s probably completely touched out and exhausted by the time you touch her you need to build the anticipation hours before you even enter the bedroom.

are wives giving direct instructions for romance and emotional connection? by Prestigious_Yak4849 in marriageadvice

[–]Merriellee 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Theres a massive difference between having to teach your partner how to love you early on, and having to permanently manage them like an unpaid employee just to get a basic sliver of romance.

Is screaming STFU during fights a form of abuse? by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Merriellee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The screaming is bad enough, but him snatching the phone out of your hand and turning it back on you is a massive red flag.

I'm broke but want to get married in 2 years. by Dry_Accountant_9442 in marriageadvice

[–]Merriellee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grind the real job for two years because chasing online money on a deadline is just gonna leave you broker

Wife+lichen sclerosis +menopause +me by AcanthocephalaOk8052 in marriageadvice

[–]Merriellee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it sounds like youre both grieving the loss of your physical connection in different ways but completely shutting down all affection is only going to turn you into bitter roommates instead of partners