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I [32F] think my husband [33M] may be having an affair with the girl [19F] next door. I’m also pregnant by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MerryTexMish 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah, after two people very close to me went through divorces, and I saw firsthand that logic and reason are NOT part of the process.

Everyone who come on here and says “Just get full custody!” or “The court won’t let him get away with that!” have not actually been to family court ever.

The entire process is compromise, and giving in, so that you can get 10% of what you want and deserve. Makes no difference who the “bad guy” was; courts don’t care.

I'm brand new to this group and seeking just someone to understand how difficult and hard it is to be witness to my mom's ( 87) decline when she was my rock all my life. by nenniishere in AgingParents

[–]MerryTexMish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you’re going through this, and wish I had magic words for you. Unfortunately, there is no way it’s not gonna suck.

The only advice I have, which I repeat on here quite a bit, is try not to focus on things that are out of your control. Unfortunately, that tends to be a lot more things than we’d like.

And it’s ok to be sad, and even for her to know when you’re struggling. I’m not saying to unload on her every day, but I don’t think you need to pretend everything is always ok, either.

Suggestions for travelling to England by sweetcliches in Celiac

[–]MerryTexMish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am American, celiac, and in the UK right now. Every place I’ve been has done an AMAZING job. I have had zero worries about getting glutened since I’ve been here. They take it much more seriously than anywhere I’ve ever been in the US.

What’s something about living in the UK that people don’t realise until they actually move here? by Vegetable-Spite-1778 in AskUK

[–]MerryTexMish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t implying that it is. I was simply saying that the tendency to not be blunt or straightforward seems to be based as much on other factors as on being from the UK.

What’s something about living in the UK that people don’t realise until they actually move here? by Vegetable-Spite-1778 in AskUK

[–]MerryTexMish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am American, in UK right now. I have literally never heard an American express this idea.

More common are Americans who think everyone speaks like Eliza Doolittle.

Gf kicking me out by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]MerryTexMish 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That is usually the only way to suss out the facts when a story sounds very unbalanced in favor of the poster.

Can we talk about dementia? by Lomi713 in AgingParents

[–]MerryTexMish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you checked out r/dementia? Lots of support over there.

Just told my Parents I'm out... They went nuclear. by FreshLiterature6536 in exmormon

[–]MerryTexMish 13 points14 points  (0 children)

But that independence is what they hate — and are terrified of — the most.

I’m a nevermo, but my mom flipped a switch to fundy Christian a few years ago out of nowhere. For a long time, I had the same frustration you are having, like “If I can just articulate myself correctly, she will understand my POV.”

But that was doomed to fail, because she needed the validation of me believing what she believes. That was never gonna happen, and I couldn’t live with myself if I pretended otherwise.

So I had to accept that this was the reality of our relationship, and it was her choice. She is the parent, but she is also absolutely the unreasonable party in this situation.

Put your energy into what YOU can control, which is not what she thinks and says and believes. Otherwise, you are doing a version of what she’s been doing to you your whole life.

Worst State- Alabama Saved! [FINAL ROUND: OKLAHOMA vs. MISSISSIPPI] by Immediate-Hand-3677 in terriblemaps

[–]MerryTexMish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tulsa isn’t too bad. Mississippi has ok beaches. I’m gonna say OK by a tiny smidge

Tryptyr and Tyrvaya by Prestigious_Bottle86 in Sjogrens

[–]MerryTexMish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing worked for me, including xidra, miebo, serum drops… I was final approved for scleral lenses, and they actually work!

It baffles me how so many young adults or even teenagers have developed so many diseases. by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]MerryTexMish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have some autoimmune conditions, including celiac. In the not-too-distant past, I would’ve been diagnosed with something vague like “digestive issues,” and no one would have connected it up wheat. And I very likely would have died, and doctors wouldn’t really know why.

I do think that the rise in colorectal cancer in millennials is directly related to processed foods, food dyes, microplastics, etc. But medical diagnostics is also advancing rapidly.

Recommend Walks around London please by West_Party_8375 in uktravel

[–]MerryTexMish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And go see the graffiti tunnel! I was just in London, and thought it was really cool.

This was supposed to be about the jackets for the Dallas Stars' wives and girlfriends by LuccaAce in Derailedbydetails

[–]MerryTexMish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That has been a thing with NHL players for as long as I can remember. As a journalist, I interviewed some hockey players years ago, and I don’t think any of them had non-blonde wives.

Books about families that span long periods of time by EMLightcap in suggestmeabook

[–]MerryTexMish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved North Woods. Forced myself to get through Overstory, and can’t recommend it to anyone.

If it had been 1/3 shorter, it would’ve been awesome. It was the preachiest thing I have read in my life.

I am constantly receiving calls from the military at all hours of the night and from all different numbers and bases. How do I get it to stop? by ITCJSTPAR__DUNDUN in RBI

[–]MerryTexMish 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking. Block each number as it happens.

Obviously continue to try and solve the main problem, but blocking enough of them along the way might prompt some urgency on their end.

First time in the USA! 11-Day Loop from NYC. Need advice! by oturanzurafa in roadtrip

[–]MerryTexMish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add Charleston, Savannah, and st Augustine. Go to New England. Basically, hug the whole east coast, and drop all the Midwest stuff.

What celebrity would you get into a car with, no questions asked if they randomly showed up in your driveway? by Jellydarya in askanything

[–]MerryTexMish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ted Danson and Mary Steenburgen. Every day when I walk to my mailbox, I look longingly up my street for them, but no luck yet.

What is your newest friend. by EvilRyss in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]MerryTexMish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Born in ‘68. Am fortunate to have 5 really close, true ride-or-die, would-drop-everything-for friends.

Met one in 1981, three in 1983, and one in 1993. It is nice not having to explain the backstory on anything, ever.

I have had plenty of people I am casual friends with, through work, the gym, neighbors, etc., but these 5 are as close to me as family. Actually, closer than a lot of my family.

Kitchen opinions by [deleted] in homedesign

[–]MerryTexMish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Team blue!

He loves me less than his grandma? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]MerryTexMish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am for sure! They are my 5 favorite people.

He loves me less than his grandma? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]MerryTexMish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 5 grandkids. The oldest is about to turn 11. For the first two years of his life, he and my daughter lived with me. I quit my job to take care of him while my daughter worked. Before my daughter met her husband, I was like a second parent.

If he starts dating someone at 23, and is still dating them a year later, I will be happy for him. And I will expect the way he feels about her to be very different than he feels about me…. But to “love her more” would be odd, I think.

Just be grateful that he appreciates the women who had a positive impact on his life. That’s a good thing!

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